How can I find a boyfriend in a chat room?
First, you must ask yourself: what type of a boyfriend are you hoping to meet in a chat room? If you mean simply a guy you can chat with because you do not have many male perspectives in your life, then this might be a good option. However, if you think you might be looking for romantic love in a chat room, seriously, I would not take a chat room that seriously. The Internet is a fun way to meet people who share your interests, but finding a boyfriend in a chat room should not be your main goal in life. If you go on a chat room with the primary purpose of meeting men, well it will show right away. The type of men who are up for this arrangement are most likely looking for a casual relationship, but you might find a few serious ones along the way. Just do not expect prince charming to be awaiting your arrival in the chat room, as he may have been scared off by the bots. The question is: Why do you want to meet a boyfriend in a chat room? Have you tried online dating sites like Eharmony and match.com, which are actually geared towards meeting potential dates online? Maybe you could try plentyoffish.com if paying to date online is not your cup of tea. The bottom line is trying to find a chat room is not the easiest thing to do, but I do know some people who have found dates on these chat. One man dated a woman for six years he met on a chat room, but this was before the days of 2.0 social networking sites like Facebook and Myspace.
Those Who Hate Bars
Many of us hate bars and we are definitely not social butterflies, so chat rooms would be a better place to meet men. The only problem with a chat room is you will have to do more sleuthing to figure out who the person you are talking to really is because it is much easier to lie online, whereas in person you can determine what a person looks like right away. If appearances are not important to you then this may not matter, but do not expect a guy you meet in a chat room to be six foot two just because he typed this on the screen. He can provide you with a picture, but both women and men are known to lie about their appearances online. Some even may send you an outdated picture, so if you are big on looks, the chat rooms and the Internet in general may not be the best method for finding dates.
Also, another thing about chat rooms is that many users are not people, but bots. The bots will try to get you to visit a site off of the chat room, and often these sites are about hooking up or dating, and usually very adult oriented sites. This is okay if you enjoy navigating through all the bots on a Yahoo or AIM chat room to find the real people, but it may take a few minutes to say the least.
Some have argued that chat rooms are a thing of the past and most people network on Myspace and Facebook these days, but there are still a few people to be found on chat rooms. However, unless you are looking to start up a long distance relationship with someone on the other side of the world then chat rooms may not be the way to go.
Try To Find Local Chat Rooms
Long distance relationships usually do not work out, well unless, you are interested in helping someone apply for a visa, and are willing to marry them so they can become a citizen in your country. I actually chatted with a few guys a couple of years ago who were very sweet and sincere, or so I thought at the beginning. Over a couple of months they buttered me up with compliments and then boom, one asked me if I could sponsor him for a visa. Another time the guy asked me if I could send him money for a test. I also chatted with a man who bought a Russian woman a plane ticket, but guess who was not on the plane when it landed? She probably used the money to take her friends out to lunch, and laughed at him for being trusting enough to fall for her scam.
This may sound very gullible to some, but when you are single and not meeting anyone on the dating scene, well then a friendly person in a chat room can sometimes charm you, into doing things that are against your better judgment.
This is exactly how many men and women have been duped into sending people money via those scams that we hear so much about on the net. I have always been able to step back and not fall for these type of scams myself, but a couple of years ago I do admit to being charmed by the things someone said to me on the computer. When they asked for money it was over, but it is a real thing to be aware of when dating people you meet on a chat room. Yes there is such a thing as cyber dating, and people can often spend more time video chatting with each other then some couples do on in rendezvous.
Many of us introverts do not easily meet people in person, so the Internet has been a way to meet potential dates. Unless you have a large circle of friends and can always ask people to set you up, then dating in person can be hard. Online dating is not for losers or social outcasts as many portrayed it to be in years past, but it does take a longer time to meet potential dates online. I personally do not think a chat room is the best place to meet potential dates, but over the years I have met some good friends this way. My very good Australian friend who I enjoy talking to over three years, well I met him on a Myspace chat room. Today Myspace does not even host chat rooms, which shows more and more these are being displaced with the new social media. You can still meet friends on chat rooms today, but contending with all the bots is not exactly my cup of tea.
Of course it would be nice to meet a man in person at Starbucks, but many of us women are not just going to go up to random men and ask them out. Many men would not want to do that either, so in this case the Internet is a good alternative for those who do not have a large pool of potential dates in their day to day life. I would just caution using the chat rooms, and regard these as more of a way to meet international friends than dates. Often you can still meet local men on the more localized chat rooms, but in this day in age those chats are harder to find. Try to meet friends of friends through Facebook, or try to connect with locals through Myspace. Does anyone have a happy ever after chat room story to share? We would be very interested to hear one.
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