Never Use Sarcasm in Conversing With Your Spouse

An Ironic Utterance Meant To Sneer

Sarcasm is an ironic utterance meant to sneer, cut or give pain. Sarcasm is one thing you should simply never do to your spouse.

The Ultimate Sarcastic Remark

The other day my family was seated in a restaurant having some lunch. Next table, there was a conversation between a couple discussing finance. The husband had just told his wife of investment plans he was considering to accomplish. Suddenly the wife's strident voice rose above the noise of the dinners as she exclaimed, "and where do you think you will get that kind of money? What are you going to do, sell my inner-wear?" All dinners turned their eyes to the couple. The husband looked down, and never spoke a word. It was the ultimate sarcastic remark - a perfect put down.

Conversing With Your Spouse

Sarcasm should never be used in marriage. Not even in joking
Sarcasm should never be used in marriage. Not even in joking

Little Barbs and Sharp Remarks which are Totally Harmless

Immediately after marriage, you may develop an ingrained habit of the sarcastic joke in kidding your spouse. At first you will make little barbs and sharp remarks which are totally harmless. You will comfort yourselves that its all jokes and that they mean nothing. But over time you will begin to realize that this habit has become a convenient way of getting in a good dig at your spouse every now and then. Your spouse may not know whether it is to be taken seriously or not. You can hint at a truth in your sarcasm that you are afraid to share honestly - and your spouse not knowing if the intent is serious will be unable to take offense. Sooner these conversations will become less and less honest and you will be hurting one another.

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The Habit Forms Very Slowly

You may be tempted to think this was completely outrageous, and imagine that although you have your small barbs you can never go that far, but the habit forms very slowly. Immediately after marriage, you may develop an ingrained habit of the sarcastic joke in kidding your spouse. At first you will make little barbs and sharp remarks which are totally harmless. You will comfort yourselves that its all jokes and that they mean nothing. But over time you will begin to realize that this habit has become a convenient way of getting in a good dig at your spouse every now and then. Your spouse may not know whether it is to be taken seriously or not. You can hint at a truth in your sarcasm that you are afraid to share honestly - and your spouse not knowing if the intent is serious will be unable to take offense. Sooner these conversations will become less and less honest and you will be hurting one another.

Sarcasm as a Means of Joking

There are many couples who use sarcasm as a means of joking. They say the things they believe in the form of a joke but are afraid to state honestly. And then they pretend they are unaware of the shadow of hurt on the other person's face as the barb finds it mark. What make it more attractive is that since it's sarcastic, it is always easier to go back and say that it is not what was meant.

Sarcasm Should Never Be Used In Marriage

Sarcasm should never be used in marriage. Not even in joking. If you have to state your feelings, make it your marital policy to do so honestly, but never hiding behind jokes.

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Chef Jeff 8 years ago from Universe, Milky Way, Outer Arm, Sol, Earth, Western Hemisphere, North America, Illinois, Chicago.

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Daddy Paul 6 years ago from Michigan

I like this hub. I have learned to have a distinct dislike of sarcasm particularly when it is used to criticize.


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funmontrealgirl 5 years ago from Montreal

Dear writer, I find your hub readable and useful. I like it. And I'm not being sarcastic. =)


jacob 5 years ago

This is a wonderful article. I am soon to be married to a wonderful lady but she is so sarcastic it drives me crazy and maybe this will convince her that sarcasm is poison to are relationship.

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