How to Forget Your Ex-Wife and Move on
We often hear of being haunted by memories of the past. This can seem a bit like some literary device to evoke a malevolent ghostly spirit that somehow animates these memories to cause us pain. With this in mind, how to forget your ex-wife and move on with life may seem like something as dramatic as an exorcism!
You can hold of getting an old priest and a young priest and chanting the 'power of Christ compels you' though, because it is nothing as dramatic as this!
In this lens we shall cover how you can lessen the damage of memories and how they drastically affect your mood and decisions making processes as well as how to move on from divorce emotionally once you have gained power over destructive memories and emotions.
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Mood, Decisions & How to Forget Ex-Wife Memories
Our minds are an amazing thing, hey have the power to inspire pure genius, art, amazing problem solving abilities, language and all the greatness we associate with our humanity. They are also the same organ that sends us into pits of depression, develops low self esteem, loses control of its temper and has panic attacks and general anxiety.
The mind is still the greatest mystery of science but there are a few things that we have learned that can help you understand your own emotions and psychological state so you can move on from a bad divorce more confidently.
Our mood is greatly influenced by our surroundings and things that can trigger a radical shift in your state of mind. For instance, you may have a picture of you and your ex wife still in the house and every time you look at it you are overcome by a wave of sadness. Or it might be when you are lying down to go to sleep at night and suddenly remember how you used to share a bed with this woman you called your wife and now don’t.
This is because we associate some things in our minds subconsciously with a feeling, an emotion. While sometimes this might be a happy memory, when you are being divorced those happy times feel like torture because each memory is like a new sense of loss each time. If they are bad memories of arguments this is also obviously distressing to keep reliving.
A lack of control of the intensity and frequency of memories leads to massive mood fluctuation.
The decisions you make are influenced by your mood. This might seem an obvious statement but no matter how logical we think we are being, our state of mind has subtle insidious influences that make you question your decisions later many times.
If you cannot control your emotions, moods and state of mind due to memories and triggered feelings adjusting these things, then what you do suffers from a serious undercurrent of negativity. This will slowly seep into all parts of your life vandalising your good work.
How to Forget Your Ex Wife Memories
Forget might be too strong a word, but it is what we think about when assaulted by these. We want them to be gone from our minds so they don't bother us anymore. This is not how memories work though, even if you are a forgetful person they will always be there and always SHOULD be there.
What you really need to do is forget the intensity of those memories. You need to tone down how they affect you more than trying to bury them. This way is about dealing with your internal systems of mood altering references so that you no longer control you.
This can be done in a number of different ways which retrain your brain to disassociate the memory to the mood. For example:
- Disassociation - Actively remembering but taking your point of view out of your own body and looking at the scene from a 3rd point of view
- Volume - Actively remember and lower the volume of the sounds in your mind and even the sharpness of your image ... like fading out
- Visualisation - This can be many things, but the visual act of washing away bad memories can help greatly
Your mind can be trained if you know how. If you control it, the bad stuff in your life cannot control you!
Moving On From Divorce
The memories of bad times or good times that haunt your days are just one of the obstacles that come up when trying to create a new live and be happy after divorce for men. Many other emotional problems are encountered along the way to a full recovery from divorce which is often interlinked to a few base level problems.
If you confront these psychological roadblocks and defeat them you will find the pain of a divorce will simply evaporate. Like putting on a new pair of glasses everything will shift back into focus in fact.
This is not an immediate effect of course, it takes a fair bit of understanding and looking into your own mind and motives before the switch in your brain just clicks and you start a fast road to recovery.
To help you along this journey click elbow to get my e-book on this subjects that goes into detail on how to end the memories that plague you and teach you the fundamentals of divorce recovery as well as how to deal with the nitty gritty details of day to day life - and finally how to really move on and live your life to the fullest afterwards!
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