How to Kiss a Girlfriend Lesbian-Style


Who knows how to kiss a girl better than another girl? Gentlemen, you know exactly what I know—a woman's lips are softer, smaller, and more beautiful than your own.

And those women's lips have their own needs, which are not exactly the same as yours. What I've gathered from talking to scores of women about their experiences with boyfriends and potential boyfriends—even with their husbands—is that many men would benefit from a few instructions from someone who's been on both the giving and the receiving end of kissing a woman's lips.

Expert Advice on Kissing: From a Woman for Women

1. Relax your lips.

You don't need stop the sweaty palms, the beating heart, the worries in your head about how she'll respond to the first kiss. Just relax those lips! Just like you, a woman appreciates that first soft touch.

If your pucker-muscles are already in gear, she'll feel like she's run into a wall. Will she notice? If every other man she's dated has started with hard lips, what she'll notice is that you have started the kiss out right where all others have failed.

2. Lips are not always the best first "target."

I love to kiss my girl just above the middle of her eyebrows, like there's something special about that spot, as if I've studied her entire face and found something special about every bit of it. Hold her close, lean in (the target is obviously not her lips so she won't be tense) and place a kiss almost as soft as a butterfly right between her eyebrows, then back out again, and make eye-contact.

Other spots go well for "first-contact," too. Think about the "slow-dance kiss," that one where you're cheek to cheek and you turn your lips up against the softness of her cheek. It'll leave her wondering if it was a kiss or not. It doesn't matter, but it makes her feel good. Don't kiss the tip of her nose the first time around, though. That's the sort of thing you do to a child, not a woman.

3. Go slow.

Once you've reached her lips, spend a little time letting those soft lips of yours brush against hers. There's a reason "his lips brushed against hers" is a phrase found in many romance novels. That slowness is much sexier than "a moment later, his tongue was in every corner of her mouth."

4. Know when it's time for tongue.

Try lip-nibbles first. Use your relaxed lips to nibble or gently tug at hers. This gives you both a chance to open your mouths just a little bit. Remember, she's wondering if you're going to kiss and if it's going to be a good one. An open mouth is a step in the process and it deserves its rightful place between the closed-mouth kiss and the more intimate kiss. If her mouth doesn't open, back off. Look into her eyes again. See how she appears to be feeling, and if you're not sure, there's no harm in asking in a gentle voice.

5. Use the tongue properly.

Okay, you seem to have the go-ahead for tongue. Perhaps she even initiated that part. One very important thing to hold in mind, gentleman (and please, I'm not trying to insult you, it's just that I've heard it too many times), is that your tongue is not your . . . you know. Thrusting it in and out is not sexy. Not now, anyway. You might be able to try that when things are a little more hot and heavy, for a short time at least. Dart your tongue in and out, once. Pause, then do it again. Get inventive—take her lip between your tongue and lip, gently, and let it slide free. Then go for it, gently.

6. Listen to her body language.

From here on out, it's up to you. Yep, the build-up is all I can tell you about, because from there, it's all about listening to her. Does her breathing speed up or slow down? Tiny little noises in her throat? On the other hand, is she trying to please you?

If she seems aggressive, she might be, but maybe she's just trying to be to you what her last boyfriend expected her to be—a tongue-sucking servant to his ham-handed, infantile techniques. If it's a first kiss and she's not taking your lead by going slow, do your best to check in with her, and make sure she's going fast or harder because she wants to. (I know checking in is easier for women to do with other women but I can't help you there. Good luck. )

7. When should you stop?

Well, you should always follow her lead. If it seems like she wants to stop, then it's time to stop. But you might want to think of this as a minute-long pulse. Come in close, open-mouth, then tongue, then enjoy for a minute, then gradually back out. If she really wants to kiss for longer, she'll let you know!

But no one's nerves are going to stay sensitive for long under the same stimulation. She'll probably feel more stimulated if you take a break, take a breath, hold her close and/or look into her eyes. By all means, go in for a kiss again. This time, you can go straight to steps four and five.

Other Ideas on How to Make Kissing Extra Special

If you find that you're in a long kissing-only make-out session, you might want to throw in a little worship of her entire beautiful face. Kiss her eyebrows, her forehead, her earlobes. Kiss her cheekbones, the smile-line at the corner of her mouth.

Take your time. Her lips will be all the more eager when you finally get there. When you're going into a very slow love-making session, and you have a moment where you're leaning over her, both of you ready to kiss, run your tongue against the edge of her lips so lightly that all you touch is the tiny hairs that grow at the edge. It's very stimulating.

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Mortgagestar1 6 years ago from Weirton,West Virginia

Many young women of today are far less inhibited than just ten years ago. The "Young Somethings" from MTV to magazines today depicts woman in sapphoric poses all the time. However, lesbian type of kissing is realy not much different from traditional opposing genders. I know of many bi and gay woman who say they prefer kissing in different ways. One can only wonder what our society will be like ten years from today.

Citrus000 6 years ago

This hub is even better than your last, which I also liked very much by the way. Good advice, my hopes are that many people read and take a tip or two from what you have to say.

Very steamy hub. Thanks!

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janiek13 6 years ago from Florida's Space Coast

I agree, gentle and soft feather like touches, whether you are using your lips or your hands. I hate to feel like I am defending myself from an assault. Good hub.

Cindy 6 years ago

I like softly kissing the first lip as I run my tongue over it. Just concentrating on it and licking off the moisture. Than I lick the second lip and suck on it till it's nice and warm. Slowly, as she starts to drool, I put my tongue softly inside her and take time to enjoy how warm and juicy she is. Just to slightly suck and lick and listen to her moan. It drives her crazy. Then, I kiss her mouth!

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TheMonk 5 years ago from Brazil

My wife and I have a game where one of us will be active and the other passive. One of us must relax the mouth and do nothing. The other will tease as much as he/she can using only the lips and mouth. It is a lot of fun, specially with blindfolds. ;)

shoaibahmad 4 years ago

when i kiss to a girl i feel more than a fake worke its realy not good but also not bad

so very true 4 years ago

to all you lesbians out there, you are the filthy pigs that are only good for one thing and that is carpet munching.

Corky 4 years ago

so very true, I wouldn't go down to your level. So I'll just pity you because there's nothing more filthy in this world than homophobes like you.

tarryn 4 years ago

Hold up hold up lesbians aint filthy...I am a lesbian just so by the way...and I'm proud to be and kissing a lady is great!!!!!!!no regrets there what makes you guys think that lesbians are filthy???maybe you guys are filthy...geeeez get a life!!!!!!

selena 4 years ago

We aerial what's. Aer you. Know gladwwater

Anonymous 4 years ago

Im a 13 year old girl and I'm lesbian! And I haven't had my first kiss yet and I'm nervous want I dont know what to d! Can someone please help me!!!!

erens 4 years ago

Who made sex love,sexual romantic luv,is it man or God?if d answer is God then get 2 know wot God says abt sex and other sextual activities less u r wrong of bin a lesbian or gay.There shal b no excuse or repentance after death.Repent, accept Jesus u all nd b save.Jesus luv u all

jaye H 4 years ago

geez who's the dude who wrote that Im'e lesbion have allways been can't help the way i was born' and u say us lesbion are filthy M-G get a life. i didn't hear see you make coment about gay males or are you one' Ge get real get a life ,

Jay C 4 years ago

The way your born hm! Well,

My thought is the human gene pool is being tampered with by some one or some thing.Both sides of the fence need to back up. Religious & Spirtual side needs to understand God probably has more than just one enemy and they don't have horns. Now people that feel their attracted to the same sex, I have no judgement to pass your way from me. But, I do believe that the people who feel they are gay by nature have in some way have been genetically altered to like what they like in the same sex. Other gay individuals are into it because of curiosity for multiple reason's multi media selling sex aka porn , entertainment , music & other sources such as rape & mulistation when they were younger! I do believe some thing other than humans are and have been working on this project for a very long time. So fighting about what is rite between the human race is a waste of time. All of us are not point our sights at the real culprate to this situation, it has not reared it's nastey undiscovered face yet. But, some day it might just show up and reveal it all. And I'm sure it will be more horrifying than a mixture of Texas Chainsaw massacre , independence day, and the Umbrella Corporation all put together. Most people won't be able to deal with this. Some like myself will and can. So I can understand both sides. But don't kill each other over it. Some thing out their wants that to happen or to further its cause on the human race and on the face of the Earth! God fearing people I know that God wants to wipe out horrible human acts of many different kinds and I do to. But, you have to be careful about how you go about teaching a healthy life style!!! Same Sex partners I know you want & need to be excepted by others while in this life and lot of you whom have been genitcally altered will not know or feel that you have been tampered with but, you have and that is the reason you clamp on to the idea of you were born like that. The Genetic Scientist's have only given and told the Human Race a piece of the puzzle that causes certain human's to strive for lustfull sex with the same sex. Even straight people fall for that practice certainly through pornography. Especially using straight males indulging in Lesbian sex in Porn.

There is a hudge money market and lustfull need for this media at frightening level. I have been very against white women who are lesbian's in the past. Because of my pride making me feel White females are the Queen's of the face of Earth and took it as a slap to the face when through the mid- 90's same sex practice became rampit like cancer in a healthy body. I learned of judge ocean cruises prefaying large numbers of sexual gatherings and yes orgies

Of both women and male same sex. As well as orgies put on by girls getting together at Hotel's and parent's house being used as orgy centrals. I'm mean girl's in junior high and high school having same sex with multiple partners in one night like it a smorgest board of lesbian sex...

At ages that shouldn't even think of sex at the ages if seen involved in these sexual act's. It made me sick many times over & over. Not because I'm righteous but because it was horrifying girl's at the age ranging from 10 to 30 & 40's. I have seen women with very very young girls having sex multiple times. For real , it is going on people and it's frightening. I've personally witnessed an older lady lending my next door neighbor her personalized sex toy when I was much younger telling the younger I've used this so many times every where on her body so the younger girl could use it for sexual masterbation on her self. I told the girls parents about it and they didn't believe me. Now the parents do because their daughter moved out and moved in with older women and her other girl friend. Still to this day witness through my chain link fence all three ladies sun bathing as well making out all 3 to gather 1 teenager a what looks like a 32 yr. old woman and the home owner who's 42 years old. It's hard to watch the parents go through this inviroment of craziness. But there's nothing I other they can do! Some times knowing what I know I don't know what to do feel or think from the lower levels of this true story to the overall picture of something messing around with human kind. It depresses me all the time.But some gay people get off on all of that confusion and the religious don't care to think outside of the Human realm. I'll end by saying I feel for God, I don't know how to even conceive its thoughts for its creation of Humanbeing's and our cermounting problem's on planet Earth.

christian 3 years ago

soo very true i feel bad for you. i agree with you though

The Real Answer Is 2 years ago

Well after reading many of these Comments, It certainly is Very Obvious why us Good Guys can't meet a Decent Normal Woman Anymore these days. Hey Wait did I Say Normal? Where The Hell Are They?

LILIAN 2 years ago


i want to use this medium to testify of how i got back my lesbian girlfriend after 9months of separation, I and my lesbian girlfriend broke up on the 12th of August because he felt i was cheating on him with a female friend of mine, i tried all i could to explain to him but he paid deaf ears, i was emotionally devastated because i really did love him until i saw a post on the internet about a spell caster, who helps people gain back their lost love, at first i doubted if it was real because i never believed in spells but decided to give it a try, when i contacted this spell caster, he helped me cast a re-union spell and i got back my boyfriend within 48hours (2days). Contact this great spell caster for your relationship or marriage problems via email

joan 2 years ago

i want to use this medium to testify of how i got

back my lesbian girlfriend after 9months of separation, I and my lesbian girlfriend broke

up on the 12th of August because he felt i was cheating on him with a female friend of mine, i tried all i could to explain to him but he paid

deaf ears, i was emotionally devastated because i really did love him

until i saw a post on the internet about a spell caster, who helps

people gain back their lost love, at first i doubted if it was real

because i never believed in spells but decided to give it a try, when i

contacted this spell caster, he helped me cast a re-union spell and i

got back my boyfriend within 48hours (2days). Contact this great spell

caster for your relationship or marriage problems via email

Very Sad 2 years ago

Lesbians will always be Losers.

luna 19 months ago

the tip ws awesome

Grace 14 months ago

All the dumb, straight homophobic people should just keep to there own dumb lives rather then try to comprehend homosexual people's sexuality which they clearly cant do.

Alison 11 months ago

Tomorrow is going to be first time kissing a girl. Which me luck.

WTF 6 months ago

People can be lesbian, straight, gay or bi

As long as u r happy, there is nothing wrong with that.

As a bi myself, I can tell you, kissing women, kissing men, its pretty much the same.

Those who judge people by their relationships should PO because there is nothing wrong with who you are.

To everyone saying that lesbians or Bi's are bitches, just wow. Keep ur opinions to ur self.

This is what I think, so please stop posting mean comments about who people are.

I am a proud bi, and all the bitches can deal with it.

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