How to Scratch a Man's Back

The Art of Back Scratching.

I do not mean the exchange of political or business favors. I am referring to the actual application of fingernail to flesh: the time-honored, if somewhat primitive, tradition of the male backscratch.

Few activities are as personal, fewer are as enjoyable, and fewer still are as hard to get just right.

Here are a few helpful hints for properly scratching a man's back:

Identifying the Problem.

Every woman with a husband, brother, father, son or other male in her life has heard, "Scratch my back." I am convinced that some day soon, while searching for the human genes that cause disease, defect or deformity, geneticists will stumble upon the male gene for back itchiness.

Until that day, we are left to our own devices for the problem identification and cure. Here are a few of the common problems I have identified and the solutions for each:

Problem: The Elusive Itch. "A little to the left. No, my left. A little more. A little more. Oh, down a little. Ooh, right there. No, to the right. No, no, up a little bit..." Sound familiar? The elusive itch has plagued mankind for as long as womankind has been scratching mankind's back, and it is as frustrating for the scratched as the scratcher. Not to worry, the elusive itch will elude no more.

Solution: The Two-handed Attack. If you sense an elusive itch approaching (meaning you hear, "A little to the..."), flank the enemy on either side and trap it in the middle. Scratch with one hand to the right, one hand to the left and slowly move inward until the itch cannot escape. This maneuver works equally well with itches that evade upward or downward.

Problem: The Instant Itch. The instant itch is a surprise attack. Your red-striped male is going about his manly business hunting for food or playing with power tools when he is immediately rendered helpless by the attack of the instant itch. You know the instant itch by sight rather than sound. You see your manly man convulse and contort into the most unlikely of positions reaching desperately with one or both hands for that most unreachable of spots on his back. Neither the bow, arrow, bayonet, hammer, saw or drill which he is wielding is effective in locating the exact spot under attack. No, only the fine stroke of the female fingernail can thwart the attack and prevent a trip to the ER.

Solution: The Slow, Smooth Stroke. You must resist the urge to respond to the instant itch in kind. If you do, the instant itch will transform into the elusive itch in no time, and that means trouble. Similarly, avoid responding to the violent seizing with violent scratching, you will only cause pain, itching, and painful itching. Your scratch should be a cool breeze on a blistering summer day, not a bucket of cold water. And don't begin by scratching the itch directly, no matter how much he begs (remember, you don't want it to elude). Scratch slowly and smoothly around the point of attack and work your way toward ground zero. This approach will catch the itch off guard, and give you just enough time to put out the fire.

Problem: The Chronic Itch. If your man requires a back scratching the first thing in the morning, right after a shower, after work, after meals, before meals, during meals, while watching television, and again before bedtime, your problem is the chronic itch, which is really no itch at all, but rather addiction to the scratch.

Solution: Ween Him Off. If the itch truly is chronic, perhaps your afflicted male only needs a dollop of body lotion. If, on the other hand, the need is scratch-based rather than itch-based, you will need to ween your scratchee off the scratching. Slowly cut back from 10x a day to 9, then 8, 7 and so on. Also, trim your time from 30 minutes to 25, then 20, etc. Quitting cold turkey is not optional, you won't want to suffer through the withdrawal symptoms. Nor should you quit altogether, that's just cruel. Once or twice a day, a few minutes per scratch is sufficient.

Problem: The Acute Itch. Distinguishable from the instant itch in that the acute itch has a discernible cause, insect bites, exposure to itch-causing elements, diseases, and the like. The acute itch is perhaps the most legitimate of all itches, but the most controversial. To scratch or not to scratch?

Solution: Scratch 'Til It Hurts. Parents, grandparents, and other equally qualified medical experts adamantly oppose scratching acute itches, but I couldn't disagree more. My primary concern is neither medical nor cosmetic, it is purely to teach the scratcher how to satisfy the needs of the scratched. Therefore, scratch long and hard. Until it hurts. Draw blood if necessary. When that particular spot starts to burn and hurt it will stop itching.

Back Scratching Tips.

Now that you know how to identify and solve the most common back scratching problems, you can expect your scratcher-scratched relationship to improve dramatically. However, if you really want to send your relationship into the stratosphere and ensure your scratchee's back will never stray beyond the tips of your fingers, try these tips:

1. Volunteer a Scratch: Yes, I know you may already be scratching a back every waking minute, but occasionally, once in a while, every so often, volunteer a scratch. No questions, no words, just scratch. If you know that you scratch for 15 minutes every night at 10:30 on the dot, why not volunteer a scratch at 9:45, you might even get away with a 5-minute scratch rather than a 15-minute scratch. Try it. He will love it.

2. Scratch with Love: A loving, tender, thorough once-over will give you a greater return on your investment than a lengthy, hard, reluctant scratch. It just feels better.

3. Make it Win-Win: Trade a backscratch for a manicure. It's not, "You scratch my back, and I'll scratch yours." Not exactly. It's, "I'll scratch your back, you pay for my manicure." Women like manicures, men like back scratches, and back scratches are better with manicured nails. Win-win.

4. Go Above and Beyond: Try scratching his neck and the back of his head...try it while he's driving or watching the game. It will drive him nuts. It is even a little better than a good back scratching, and the favor will be rewarded.

5. Scratch Him to Sleep: Again, this is a win-win opportunity. Delay a routine back scratching until bedtime and softly scratch him to sleep. She scratches, she scores!!! You will score points, big time!

Go Forth and Scratch.

You are now without excuse. It's time to go and scratch.

Do you have other tips or tricks of the back scratching trade? If so, please share in the comment section below.

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Comments 51 comments

cvaughn570 8 years ago

This is a very well put together hub.

You made me smile :-)

Carol


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lady luck 8 years ago from Boston

OORRR YOU CAN TELL THAT MAN TO SCRATCH YOUR BACK FIRST.


Ananta65 8 years ago

Great hub! It definitely put a smile on my face.

O, and Lady Luck? No problem ;)


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Peter M. Lopez 8 years ago from Sweetwater, TX Author

cvaughn570, thank you. I'm glad you enjoyed it.


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Peter M. Lopez 8 years ago from Sweetwater, TX Author

lady luck, yes, you most certainly can. A literal, "You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours."


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Peter M. Lopez 8 years ago from Sweetwater, TX Author

Thanks, Ananta65. I appreciate you reading...and smiling.


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stephhicks68 8 years ago from Bend, Oregon

I'm feeling itchy


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Peter M. Lopez 8 years ago from Sweetwater, TX Author

I know. The more I wrote, the itchier I got.


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Om Paramapoonya 8 years ago

lol You made a silly topic like back scratching sooooooo enjoyable to read! You are a genius. Thumbs up =D


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Peter M. Lopez 8 years ago from Sweetwater, TX Author

Thank you, Om Paramapoonya. I'm so glad you enjoyed it. I think we all need to express a little silliness sometime.


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ripplemaker 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Scratch me. Scratch me. No Peter not you. My friend who is sitting beside me. LOL thanks for an interesting, funny hub.


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Peter M. Lopez 8 years ago from Sweetwater, TX Author

You are very welcome. I'm glad you enjoyed it.


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flutterbug77 8 years ago from USA

Congratulations on your new baby!


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Peter M. Lopez 8 years ago from Sweetwater, TX Author

Thank you very much, flutterbug77. I appreciate that.


samssc 8 years ago

Do you have a sister?

Just kidding, I'm married to a wonderful back scratcher. Too bad she didn't have this info back in the beginning of our relationship.


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Peter M. Lopez 8 years ago from Sweetwater, TX Author

Well, as long as she's developed into a wonderful back scratcher, if not, you are welcome to print it off for her. Thanks, samscc. I appreciate you reading.


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msms 8 years ago

Let us scratch each others back...


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Peter M. Lopez 8 years ago from Sweetwater, TX Author

Scratch, scratch, scratch.


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Peter M. Lopez 8 years ago from Sweetwater, TX Author

Thanks. I appreciate that.


Punishment1977 8 years ago

Great story on the lost art of back scratching. I love my "live in" scratcher...wife, Tracy dearly. But when she is not around, I use one of my wooden back scratchers. I shop at backscratcherworld.com. Lots of different types...nothing compares to Tracy's wonderful scratches...but these come close! :)


lbozo 7 years ago

Reciprocal back scraching at night. My wife and I call it safe sex. i.e., it's almost as good as an orgasm.


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ms.newyork 7 years ago from MIDWEST-USA

Here's my question; Would any of you men pay for a good back-scratching? My hubby has me seriously considering this as a 'job'. Please be honest, thanks!


Gregory 7 years ago

ms.newyork, the answer is NO!!! The article is fun and insightful. Back-scratching greatest satisfaction comes from its personal connection. Putting a tag to it may cause curiosity but will deprive it of the personal touch.


Riv 7 years ago

hahahahahahahaha i dont know if this is a serious article or you made it up but is good and funny,

thanks

riv


Martin 6 years ago

Dear Mr Lopez,

I am a male adddicted to getting my back scratched. Actaully I found this artcile as I am trying to find if there are any groups with the same condition.

I feel an enormous amount of pleasure when someone scratches my back to the point that I get absolutely relaxed and I can fall asleep. I am on the other hand addicted and I ask my wife to scracth my wife al the time. I could spend 24 hours getting my back scratched if I found someone to do it.

I am allergic and nornmally my skin itches easily (for instance when I sweat) I wonder if there is aconnection here.

Do you know if this "condition" is common?


coconuty 6 years ago

hello if any of you are female and willing to scratch my back i'd be more than happy pay you. im itchy itchy itchy and extra rich.


itchy 6 years ago

little to the left litte up whoa am I typeing this sorry not you peter I ment my wife to do that she was scratching my back and I got dosed off in sending this coment. any hoo I often have the instant itch


samara 6 years ago

Im itchy.


de 6 years ago

d;ek


isjiskkl 6 years ago

Peter Will YOU SCRATCJ MY BACK?


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Karen N 6 years ago from United States

Lol, very cute article.


jaokguy 6 years ago

boy, what a great article. so many women just don't realize how much men really love a back scratch. it's something so small, easy, free, loving, and caring to do for a guy but many women, imo, think it's a drag to do. i mean it's like pulling teeth for something so appreciated and easy to do. it takes no time at all, and u know your guy loves it . it's not like we're asking for a 1 hour massage. so many gals just hate to make time for it. maybe it's just my experience, at least i hope so. a guy really gets put off if their gal doesn't take the time to do that one little thing. guys see it as something so small to do for a person that if a gal won't do that simple little thing they see her as very uncaring, unaffectionate, and as a sign of not being loved. it may sound funny to some, but it's true. i especially love the part of the article about volunteering a scratch. that would like blow my mind if it happened. does that really happen to guys? oh, well happy scratching to all.


Titan1325435 6 years ago

I wouldn't object to scraching ANYBODY'S back if you ask me. i just sorta feel weird inside when i do it, but i don't mind. :)


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poojabrahmi 5 years ago

Even in my wildest thought I couldn't have chosen this topic "How to Scratch a Man's Back"

The most Amazing part is the way you have made this topic worth a read. What an expression of thought.


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

lol I had no idea women needed instructions. My husband seems happy with my skills, he never complains.


jeff 5 years ago

yes pamela, most women certainly need "instructions" on the art of back scratching. it seems like an easy and mindless thing to do but soooooooo many women not only need instructions, but imo it's like pulling teeth to even get them to do it at all. they say there's no such thing as a bad orgasm and the same applies to back scratching. one is better than none.


El Scratchee 5 years ago

When the scratcher is not present, I often use a sharp metal spatula. I pull it straight out of the drawer, use it liberally, then put it straight back - I don't bother to wash it. I even boast of this to her!


belatico 5 years ago

Thanks for a great posting. Id like to ad that men really can't scratch themselves. A womans nails are usually so much sharper than a mans. Any woman that wants to sink her claws into a mans heart is well advised to use her sharpened nails and go via the back. M


ilovebackscratches 5 years ago

women love back scratches too!!!


sasay 5 years ago

I am soooooooooooooo itchy!!!!!!!!!!!!


Michele 5 years ago

I absolutely love, love, love scratching a man's back!


phoebe 5 years ago

i like it to be scratched.... hmmmmmm ..relaxing...


mr.siggie 4 years ago

loved the article. yes, i would pay for an hour long back-scratching!


liliax 4 years ago

My boyfriend loves when i scratch his back, he never needs to ask me, im always up for volunteering it for him. Ive put him to sleep before. But i love to jave my back scratched too but i have to let him know i want it.


tanya-scratch 4 years ago

How you said about scratching them when their driving or watchin a game, i do that to my hubby when hes playing his piano. I married a mucisen and i love to sneak up behind him, start to gently scratch his back and watch his hands freeze as he moans and then leans back into my hand to get more.


mike 4 years ago

I and my wife are now back in colorado living as husband and wife and our two 2 sons and everything is going great... We are now in love with each other and have been together for 3 weeks now without any disput. prophetharry@ymail.com is a mighty spiritual helper when it comes to breakup problems, he can bring lovers back within a twinkle of an eye


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Crazy Cody 3 years ago

Perhaps have them go to the arms and chest area. Both can feel the sensation just as easily as the back. I was with a girl who scratched my arms and back all the time and LOVED every second of it...she didn't though. :-(


Patria Zuleikah Walker 3 years ago

Son: "Mommy, can I have a back scratch?"

Mother: "Sure thing, Zachariah."

The mother starts scratching her son's back. The boy closes his eyes.

Son: "Thanks, mommy."

Mom: "You're welcome, Zachary."

Son: "I love you, mommy."

Mom: "I love you, too, Zach."


Patria Zuleikah Walker 2 years ago

Zachariah happens to be a 5-year-old preschooler.


8 months ago

Ms. New York it would depend on skill level for sure... Just nothing quite like it, makes an amazing sound , nails on skin, esp when they're extremely long & NATURAL! I like them square & sharp , not just the back though the whole body! It's unbelievable to say the least

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