5 Tips to Attract the Man of Your Dreams
Finding Mr. Right
Most women dream of the day they will attract the man of their dreams. Many describe a man who is "tall, dark, handsome, (preferably) rich, sensitive, loves kids, has an advanced degree and loves his mom." I've described this same man, listened to my friends describe men of similar ilk and pondered, plotted and schemed about how to meet this mystery man. Here, after watching (and experiencing) numerous disappointments on the dating scene, are my five top tips for attracting the man of your dreams:
1. Be Indifferent
Men hate desperate women. The only thing they hate more than desperate women are those who are only attracted to them because they embody the above-mentioned traits. Men find women attractive who are not only unimpressed with their wealth and good looks, but treat them as if they are just some average Joe. Men love a challenge. Don't you dare let them tell you anything different. Sure, let them have your number and even be nice to them, but just because they call doesn't mean you have to always be available. Don't play hard to get, be hard to get.
2. Be Fabulous
When you finally allow your mystery man the pleasure of your company, be fabulous. Be well-dressed, polite, polished, erudite and sophisticated. You don't need anyone to save you, for heaven's sake, you need someone to appreciate all that you are. Do you think a man is more likely to appreciate you if you are dressed in yesterday's sweats or if you are dressed in today's fabulously attractive evening gown, the perfect pair of jeans or the best accessories you can afford? You don't have to make a lot of money, but you should look like you are well worth every penny you spent.
3. Be Mysterious
Don't tell him every little thing about you on the first date or on the first two to three dates. As a matter of fact, you never need to tell him everything. Believe me, he is not interested in why or how your ex-boyfriend mistreated you, how much you hate your co-worker or the digestive problems of your precious Feefee. He is interested in you. In the adventure of knowing you. In the excitement of uncovering you (figuratively of course) all for himself. You can and should confide in him as time goes by, but for heaven's sake, let some time go by before you start revealing your deepest secrets.
4. Be Open
Having said the previous about being mysterious, you still want to be as open and honest about who you are and what you stand for. A man usually wants to know you have an opinion (though he's not always interested in you sharing it with him). Most men have a lot of respect for women who know their own minds and I'm sure you know yours. Know when to speak and when to let his remarks roll right over you. Everything he says does not merit a lengthy response when a simple yes or no will do. You should never, however, lie to your dream guy or mislead him about some significant event in your life. For example, if he asks you if you have ever been married, it's okay to say yes, but it's not okay to immediately give him the details of your last three failed unions. He'll find that out soon enough if he sticks around long enough to get to know you.
5. Be Yourself
It's important as you get to know this man that you are not a carbon-copy of Paris Hilton, Angelina Jolie or Michelle Pfieffer. You are you - wonderful, unique, incredible you. And if that's not good enough for him, then he is not good enough for you. Believe me, you don't want to start the relationship being someone else, because then you'll have to live up to it at a later time. By being yourself and fully unique, you'll present him with the opportunity to fully appreciate you for the person you truly are. You are worth it.
Just make sure your mystery man shares your opinion.
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