How to Show Lack of Interest Politely; for Women
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Unrequited displays of affection are always hard to handle, and even more so if you're the recipient. There are many ways to show the other party that their work is a vain attempt, but doing so to keep both reputations intact with the least degree of feelings being hurt takes finesse and extreme perception. Luckily for us, this is the age of information. Both men and women consult the Internet for everything from best camera deals to relationship advice. For this hub, I looked up many online articles regarding "Signs She's Not Interested," and compiled the most frequent signs men read up to determine the mixed signals coming from the lady they're interested in. Hopefully, the man that you're not interested in is wise enough to consult the Internet and stumble upon the same sites I've stumbled upon. The following is a list of the top signs you can give out to let him know subtly that you are not interested.
Don't Talk Too Much/Keep Your Space:
This is the most frequent sign popping up in most of those help sites. Women have earned a reputation for being the more verbose gender, so use this stereotype to your advantage. Do not initiate most of the conversation. Keep your responses terse; preferably limited to "yes" and "no". In addition, keep a distance between the both of you. People naturally breach personal space when interacting with the person they are attracted to. By maintaining a professional distance between the both of you, you subtly suggest that you are not interested in him.
Look Around the Room:
This is the second most frequent sign I've read up. They say that the "eyes are the window to your soul" and there are reasons why lovers are usually said to look amorously into each other's eyes. To show disinterest, do not maintain eye contact for more than around 3 seconds, or the average length for you to just show acknowledgment. Look around the room as if you're expecting someone to show up.
The guy is sure to sense a definite lack of chemistry between the above two signs. If he is a persistent one, please read on.
Talk About Other Men:
Let the guy know how much he reminds you of your brother, or one of your best guy friends. In addition, talk about some characteristics that you are attracted to in men that he obviously does not possess. Yes, this talking conflicts with #1, but these are things that interested men do not want to hear from a prospective romantic partner.
Say That You're Not Looking For a Relationship:
Both men and women tell other women and men that they are not looking for a relationship to prevent a relationship with that particular chick or guy. Try to sneak that bit about you in the conversation. For example, if you guys are talking about goals in life, mention that you are currently thinking about your meaning of life a lot, and that you have to find an inner balance before you can do other things such as having fun or dating.
Does Not Laugh at Jokes:
When asked what qualities makes the other gender attractive, both men and women consistently rate humor as one of their top turn-ons. Women, however, are attracted to men who can initiate humor, such as telling good jokes. Thus, to show affection, women laugh with the men that they are interested in. Men on the other hand, are attracted to women whose sense of humor is align to their own. A man loves it when a woman if she laughs at one of his cleverly-laid mines. To show your lack of interest, simply guard your laughter as if it was made of $100 bills. If the above theories are true, it may even work so well that the man becomes turned off. He may see that you lack his sense of humor.
Tell Him That You're Not Interested:
If all else fails, tell him that you're not interested. This is a very careful maneuver, but with the right setting and a good grasp of words, it can be done. It is highly suggested that you chose to tell him in a private place to keep his dignity and your reputation in place. Tell him that you might be bold to assume that he is interested in you, but if he is, you apologize for not being interested in him and for sending out mixed signals. By saying this, you give him a chance to deny his interest for you, which keeps his dignity intact in front of you. You can then end the conversation by saying something along the lines of, "that's good, I don't want to further any misunderstandings." If he admits that he is interested in you, tell him what you think of the relationship. Do not point out his shortcomings, keep the spotlight on how you want your relationship with him to be, a really great friendship.
Hopefully, things would work out between you and your friend. Best of luck to you.
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