How to Ask a Girl For a Date

The courtship game played by future couples...

In courtship a man pursues a woman until she catches him. Proverb Quotes
In courtship a man pursues a woman until she catches him. Proverb Quotes

This Hubs contain tips that will hopefully boosts your chances of nailing coveted date with the girl of your dreams.

What separate a man from the boys; one of the answer perhaps would be marrying the girl of his dreams after tough grind from years or months of courtships and maintaining affectionate relationship. However to get through the uppermost ladder rung one should withstand the ordeals of asking for a date. For a starter, asking for a date is very fragile for a simple mistake could spill disaster that could ruin chances of winning the heart of his coveted dream girl.

The very first date will go down as one of your most unforgettable moments. This is actually an opportunity to get to know each other exploring each other’s likes and dislikes, interests and even hobbies. So its all worth your effort to be at your best when dating.


To ask a date (for guys) there are certain rituals that should be followed to allow smooth transition of sequences before asking someone for a date. Here are some tips that will help you boosts your chances to nail date with your cherished girl.

1. Find the right girl for you. Aside from physical appeal and personality, you might consider her values, relationship with God and nice attributes (like sense of humor, friendly, talented, and smart).

2. Venue. A dinner in a restaurant is a brilliant idea but make sure you choose the most suited place and time of your date. If you’re going to watch a sports event the location and time have been all set by you smoothly.

3. Get the Facts. Be sure the time, date and place of your date is safely written in a small paper which you can readily place in your wallet for future need or store the information in your mind, if you have a sharp memory. If the girl turned down your offer for a date, it is a good idea to keep on courting her who knows you’ll hit the jackpot sooner or later, but if you see signs that the girl is not interested in you it’s about time to find another girl.

4. How to Give Invitation in a Nice Manner. Asking her for a date is the most thrilling yet trickiest part of the courting process, because most of us are afraid of getting rejected. Approach her and offer a date when she is alone, this is the perfect time to have a conversation and to give invitaion. Some would use phone to ask instead of doing it in person. While during conversation with the girl, try to be polite and clever, listen carefully and laugh at all her jokes even they are corny when necessary.

Avoid making questions about personal habits and schedule, that’s none of your business. Don’t be negative with all of your replies. Don’t ask questions that can be answered with short answers like Yes or No.

Make your invitation as if she’ll like to accept it, hehehe, like with the phrase “Would you mind going to a Chinese Restaurant, I’ve heard that they have great menus to choose from, I think it would be great if you’d like to go with us/me".

While talking to her remember not to get intimidated, don’t talk too fast, don’t mumble as if you don’t know what you’re doing this will surely get her disappointed.

5. The Much-Awaited Girl’s Answer. If she said yes, congratulations you made it, but hide your excitement, avoid being too grateful. This reaction might give her an impression that you have never dated before, nyahahaha.

Make sure you get all the necessary details she needs to know, where to meet her, will you use a car to pick her up, does she need to be formal with her dress, etc.

If she however, declined you, pay attention to her answer and statements. Don’t get very disappointed when she says no, instead of getting lonely, stay calm and put your act together then ponder and analyze on the "No" answer she gave you. Did she said “No and It’s final!” or “I’m afraid I can’t go out with this time, I hope you’ll ask me again next time.”

The “No, its final,” this response mean she has no time and not keen on making time for a date. However, with this reply: “I’m afraid I can’t go out with you this time, I hope you’ll ask me again next time,” response shows bright hope since the gal is interested and want to go out with you in a right time.

Here are things to remember while you’re on a date:

“This is courtship all the world over - the man all tongue; the woman all ears” --- Emily Murphy
“This is courtship all the world over - the man all tongue; the woman all ears” --- Emily Murphy

  1. Be the best man you can be, Make sure that you’re always ahead of the girl, open the door for her everytime, offer and arrange the seat for her, assist her when necessary, know when to say "Excuse me" and "Thank you" at the right place at the right time.
  2. Be yourself; don’t sound as if you’re boasting while talking. Be calm all the time, its okay to be slightly nervous at start but as your conversation goes further try to feel comfortable and relax.
  3. Be polite and clever with your conversation.
  4. Pay attention to what she is saying and reply her with plausible and smart answers.
  5. Laugh at all her jokes nyahahaha, girls love this much even most of them are corny. Also use your sense of humour if you have some nyahahaha.
  6. Bring with you some gifts like a stuff toy, a bouquet of flower, chocolates or anything that would give good impression about you and could lift her spirits up.
  7. Fetch the girl to her home and be very thankful to her. Ask her again for a date in advance.
  8. Use spontaneity in your actions. Let your behavior reflects you really appreciate being with her.
  9. Don’t plan too much about your itinerary. Let both of your mood dictate your activity, but always keep on mind your safety.
  10. Be responsible for all of your actions; always keep on mind the consequences if you’ll commit mistakes in your date, you might end up a goner nyahaha, be careful. Goodluck.

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TheExpertise 5 years ago

nice... but you should try reading my post maybe it can shed some more light on the female mind....plus the more i learn from other peoples views the better i can please any women...the female mind is like art..i happen to be a pua (pickup artist) so the more info the better...


Anonymus 5 years ago

Sir/Madam pls i dont know what to do? But m sharing it with you.... HOpe to get an perfect answer..

M 22 years old. M a student.. Actually i dont know why its me?? but the thing is i dont have any friends, have casual friends who are busy engaged with their life. SO its mere possible for them to spend time with me... M so alone.. so later on i came up with an idea that lets find love for me.. after all u mite have heard these lines -"I've got everything in this world a man could ever want if u search deeper inside me all i really need is love from u.."

SO thought of making a Girl Friend... M not looking for any physical relationship. but wat i want is LOVE which is missing in my life... i dont hav girl friend.... People call me stud.. but wats wrong... The adults around me i.e., lecturers and other people they call me well behaved they find me great to have person... And person like me proposed nearly 5-7 girls none of them said yes to me...


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GeneralHowitzer 5 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines Author

That was so cool DTH, thanks for the visit though...


DrTopHat 5 years ago

I find it surprisingly easy to ask the girl out if you are deep in conversation. Real life example, I was talking to this girl and said something to upset her, I truly was upset that I did that so I said,

"Ill do anything to make it up to you."

she"you dont have to make it up to me, its alright."

Me"oh well i was going to ask you something but nevermind"

she"wat"

Me"I was going to ask you to homecoming but..."

got my first date with that


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GeneralHowitzer 6 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines Author

@macgrady - just be yourself and dont get nervous... you may ask someone to give a letter from you signifying your intention of dating her or muster enough strength to say it her while she is not busy or alone... The first step is always the most difficult but if you overcome this it is okay from then on...thanks for the visit though...


mcgrady 6 years ago

hei, im afraid of calling this girl i like, but i wan't to go on a date with her. what can i do. need some new advice pleas ! :)


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GeneralHowitzer 7 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines Author

Hehehe yeah you're right that's Western way of courtship hehehe, i'm more with the conservative ways... yhanks for dropping by...


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landthatilove 7 years ago from ohio

Good advice, But maybe you should have said. "Keep your paws to yourself". Let her be the one who draws near. If she wants physical contact, she will give a clear signal. Women don't want to be pawed. Well some might but is that the type of gal you really want to have around? A cold fish is of course another story. YOu will just have to give it time to find out.


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GeneralHowitzer 7 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines Author

Nyahahaha you just made my stomach ache. Im on a ROFL right now blackmailer... good thing you drop by hmmm, gotta look at your hubs now and see what's new...


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emievil 7 years ago from Philippines

hehehe good to hear that. I can use this as blackmail material LOL. j/k


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GeneralHowitzer 7 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines Author

No nyahahaha thanks for dropping by emievil.


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emievil 7 years ago from Philippines

Hmmmm, hey GH, does your gf know that you're an expert in asking girls out? LOL.


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GeneralHowitzer 7 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines Author

Thanks for dropping by and commenting there dear friend...


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Philipo 7 years ago from Nigeria

Nice tips.


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GeneralHowitzer 7 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines Author

@dohn121 --- thanks for the comments and hmmm viewpoint about courtship... i hope the reader of this article will read your great ideas about courtship hehehe...

You have a fantastic experience with courtship nyahahaha, but i hope you'll find the right girl for you though...

Thanks for dropping by pal, and I appreciate your tips very well...

@Gemsong - oh thank you there gemsong... thanks for finding time to comment on my article. TLC theree always...


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Gemsong 7 years ago from Richmond, Virginia

I am fowarding this hub to couple of friends who are always asking my advice on this manner. Maybe they'll accept it better from a guy than me. :)


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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

I've not had the problem of asking girls out on a date, GH. Just problems keeping them in a relationship! LOL Thanks for all your good tips. I usually play the "funny" card. Girls love guys who can make them laugh.

Another good tip that I picked up over the many years (most of which were embarrassingly unsuccessful) is to make consistent eye contact with the girl. Don't glare at her, but at the same time, don't look away for long periods of time, as this will make her think that you're either uninterested, shy, is lacking in self confidence, or a dork! Girls can smell fear in a man. Girls want strong minded confident men in their lives. Even if you don't know what the hell you're saying, pretend like you do.

I don't want to get stabbed in my sleep for saying too much, so I'll stop now! Thanks for the good, solid advice, GH! I look forward to the day you finish the challenge! You're gonna feel great when you do!

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