How to Date and Still Succeed at School

Spur of the moment trip to Bacon Fest.
Spur of the moment trip to Bacon Fest. | Source

Juggling school and anything can be difficult. High School was difficult for me to have a social life and do well in school and I've come to find out College is a lot harder! At this current point in time, I am juggling College, work, my daughter, my friends, my boyfriend, and my HubPages at once! Sometimes I don't know how I do it. The hardest thing to try to balance for me is my boyfriend and school. But, with these tips and thoughts, I have learned how to have a balance without sacrificing one over the over (too much.)

Remember your priorities

Put your priorities in check. Dating is a great thing. I love going on dates with my boyfriend. But, I can't do it all the time because I have a ton of homework for my classes. If you are in college, you're the one who wanted to go to in the first place. Don't give up on that because you want to date. It's possible to do both. Just remember, the ultimate priority for you is school. You need that for you're future.

Make a schedule

This may be hard for the spur of the moment people, but making a schedule is a great way to do well in school and date. What do you have to do during the day? When do you have time to go out and do things? If you don't like the schedule you have now, can you change it?

My schedule (corrolating with my boyfriend's schedule) looks a little like this. This is the best schedule we could come up with so we can both go on dates while I juggle school and he juggles work.

 
Week 1
Week 2
Sunday
Homework Day / HubPage Day
Homework Day/ HubPage Day
Monday
Classes (All day)
Classes (All day)
Tuesday
Class AM / Breakfast Date
Class AM / Work
Wednesday
Class AM / Work
Class AM / Boyfriend Time
Thursday
Class AM / Boyfriend Time
Class AM / Boyfriend Time
Friday
Boyfriend Time
Boyfriend Time
Saturday
Extra Time
Boyfriend Time / Extra Time

As you can see, I have free time very rarely. If you don't have a boyfriend, great! Use my "boyfriend time" as time for you to go out. If you are going full time to school, it will be difficult. Use your time wisely and work efficiently. Squeeze in homework and study time whenever you can so on weekends you are free. It can work, I promise.

Also, this will make the spur of the moment people happy, it's all about those "spur of the moment, do whatever we can in a small amount of time, oh I just found out this is going on" dates. The unplanned, unexpected, and amazing dates that just happen. That's what it's all about students. Those are the best.

Making those tough calls

Realistically, if you are in school you won't be able to go out all the time. If you have a big project that is due, and you are a procrastinator, you probably won't be able to go out on dates. Learning how to make the tough calls is very important.

If you want to do well in school, you have to put forth the time and the work. If you get your homework assignments ahead of time like me, do it all when you have free time (if you can). If you like to go out at night, force yourself to do homework and study during the day. Sacrifice that Netflix time to crack open your textbook and study. I know, it's hard for me too sometimes.

Sometimes you have to grab a date whenever you can, even if it's during a lunch break.
Sometimes you have to grab a date whenever you can, even if it's during a lunch break. | Source

Learning to Accept the Small Things

When you are dating and going to school, learning to accept the small dates will help tremendously. Currently, I am a full-time college student and my boyfriend works full time. His schedule is ever-changing so our usual schedule sometimes doesn't always come into play.

I'm lucky and go to college within walking distance of my boyfriends work. So, even though our time spent with each other got cut drastically, I have learned to take what I can get when it comes to doing the dating and school juggle.

We sometimes only see each other for a half hour a day, during his lunch break. Remember, it's okay to only see each other for a small amount of time, especially if that's all you can get.

Learning to accept that sometimes that's all you can accomplish will help you succeed more in school and devote more time to your school work.

Above all else, be responsible

As a student, you can't go out the night before a test to party, get drunk, and come home with a hangover. If you have a test the next day, go out for a dinner date or have an in home movie date. Better yet, if your boyfriend or girlfriend come over the night before, have a study date. Some of the best dates my boyfriend and I have had are because I needed help studying for a test.

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I hope some of these tips and thoughts have helped you. Dating in school is a big game of trial and error. Just be careful when you play.

  • Keep your priorities in line.
  • Remember, school should always come first.
  • Know when you can and can't go out.
  • Set a schedule.
  • Stay responsible.

How do you or did you juggle dating and school? Was it difficult for you? Any other tips we should know? Leave it in the comments!

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SaffronBlossom 3 years ago from Dallas, Texas

Definitely great advice, and I like that you added your schedule! I admit I was often guilty in school of letting my dating life get in the way of studying, and my grades might have been a little better had I been more focused. :)


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LagunaAlkaline 3 years ago from Camas, WA Author

In High School, I ended up getting such bad grades that I dropped out. Now that I'm in College, I won't let that happen again! I absolutely refuse!

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