Easy ways to be more romantic

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Whether you are in a new relationship or a long term one, it is important not to let the romance disappear over time. In new relationships often the romance is there naturally, although I have to say that on some other articles I have written I have received many questions from young people which seem to indicate they are preoccupied with the quality of the sex in their new relationship, and that they have not considered introducing romance at all. I honestly feel that relationships that include romance are the most likely to be the ones that survive for a lifetime. It is the small romantic gestures that often mean the most, and show us our partner, Husband or Wife truly loves us, (and wants to be sure we know it). Couples who have been together a long time are also often guilty of letting the romance dissipate as the years pass, I guess you could call it 'becoming complacent' or even 'taking your partner for granted'.

The reason I have written this article is to share some of my ideas for romantic gestures that couples both old and new can bring into their relationships. Hopefully the use of these ideas will help to keep some of the 'magic' alive and stop the marriage or relationship from going stale, or either partner being tempted to look around for 'pastures new' where they will receive some romantic attention.


A Weekend Break

If your budget can rise to a weekend break then it can be the perfect opportunity to spend some quality time together without the normal day to day chores and pressures getting in the way. Even a night away from home in a nice hotel can give you both time to relax, away from the children, allowing you both to enjoy a good meal, a few drinks and time together just to talk, without telephones, children crying, the television or the washing up to interrupt your evening. You can make the night away more romantic by arranging for a bottle of chilled champagne and two glasses to be waiting in the room for you and your partner upon your arrival.

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Romantic Notes

You can have such fun leaving romantic notes for your loved one, and I am not talking about the obvious places either. Just a few words on a post it notelet saying something like 'Hi Sexy' or 'I Love You', and then placed in a 'surprise' location can mean so much to the recipient, and will most likely bring a smile to their face and give them a warm 'fuzzy' feeling inside. Some examples of the places you can secrete these loving notes might include the following:

Inside the lunchbox that they take to work

Their coat pocket

On their car seat

As a bookmark in their current book

On or under their pillow

In their wallet or purse

The Rose Petal Trail

Whether you use real rose petals or create fake ones from paper, you can have great romantic fun with a trail of rose petals leading to a variety of places. Imagine how loved the other person will feel if they come home from work to find a simple trail of petals they are clearly intended to follow to a destination. Perhaps you could periodically place a loving note (see above) along the course of the trail. Just a few ideas for where the trail could end include:

A candlelight meal for two in your dining room, complete with a beautifully laid table.

A candlelight bathroom with a bath full of scented bubbles and a glass of champagne on the side of the bath

A romantically lit bedroom (either with candles again, or dimmed electric lighting). The trail of rose petals ending on the bed itself

You, dressed in sexy lingerie (if you are a woman of course), and draped across a sofa or bed etc

Outside into the garden where a table, two chairs, a bottle of wine and two glasses await, and some soft music is playing in the background. This is most effective if done in the evening, and again a candle within a lantern helps to create the right romantic atmosphere

To a gift you know they will love, perhaps a giant teddy bear or a huge bunch of flowers

A Phone Call, Text or Email

During the day find time to make a short phone call or to send an email or text to your loved one telling them that you miss them or that you love them. It will only take you a few minutes, but it will let your partner know that you are thinking about them and remind them that you do care.

Holding Hands

A simple gesture like reaching out to hold your partner's hand when you are walking along the street can mean a lot to them. It demonstrates that you are proud to be seen with them and want to have physical contact and show the world you two are an item.

Surprise Gifts

A surprise gift doesn't need to cost much, it is the fact that you took the time to stop and think of a little something your partner would like that makes this gesture so romantic. Trust me when I say that most Husbands, Wives, boyfriends or girlfriends will be touched that you thought of them during your day, and then presented them with the small gift when you saw them next. The gifts can be anything that your budget can stand, but some examples might include:

A bunch of flowers

A single red rose

A chocolate heart, bunny, teddy bear etc (Lindt seem to make plenty of these kinds of shapes)

A piece of lingerie (mostly a gift for men to buy for their woman, but who knows!)

A bottle of their favourite tipple

An example of something they collect, be it ornaments, stamps, postcards etc

Kissing

It may come as a surprise to you to know that one of the first things to 'go' in a failing relationship is the kissing. Couples will carry on having sexual relationships together well after they stop feeling comfortable with kissing each other. Even just a kiss goodbye when you leave the house to go to work or go shopping, or a kiss goodnight when one of you retires to bed before the other, is a romantic gesture in itself.

Compliments

This might seem obvious, but so many people forget to pay attention to their partner by paying them simple compliments, (and this happens with even the most happily married couples). It is frustrating when you have made an effort to look nice for your partner and they fail to notice or comment on it. Even if you haven't noticed any obvious changes, a compliment can go a long way towards making your partner feel secure and loved. Consider complimenting your Husband, Wife or partner on things like:

Their great figure or their recent weight loss

Their new hair style

Their new outfit

Their physique/muscle tone

Their cooking

Their abilities in the bedroom!

The great job they have done of the gardening, the housework, the decorating etc

Their driving skills

Their sense of humour

Write a Poem

If you are one of those people who is good at writing poetry then why not write a poem dedicated to your partner. You can either give them the poem as it is, or even get it framed and hung up on a wall ready for when they come home from work.

A Picnic

Surely one of the most romantic ways a couple can enjoy a meal is as a picnic. You can fill a hamper with all your partner's favourite foods, and then find a lovely location to surprise him or her with the picnic. Why not take this a step further and make it moonlight picnic under the stars by the light of a full moon.

Cuddling

No matter how old any of us get, we all benefit from a cuddle on occasion, especially when we are feeling down or depressed. It takes just a couple of minutes out of your day to go up to your Husband, Wife or lover and give them a cuddle. It shows them you care and want to be close to them, (without it necessarily being a prelude to a sexual liaison).

A Treasure Trail

Create a series of clues that take him or her on a treasure hunt around your house and garden. Each clue could have a romantic sentiment on it, and a clue to where the next clue can be found. The treasure trail can end with a loving and romantic gift for him or her to find such as:

A piece of jewellery

A box of chocolates

A framed photo of the two of you together


Breakfast in Bed

This is one of the nicest things you can do to show your partner how much you love them. Get up early and cook them a superb fried breakfast with everything on it, bacon, eggs, sausages, tomato, mushrooms, fried bread etc. Take it up on a tray with orange juice and tea or coffee, plus a side plate of toast. If there is room on the tray a single rose in a small vase really finishes off the tray nicely.

Create a CD of their Favourite Music

This one is self explanatory. If you know what kind of music your partner loves, then why not create a customised CD for them featuring all their favourite romantic tracks. I find the soundtracks from romantic movies good for inspiration, e.g. Ghost and Dirty Dancing amongst others. Naturally this depends on the person and their own preferences, but I am sure you can come up with some good ideas based on your knowledge of your partner.

Reminisce

Take time to reminisce over good times you have had together, whether they were last week or last year. This helps to remind both of you why you fell in love in the first place, and allows you to show your partner how much those times meant to you (and how much the future ones will also mean to you).

Give them a Massage

Give your loved one a romantic massage which does or doesn't lead to a more intimate encounter. The important thing is that your partner knows you love them unconditionally, and that they are not obliged to follow up the act by making love afterwards, (for instance if they are tired from work, looking after the children etc). The massage can be purely to show your partner that you care that they feel relaxed and appreciate how tired they are. Of course if they clearly do want the massage to lead to making love afterwards that is perfectly okay, (and an added bonus for both of you).

Praise them in front of your Friends

Say complimentary things that praise your partner to your friends, preferably when your partner is within earshot so that he or she hears how much you appreciate them and why. It is always nice to feel appreciated and loved, but somehow extra special when you hear these qualities being quoted to other people.

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A Romantic Walk

Whether you choose a walk along the beach in the sunset, a stroll through a pretty woodland or a snowy walk across the park, these kinds of scenic walks are romantic activities couples can enjoy together, listening to the sounds of nature and taking in some fresh air. Such walks can create some treasured memories for the future.

I hope these suggestions have given you a few new ideas for how to put some romance into your relationships and keep the passion and love alive. We should always remember that every day we are creating memories for the future, and we can never rely on the fact our partners in life will be around forever. In our later years we will draw on our memories to make us smile, so why not make sure those memories are the best they can be, both for ourselves and our chosen partners.

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wonderful1 4 years ago from Southern California

So well put! Thank you for sharing those fantastic ideas. You are a true romantic, and it shows. I kind of long to have someone again to try all those things with. That intimacy-- to have someone to spoil with love-- is what I miss most being single. Happiness for me is making those I love happy. I voted up, and a bunch of other stuff-- this is a keeper.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks wonderful1, I really hope you do find someone special in your life who will treat you like this, and preferably sooner rather than later as you sound like you deserve this kind of relationship :)


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Earthy Mother 4 years ago from South East England

I like this hub! It is so true...you do take each other for granted and this is a reminder not too. Voted up!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Earthy Mother, pleased you like this :)


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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico

Good on yer, Misty: a real woman of the Earth.

I am a believer in sex toys myself: they can be used by my love alone or with me. And they help flagging flagpoles!

Bob xx


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

LOL Bob, you are a shocker but so funny with it :)


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Seeker7 4 years ago from Fife, Scotland

A fabulous hub misty! I agree with everything you've said here - it's such a shame that so many people let things drift into stalemate and boredom with their relationships.

As to sex, young folks in particular can be pre-occupied with the 'quality' as you mention, but forget the rest of the relationship. The fact is, that when the rest of the relationship is very good and romantic, then sex tends to be super without any effort! So like you suggest, folks need to work harder out of bed first, rather than focusing too much on the 'in bed' gymnastics!LOL!!! Sorry but I couldn't think of another way to put this without it sounding really crude!!! I must be getting old!

Anyway, a really great hub, with lovely romantic suggestions, and this will help all of us in our relationships. Voted up + awesome!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Seeker7, I think you phrased the 'in bed gymnastics' comment very well actually. Too many youngsters seem to think it is all about their bedroom abilities and forget the more important romantic gestures.

So pleased you enjoyed this :)


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Fuller-Life 4 years ago from Washington, DC

Thanks Mistyhorizon, great reminders for keeping or sparking the fires of love. I loved reading the hub and will definitely keep up with some romance. voted.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Good attitude Fuller-Life, I am sure from looking at your picture that you will :)


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Sheila Lee 4 years ago from Canada

Nicely done! You've even given ME some great ideas!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I am delighted to hear that Sheila, good luck with them :)


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai

mistyhorizon2003, your romantic ideas were really romantic.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Mathira, glad you liked them :)


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Green Lotus 4 years ago from Atlanta, GA

You've got some winning ideas here and every one is worth a go. I've been accused of being too corny at times with the gifts and compliments but I think I just have a husband who blushes easily!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

LOL Green Lotus, romantic often IS corny, but that is because it so sweet and full of stereotypical actions. Stills feels nice to be on the receiving end of it though :)


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100ktrainer 4 years ago from Michigan

Another Great Hub.. Thanks for the share!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks 100Ktrainer, really glad you enjoyed it :)


Lulu 4 years ago

I think your ideas are good cause its what we all know as couples ,but we should learn to keep our relationship strong and growing by being honest sharing ideas on our love life its all up to us ,but as long as we trully love each other we will be honest and stick to what we started


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

An excellent comment Lulu, thanks four sharing your thoughts here :)


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mbruun 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Thank you mistyhorizon. Along with being very well written, I find it motivating.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Awww, thanks mbrunn, that is a really nice compliment to receive :)


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loveandsex 4 years ago from NIGERIA

I must commend on this. You write amazingly well. this is a very useful hub. Thanks for sharing


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thank you loveandsex, that is a fantastic compliment and I really appreciate it :)


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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico

Hi Misty. Sex without genuine respect, affection or love never meant much to me.

But women today don't seem to want romance, rather a posh car, money and someone 20 years younger than them! Really.

Sometimes your own desire for romance can blind you to what is really going on and what your partner really wants

Bob

PS This came up as a new hub and I forgot my earlier reply (which content shows what emotional chamelions we are!)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

LOL Bob, well great to see you here again anyway :D (I'll settle for romance without the car or the money, (heck I already did!)


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Jaspals 4 years ago from India / Australia

Really wonderful writing. I enjoyed reading. I will certainly try few ideas.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

That is lovely to hear Jaspals, I hope the ideas strengthen the depth of love in your relationship :)


Celine 4 years ago

did i fall in love? when i thinking about him my heart beats so fast and when i see him i just become cheerful.When i talk to him i become nervous. Am i falling in love with him?(sorry for my bad english)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

It certainly sounds like you are Celine, all the signs appear to be there. I think the 'thinking about him making your heart beat faster' was the key :)


Celine 4 years ago

OMG... then what should i do now?


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

LOL Celine, just go with the flow and enjoy it. Hopefully he feels the same way, and in your shoes I would wait for him to tell you he loves you before you declare your love for him, (men sometimes feel 'trapped' if they are told by the girl she loves them first, so let it be his decision to voice it, then you can say 'I love you too').

Meanwhile just enjoy yourselves and don't worry about it. It is meant to be fun :)


Celine 4 years ago

But if he doesn;t like me...then my heart will broken

T.T


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Don't rush things Celine, if he likes you he will tell you when he is ready. If he doesn't feel the same depths of love back, then far better for you to ultimately meet someone who does feel the same way, even though it will hurt for a while. We have all had our hearts broken many times, but they do heal, and we do find new people we love just as much (except in very rare cases.)


Flickr 4 years ago

fabulous ideas, i will certainly use many of them. thank you. my soon to be wife loves it.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage Flickr, it should be a very happy one if you stick with these tips :)


diogenes 4 years ago

Yr sounding like an "agony aunt," Missy! (comment to Celine)

(I'm bored and looking to pick on someone a safe distance away!)

R x


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

LOL, I often seem to find myself in agony aunt mode Bob. Not sure how it happens, but it is a common occurrence throughout hubs of mine that were never intended for that purpose. I think I missed my vocation in life :)


Celine 4 years ago

haha...sorry because i don't have any experience before(to diogenes)

he is my childhood friend and i fell in love with him about 14 years already...i have think about let him go but at last i couldn't do it and i realise my feeling get stronger.(sorry for my bad english)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I hope it all works out for you Celine. What is meant to be will be, and hopefully it will turn out he feels the same way in the end :)


Celine 4 years ago

yeah... i hope so.


Yume 4 years ago

should I confess to my cousin?


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Confess to what Yume?


Yume 4 years ago

tell him that i love him~


Yume 4 years ago

tell him that i like him~


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Tricky one Yume, as if he is your first cousin I don't believe you would be allowed to get involved with each other sexually for legal reasons, (depending on where you live in the world). Here it would be considered incest and therefore illegal, although I believe it is okay if you are second cousins. Probably best you hang on for someone who is not a blood relative.


Yume 4 years ago

he's my mother sister's son...


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Yes, your cousin in other words, which would generally make it illegal for you to have any kind of sexual intimacy or a marriage with him depending on the laws of your country.


Yume 4 years ago

then, it's okey for me fall in love with him?


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

You can't help you you fall in love with, but the point is you can't take things any further than knowing you love him or you would be breaking the law.


Yume 4 years ago

thanks for yours advice... but what should i do know?


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

My advice is to put this boy out of your mind as anything other than a friend and focus on enjoying your life until a nice boy comes along who you fall in love with and who is not related to you. There really is no other option available to you. Good Luck.

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