How to Date a Man Who Would Never Cheat on You

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A healthy relationship is the stepping-stone to a person’s physical and emotional health and well-being.

So, the question is: How to remove a man from your life who would cheat in a relationship?

This will avoid the heartaches and the drama, which involves tears, and the result is that an individual will throw oneself on the bed sobbing and cursing the individual whom she trusted, but has cheated upon her.

Is there a solution to it?

Yes, there is.

As the saying goes, “ Behind every successful man, there is a woman behind it.”

A woman plays a pivotal role in the success of any relationship. If she lays some ground rules and makes sure the partner follows it; chances are that the relationship is bound to succeed.

Lay a good foundation: Just as a building needs a good foundation to stand high and tall and withstand all that nature throws at it; a sound relationship can also sustain any bruises if its’ foundation is laid strong.

Some qualities needed to lay a strong foundation are:

  • Genuine Friendship--This is an essential base for communicating when any sort of storm is thrashing your relationship. If you and your man are honest to each other about your feelings and do not get intimidated by correcting each other; this friendship will help you talk your heart out to each other and will avoid you to get in such a mess where your man could cheat upon you.
  • Trust--This is another crucial factor for a good foundation. Having faith in each other and confiding your heart out will avoid any individual in a relationship to cheat.
  • Self Control-Learning, to balance one’s priorities and to live with dignity will help restrain your man to other attractions and help prevent him from cheating upon you.
  • Sharing-- Sharing means caring. Women usually are sensitive in this aspect, but this bug of sharing gets on to men too. A change in their attitude is seen towards their woman. This sharing attitude can bring out the love and sensitiveness of a man, which will avoid him to cheat upon his woman.
  • Memories lane-- A relationship makes many memories as it walks downs the years. Women are emotional beings, and they usually mark their first kiss, their first date, their first fight or argument or their first of anything possible on the surface of this planet. Men tend to get receptive about it and could get all mushy when taken down the memories lane. If the memories you have made with your man bring a smile to each one of them; chances are that he will stick to make more of those pleasant memories.
  • Compatibility-- A couple should have some common interests besides physical attraction. This will help them deal with various issues and make a mutual decision on it. Any kind of stress and pressure cannot be handled by your man, so if things are solved with affection and a positive attitude, chances of your man goofing around with someone else when a problem arises; will be dim.
  • Love-- This is the most essential element in any relationship. It takes love and affection to make any relationship last and malleable enough to endure the good and the awful times. If there is love between a couple, chances are extremely dim for the man to be venturing out for some passion or emotional support. He will be there with enduring compassion and patience to help through a difficult phase in a relationship.

For any relationship, to work, it takes all the above qualities to make your partner stick to you especially in times of difficulty.

Respect each others' presence and do not take them for granted.

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lovedoctor926 3 years ago

Excellent hub like usual. What is your opinion on online relationships? While they seem harmless, where do you draw the line? Is this a form of cheating? Even though you aren't physically touching or kissing one another, there's Skype and webcam where people can have discreet relationships that can affect their marriage or current relationship. On the other hand, a friendship on Facebook or any other social networking site can develop between two people as well and can lead to emotional cheating. What are your thoughts on this?


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Frank Atanacio 3 years ago from Shelton

A very well written hub Ruch.. I dont think a man would ever cheat on me because I wouldn't date a man LOL but nevertheless a very well presented hub.. and if the lovedoctor thought it was excellent then it is... she knows her stuff :)


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

Excellent suggestions, Ruchira! Relationships must be tended to, like a well-cared for garden, or weeds will surely appear. Cheating is never alright....and if the loving relationship is tended to, hopefully cheating will never appear.


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Ruchira 3 years ago from United States Author

Hi Lovedoctor,

I am not an expert, but according to my values; I feel any kind of media could be considered cheating if an individual is bringing out his emotional self about his other half to another person. Gotta be faithful in all aspects in a relationship :)

Thanks for stopping by. Appreciate it.


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Ruchira...You are a very wise woman...and I appreciate the way you share your ideas with your readers....so clearly and and simple to comprehend. I always enjoy your words of wisdom.

This particular "concern" is not an issue in my life, but I surely know many young women who can benefit from reading your article.....UP+++


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Ruchira 3 years ago from United States Author

Thanks Bill.

Thanks Frank

Thanks Paula

Thank you all for your kind words. Yes, cheating is never ethical and that person gotta answer to his conscious first then his partner.


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midget38 3 years ago from Singapore

All these are so true!! And these are also the little things many take for granted. Thanks Ruchira, I'm sharing with votes up and across!


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Ruchira 3 years ago from United States Author

Thanks Michelle. I am glad I could make sense ;) Thanks for sharing and stopping by :)


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Lorne Hemmerling 3 years ago from Port Hope

I have been on both sides of this (the cheater and the cheetee). It is always a mess. I agree with all these points, but it seems to me, if it is TRUE love, there won't be any cheating. I realize the title is 'How To Date', but in order for a relationship to last, you can't just settle, you have to be in love. Real love is very hard to find, but if you do, it won't be hard to hold onto. You will accept each other just the way you are. Neither one will want the other to change, because THAT is the person you fell in love with. As a musician and composer, the best thing to come out of botched relationships, is the inspiration to write! I must be tired, I am rambling on here!


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Ruchira 3 years ago from United States Author

You make sense, Lorne.

Gotta be in love for sure. Wishing you good luck and thanks for stopping by...appreciate it!


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Vellur 3 years ago from Dubai

Great hub as usual, all the points that you have mentioned are very true. Trust is very important in a relationship, and staying together through thick and thin is sign of true love. Voted up.


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Ruchira 3 years ago from United States Author

Thanks Nithya. Appreciate you stopping by :)


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always exploring 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

Excellent advice Ruchira. Marriage is a two-way street and it takes commitment from both to survive the pitfalls. Up++


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri

Ruchira, this is a great list for the foundation of a loving and trusting relationship. I think women are more emotional, as you say. Men sometimes do not think of the same things that we do but if communications are good, then the relationship has a much better chance of remaining faithful. :-)


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Ruchira 3 years ago from United States Author

I agree Ruby. Marriage is like doing a Tango :) Thanks for your precious comment.

Thanks Susan. I agree women ought to steer the way for his man. Thanks for stopping by with your opinion. Appreciate it :)


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Lipnancy 3 years ago from Hamburg, New York

I think the one mistake most women make is expecting our men to fulfill all of our needs which leads to disappointment and detachment. And in return men look elsewhere for intimacy.


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teaches12345 3 years ago

Wonderful suggestions for keeping a relationship strong, and for building one with a new love. It is so worth the process. Voted up!


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

Ruchira, I would say even before laying a good foundation, the most important is to make the right choice before allowing any emotions to germinate. Once a potential partner enters our personal zone, and not to talk about our intimate zone, the getting-rid-of-them-process is painful and terribly unpleasant.

Excellent advice you've given in here.


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

A very valuable hub and a must read for every couple. It takes a lot of understanding among couples to stay faithful to one another. Nice pointers, Ruchira.

Voted up, interesting and sharing.


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adrienne2 3 years ago from Atlanta

@Lorne I totally agree the only way for a relationship to work without any cheating going on, true love MUST be present on both sides. Sometimes in a relationship the woman or the man is deeply in love, but the other person say they love their mate, but they still cheat. I believe real true love still exist somewhere out there in the cosmos I just have never been one to ever find it. And really just have decided just to keep loving my single self.


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Neinahpets 3 years ago from Greater Toronto Area, Canada

A very well written hub indeed. As a person who has been who has been scorned by a cheater I can definitely say that if both parties are not in love, that's it.. done deal; but when both parties are saying they love each other you have to just be careful. In reality, the majority of people who have been cheated on can actually think back over their relationship and actually spot the red flags that should have been signs to end the relationship and/or signs the person was already out of the relationship and just going through the motions.

I hope no one ends up in this situation. Great hub. Voted up and useful!


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MelChi 3 years ago from Cape Town, South Africa

Such wise words Ruchira, and a beautiful hub! I especially agree with your first point. If there's no friendship as a foundation, then chances are, it's going to fizzle out pretty soon. Thanks for sharing this!


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Diabian 3 years ago

Your hub is inspiring and its really help alot of women seeking for men

your hub voted and sharing with friends


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sarahshuihan 3 years ago from USA

This is a great hub. I agree that trust is definitely important. So is listening to your spouse and trying to compromise to his needs. People tend to cheat when they think their needs aren't being met in the relationship.


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

Hi Ruchira, thanks for your valuable advice with regards to my question. I agree with you. Your hubs on dating and relationships are fantastic.


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Denise Handlon 3 years ago from North Carolina

Beautiful hub, Ruchira. I appreciate the list of important qualities in a relationship that will bring a solid foundation. Thanks. :) UP/U/A


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Sound advice here on How to Date a Man Who Would Never Cheat on You, sometimes relationships can be most challenging.

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