How can you make more friends?

How can you make more friends?

When I was around ten years old, our family friend given us a little white -haired pup. I saw him growing up in front of me. He was the one of the joy of my childhood. Every afternoon, he would sit in the front yard with his beautiful eyes staring steadfastly at the path. As soon as he see me coming from my school, he was off like a shot, racing breathlessly running through the way to greet me with leaps of joy and barks of sheer ecstasy. When I get within ten feet of him, he will begin to wag his tail. If you stop and pat him, he will almost jump out of his skin to show you how much he likes you. And you know that behind this show of affection on his part, there are no ulterior motives: He dosen't want to sell you any computer or insurance, and he doesn't want to marry you.

Dominic was my constant companion for many years. He never read a book on psychology. He didn't need to. He knew by some divine instinct that he can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than he can in two years by trying to get other people interested in him. A hen has to lay eggs, a cow has to give milk. But a dog make his living by giving you nothing but love.

We want to sell, we want to get married, we want to attract women, we want many thing but still we are not able to use the much needed tool to get along with friends and relatives. Unconditional Love is the only tool which can produce more results than any other things. Remember "You reap what you saw" It's a golden rule.


Apostle Paul said about Love: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

Say to your loved one that I love you!


Courtesy

Another way to keep a friendship is to be courteous. Rudeness is the cancer that devours friendship. Everyone knows this. We are polite to our strangers than we are to our own friends. We should not open our friends mail without permission or do not pay attention to their personal secrets. Do not laugh at the trivial faults of our friends.

Dorothy Dix said: "It is amazing but true thing that practically the only people who ever say mean, insulting wounding things to us are those or our own households".

"Courtesy is that quality of heart that overlooks the broken gate and calls attention to the flowers in the yard beyond the gate" Says Henry Clay Risner. Courtesy is just as important to marriage as oil is to your motor.

There are few tips to make more friends.

1. Spend more time around people: Make every efforts to go out and meet people who are around your locality. Sitting inside your flat or house and watching TV or playing Computer games will not bring friends to your house. You must go out and spend time with people. Take interest in their interests. Let them know you that you are a true friend. A friend in need is the friend in deed.

2. Be yourself.
Remember, you cannot hide your true self for a long time. It is irritating to see some one who is not honest. No one will believe in you. If there is no faith in between two persons, your friendship will grow cold. Do not think a friendship is a one way. If it is so, it will not last. While receiving help from others, you are supposed to extend a helping hand to others as well.

3 Be a volunteer.
Volunteering is a great way for people of all ages to meet others. By volunteering you will find people who have similar passion and vision. Working together with such people will build bonds with people of same interest. You will get satisfaction as well as find people who admire you for the social work you are doing. It is a great way to make new friends.

4. Another way to make friends is to Talk to people.
In the middle of the crowd, you could be a stranger, if you are not willing to open your mouth. You may be in the church or a club, still you feel that you are a stranger there, it is not because they are your enemies or strangers. If you are not interested in starting a friendly conversation, you will remain a stranger. Be out spoken is the outstanding quality of persons who have more friends. When you stand in line for getting your ticket, you can start a friendly conversation with the person who stand before or after. When you visit the grocery store, you can talk to the Clark at the store. A little conversation and acquaintance can build a lasting friendship. Don't be too reserved.

5. Be reliable: To keep your friendship, you need to be reliable on everything. If you agreed to meet your friend, don't be late or make your friend to wait for you unexpectedly. If you realize that you would not be able to keep your promise, inform your friend as soon as you realize that you could not make it and apologize and ask to reschedule. It can avoid unwanted waiting and broken relationship. If you agreed to do something, do it. If you can't do that tell him/her openly.

6. Join a musical Class or Sports Team:
To make new friends, you can join a musical class where you can learn to play musical instruments or singing. You don't have to be a musician to do that. If you have some interest in learning, age would not be a barrier. Learning and playing musical instruments will keep you mentally fit. At the same time you can develop friendship with fellow learners. Or you can join local sports team where you enjoy sports. You don't have to be an expert in the sports. Your team mates would be happy to teach you the techniques of the sports while playing. At the same time you can develop good friendship. It will keep you fit physically.

7. Be a good Listener.
Being a good listener can increase the friendship. Many a times peoples wants to share their thoughts and feelings. They need a person to share it. If you carefully listen what is said, they feel that you are a great friend. They do not want you to do anything. They only need a listener. During the time of Civil war, Abraham Lincoln asked one of his neighbor in Springfield, Illinois to visit him. When the fried came Lincoln talk about the proclamation freeing the slaves. Lincoln talk about the argument for and against such a move, and the read newspaper articles and letters denouncing him for not freeing the slaves and others denouncing him for fear he was going to free them. Without asking the opinion of the guest, Lincoln did all the talking. He wanted a good listener to whom he could unburden himself. Around us, there are people who need a good listener. A hurt friend and an irritated customer need a good listener.

8. Make your friends feel that they are important to you.
Desire to be important is one of the human nature, deepest urge that exist withing almost all of us. If you treat your friends as less important to you, they would not be with you for a long time. Nobody wanted to be mistreated. Be careful in treating your friends as important as yourself. Do not allow them to wait for you. Be punctual in your appointments. Not only to have a good friends, but also for having a great family life, you need to use the strategy of making other feel important to you. Jesus said that "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you" Every one of us wanted to be treated as important. In your family, in your society, in your work place you desire to be treated as important. If you like to be treated important, others also have the same desire as you have.

9. Appreciate your friends
Appreciate your friends for being with you as a friend. A sincere and hearty appreciation will keep them with you. You do crave sincere appreciation, but you don't want to listen to cheap, insincere flattery. All of us want hearty appreciation and lavish praise. If you like that, do it to others too. They too love to be appreciated.

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lctodd1947 6 years ago from USA

Jacob, another good hub. It is true our furry friends do not require anything of us but love. I have one of those little guys also and he is a delight, but he is red.

Thanks so much


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jacobkuttyta 6 years ago from Delhi, India Author

Thanks Ictodd1947 for your visit and comment.


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drbj 6 years ago from south Florida

Hi, Jacob, When you write about a dog giving you love without expecting anything in return, I think of the story about the difference between cats and dogs It is said that if the owner of a dog dies, the dog will stay with him until help comes or the dog dies. When the owner of a cat dies, the cat will stay with him until help comes or the cat gets hungry.


"Quill" 6 years ago

if you care for your pet, dog or cat they will respond to you. Trust is something that comes over time, it is built until all doubt and fear is gone.

Get an abused dog and see it take that much longer for them to become attached.

Cat or dog, rabbit or fish, there needs to be trust built first. It is the same with people,

Blessings


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sheila b. 6 years ago

Nice. I feel good after reading this.


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ehern33 6 years ago

I agree with you here and I get the point being made. I got my dog at a shelter and she was abused. Finally after many months of unconditional love, she started to turn around and now behaves exactly like your puppy when you were growing up. As with humans, we are very complicated and influenced by our surroundings, news, events, bad and good. Trust is something you have to build and constantly work on. Eventually it pays off. Great hub..


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Michael Shane 6 years ago from Gadsden, Alabama

Very true! This was a nice heartfelt hub....


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bobluisusa 6 years ago from Edison

Very nice hub dear!


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Wealthmadehealthy 6 years ago from Somewhere in the Lone Star State

What a beautiful hub!!! just beautiful....a good read on valentines day....


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theirishobserver. 6 years ago from Ireland

Love the pup, my dog is now 1 year old and so I can understand the bond between people and pets....I could have read more....great work


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samboiam 6 years ago from Texas

Enjoyed this hub very much. Thanks for sharing.


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Moulik Mistry 6 years ago from Burdwan, West Bengal, India

Very well told - I quite agree with you...


Daniel Loves 6 years ago

great words, great message. helped remind me of things i forget to remind myself everyday, like the simple truths of loving friends, family and allowing people to love who i am, with the faults and all


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Teresa Laurente 6 years ago from San Antonio, Texas, U.S.A.

Yes, it is really true and I can never agree with you more on this. People are the highest forms of animals as we have this gift called wisdom of judgement between right and wrong. As animals we have instinct too. And trust is no difference in all of us, even for the birds and the fish. Beautiful thought my friend, Jacobkuttyta


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stars439 6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

Every day is a wonderful joy in our home because of our loving cats. We have ten of them. They always give us love. You are so right, and this is a wonderful message to give. God Bless You dear heart.


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rose56 6 years ago

Good hub cheers


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jacobkuttyta 6 years ago from Delhi, India Author

Thanks all for your kind visit and positive feedback

May God Bless you all

Thanks once again


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nikitha p 6 years ago from India

nice hub! I like it.


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jacobkuttyta 5 years ago from Delhi, India Author

Thanks Nikitha p for your kind visit and comment.

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