How to get the man of your dreams and keep him!

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It is so simple, it just might work!

So often women are surrounded by media images of females that are considered the most "desirable" to men. As women these images seep into our brains over time, they effect the way that we view ourselves. We are constantly comparing ourselves to the models in the magazines that never seem to age or gain weight, women who will have a child and within six weeks look like they never had a child. Then we spend our days counting calories and spend hours a day trying to achieve the flat bellies with slender legs just like the models. We will stand in front of the mirror doing our hair and makeup until our legs are numb.


As superficial as they come...okay you should laugh here.
As superficial as they come...okay you should laugh here. | Source

There are some women that go even further. Believe me you have met some of these women, the ones that will tell a man whatever she thinks he wants to hear to keep him interested. This act is not really wise as eventually the truth will come out. Why would anyone want to hide the truth about themselves? For that question I have no answer. It doesn't seem to be ethical or respectful to themselves or to the man involved.

Is this the secret to attracting the perfect man? Maybe it is the secret to bagging a man perfectly obsessed with our looks. I am not saying that it isn't good to look our best, I am just saying that should be for ourselves not a man. As to the pretending to be something your not, why would you want to?

My friend took this of a real woman that he knows. She is perfectly comfortable in her skin, she doesn't need surgery to look this good.  She doesn't pretend to be anything other than what she is.
My friend took this of a real woman that he knows. She is perfectly comfortable in her skin, she doesn't need surgery to look this good. She doesn't pretend to be anything other than what she is. | Source

There is one sure fire way to get the man of your dreams. You have to be yourself. Most men, while they like to look at super models, really want a woman that they get along with and feel at ease with when they are around. If you are constantly putting on a "show" the man might not be able to relax, thus creating an invisible barrier between the two of you. Men like women that actually eat. They enjoy real conversations about mutual interests. Believe it or not men like real women.

If you are who you really are at all times, you will attract a man who is really attracted to you as a whole because he will have similar personality traits and this will keep that man with you for the long haul. It is so simple, it just might work!


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Sounds like good advice. Our society plays a huge part in why women do what they do to themselves re: looks, diet, etc and how men buy into it as well. Both genders are guilty of this, but love and life are deeper than mere looks. Anyone who is that superficial won't attract someone who also is not superficial.


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Erin Boggs1 5 years ago from Western Maryland Author

I think you said it perfectly. I fell bad for the people out there judging others by there looks, I personally feel that Beauty is something that resonates from the inside out, woefully the mass majority does not, yet...


blog8withJ 5 years ago

That's a good and sound advice- be comfortable on your own skin. As what they said...and I do believe that models can make you feel insecure- so better be stay away from magazines. Lol---


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Erin Boggs1 5 years ago from Western Maryland Author

Yes they can. I avoid magazines.


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kerlynb 5 years ago from Philippines, Southeast Asia, Earth ^_^

"You have to be yourself." - Amen to that. We just can't fake things, right? We women should be proud of who we are coz somehow that pride would be mirrored in our confidence. And who does not want a confident lady? :)


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Erin Boggs1 5 years ago from Western Maryland Author

So true...Being confident is very very important.

I never did understand that manipulative streak that some women have coursing in their veins. I have several female friends who would pretend to be what they thought a man wanted to just catch a fellow by the toe. They would fake pregnancies to try to get a man to marry them, it was just insane. I have also seen the girls that spend their lives trying to look like a barbie doll because they think that is what men want.


cindy 4 years ago

While I agree that you have to be yourself and confident, there's something which I tried and it worked for me. Have you wanted something so much that you keep on thinking about it, visualizing it and you get it in the end? I don't want to sound superstitious but the Kechara Red Tara Chakra really helps attract the right relationship into your life. Only when you believe.

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