How to Be a Good Husband to Your Wife - 11 Qualities to Be the Perfect One

A good husband makes a good wife.
A good husband makes a good wife.

Eleven Qualities of an Ideal Husband

Many women spend their lives looking for a good husband. Even some parents won't sleep peacefully until they feel that their daughter is with a good man. After I wrote about the qualities of a good wife, I got a request to write about how to be a good husband or what sort of a husband a lady looks for. It is often heard that a good son will be a good husband. But I think a man should be more than just a good son to be a perfect husband.

Below are the desirable qualities of a husband.

Any wife would appreciate her husband cooking for her at least once in a while.
Any wife would appreciate her husband cooking for her at least once in a while.
Any wife would love it if her man took care of the kids while she was busy.
Any wife would love it if her man took care of the kids while she was busy. | Source

How to Be a Good Husband?

1) Be Pleasant: Nobody likes an arrogant man. Be pleasant to everyone around you including your wife, friends and family. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. It is often said that ‘What we give is what we get back.’ Try to arrive home as cheery and lighthearted as you can, even if you had a bad day at the office or are physically exhausted after driving through traffic. Just because your wife does not go out to work does not mean that her work is less strenuous. She might have been struggling with children and housework all day.

2) Respect the Vows: Faithfulness and loyalty are prime qualities a wife wants in her man. Have a sense of honor and duty. Remember that when you got married you took sacred vows. The honorable thing is to fulfill your duty to your wife that you took upon yourself the day you got married. It is the duty of a man to provide for his family. Never expect your wife to contribute to the smooth operation of the household. Even in this day and age of women in the workplace, most prefer to have that as an option rather than a necessary part of their lives. Motherhood and caring for a husband and home usually takes priority. Never assume that the money you earn is yours to do with as you like. You have a family to think about and their needs must always come before your own.

3) Reliable, Responsible and Supportive: Every woman wants her partner to be reliable and be there for her when she needs her. Support your wife in all stages of life. Provide reassurance when she is feeling down. Do not belittle her or hurt her ego. If she is a working woman understand her work pressures and problems. Be proud of her accomplishments and do not forget to compliment her. Be available for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on or when she needs support from you. Let her know that you care for her. When you are not near her at least make a phone call, even if you talk to her for only a minute or two. When you come back after work or on weekend do things with her or help her in whatever way possible. She will appreciate it even if you are not much of a help beca. Be a friend to her. When you don’t agree with her views, respectfully let her know that you don’t agree and give good reasons.

4) Adaptability and Sensitivity: As years pass by you'll see that glowing woman you fell in love with years ago does not look the same or behave in the same manner. She may be tied up with the pressure of home like the needs of children, financial obligations, etc. Allow her time to relax by taking some weight off her shoulders or take some time out so that you can spend some time together relaxing. Be sensitive to the needs of your wife and look to meet them. Do not let your feelings toward life's changes affect your feelings toward your wife. An ideal man needs to be sensitive to the requirements of his partner, treat her as an equal, understand when she needs to stay late at work or help with housework and contribute to the expenses.

5) Show Respect: If you expect respect from others, you need to treat others with respect too. Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving manner and refrain from speaking harshly. A good husband never chooses to belittle, strike, humiliate or otherwise harm his wife in private or in public. It is better to watch what you say and to think your thoughts through before speaking, as it is not possible to take back words once they have been spoken. Treat her with respect in front of others and at home. Do not look at other ladies in front of her. Take her opinion into cinsideration when making important decisions for the family. If you are bringing your buddies home, let her know in advance.

6) Judgment and Emotional Baggage: Many of us have emotional baggage. But do not bring that emotional baggage into the marriage. Many men praise their previous wives, girlfriends or mothers in front of their wives. Avoid judging every action or opinion your wife has and understand that she is different from you. Her experiences and likings may be different from yours, too. Making her feel that she does not measure up will only ruin your marriage.

7) Communication: Communication is the key to a solid marriage. Women also expect honesty in men. Honesty is what builds trust in your relationship with your woman. She may even forgive your mistakes, but only if you are honest with her and promise not to do it again. Women like their men to be open to them at all times and not keep them in the dark about what is going on in their lives. Find time to sit and talk with your wife on a daily basis even if it is just during dinner time. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with her then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when she talks. Your wife too wants someone to listen to her and empathize with what's going on in her life. Listen avidly to your wife's complaints. Women cannot resist a man who understands their moods, attitude, feelings, values, likes and dislikes. This will encourage her to open up with you and not keep secrets. Good communication helps in building trust and strengthens your relationship. Make your woman laugh often. Women love men who are witty and have a sense of humor. Fights or problems may happen but do not let the world know about it, rather solve it between yourselves. The fight you had last week over shopping or whatever is over and done with. So move on and stop rehashing old stuff and reminding her of her faults. Do not resort to name-calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes or anything else when you lose your temper.

8) Love and Affection: Show your love and affection to her as often as possible. Every woman is a sucker for affection. If you only give her that stuff to get her into bed, your wife is going to notice and think it's insincere. A good husband will appreciate his wife and will notice her, even after twenty or fifty years of marriage. She needs you to notice when she gets a new haircut or dresses up in something sexy for you to come home to. If you fail to notice what she is doing for you too many times, she may just count it as fruitless and quit. Give your partner something fancy when she least expects it. Surprise her by planning a trip, preparing a nice dinner, giving a bunch of her favorite flowers or taking her out for shopping. Every woman likes to be pampered. Women, one way or the other, are nothing but overgrown babies who constantly need care. But every woman has their likings. Give her things that she likes instead of forcing your likes on her and show her that you care and will be always there for her. Never forget the special days in her life. Make an effort to initiate spontaneous affection with your wife. Build companionship by doing things together like a common interest or hobby. Give her a hug or a surprise kiss and tell her how much you love her. Hold hands with her when you’re out together. These small gestures show your wife that you’ve thought of her and help you reinforce your commitment to her.

9) Offer Protection: A woman needs to feel safe and secure with her man. She needs to feel that when he is with her no one can harm her. You don't need to be a muscle man but at least when you are with her others should not be making passes at her. She wants her man to behave like a man and treat her like a lady.

10) Give Her Space: As a husband you need to understand that your wife has a life other than you. She has her parents, friends and colleagues who too are part of her life. She also may have some hobbies or passions. Don’t expect her undivided attention. Don’t stop her if she wants to go out and hang out with her friends sometimes, engage in a hobby or spend some time with her parents.

11) Keep Her Happy in Bed: Sexual intimacy is essential to any marriage. Good sex helps to strengthen your emotional and physical attraction to her. Please your wife in bed and be faithful to her. No woman would tolerate a cheating partner. Good sex plays a vital part when it comes to a satisfying relationship and if you are not skilled in bed that is going to be a major turn-off. Never grumble about having to support children you didn't want to have. If you were irresponsible enough to help her get pregnant, then it is your duty to pay for that child. Do not bring porn into a relationship. Porn will only create unrealistic expectations in your mind about your spouse’s libido, body, and comfort level with weird sex positions.

In short, if you don't like how your partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior. If you are an ideal husband, that will help your wife to be an ideal wife. A wife usually responds to the way that she is treated. If she is treated like she is worthless, she will be worthless to you. But, if you treat her well, she will be a jewel in your crown, a pleasure to you and a forever blessing.

Have I left out anything? Feel free to add them in the comments.

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Paul Reid 2 weeks ago from Lot- 75 ,Darliston P.O. Westmoreland Ja.

This hub is quite interesting.I agree with the salient pointers made.A man with good qualities of a husband equally desires a charming woman with same or better. In any case,neither partner will ever have perfect qualities.


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Deborah Demander 6 months ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

You make some great points here. Thanks for writing.

I'm pretty lucky. My husband does most of the above every day. We have a wonderful marriage.

Namaste


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punitbook 8 months ago from India

These all 11 points is to set strong understanding between two people. There can be more points apply on relation. While we talk about India there are lots of tradition to follow and all men or women are not ready to survive their life by following them. It is very important to create clear understanding between two.. anyway nice tips


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Jojo Yousef 17 months ago

Good hub, any woman needs to have a good husband


PMARTIN 2 years ago

This is fine if your wife is Donna Reed!! Today's woman wouldn't respect a man like this and abuse him. Look at some of the responses.."housework", "pleasing in bed". Also..be honest, wives sit at work and all they do is tell how stupid their husbands are and his failures (I worked in an office) but he is supposed to show her respect? It's a nice pleasant article but you really cant please today's woman.


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ubanichijioke 3 years ago from Lagos

Thank you for this.

Very helpful...


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Ingenira 3 years ago

Excellent advice to men who want to be a good husband. Totally agreed with your list ! Voted up!


jitin9ahuja 3 years ago

I like it!! Great views ! Appreciated!

i am single but yes i will make sure to be on all qualities of a good husband before marriage:-)


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Motherbynature 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

Awesome article. Voted up. Why are people complaining about things they say you didn't mention, and the points are right there in the article? Pay attention! Sheesh.


Tagsnowy 4 years ago

I think if every guy reads this & seriously take every point on board. We would all have long & happy marriages.


Sarctop 4 years ago

my partner always says,'' smile and tell me your problems, lets laugh at all dirty things that went all along the day at your work. No scary secrets.....have me told all that keeps you away...You will find me much nearer and closer to your heart''. I believe relationship works better when you share your dirty and scary secrets now than later.


Thomas Benjamin, Wamba, Nas/st Nig. 4 years ago

Hmmmm, wow, I must said 'KUDOS' 2 d articles I read, coz by God's grace my marriage wil b parted by death wen God provide me an understanding wife.tx!tx!! n tx....


Mazhar 4 years ago

Nice post to make maried life easy.


Deng Chan Chan 4 years ago

I have learned alot. I married in 2011 but due to lack of the above qualities, our life teared apart within the period of 6months. She is now living alone and likewise to me. We developed hatred more than the love we had be4. I am trying now to get another one using this guideline. I am 24yrs old male from south sudan, northern bahr el ghazal state, aweil. If anyone want to know more about me on facebook, search: Deng Alek and you will get linked to my public updates.


Rohan 4 years ago

Let me get married n then I will post that how much did this help ????


Messenger 4 years ago

Dear Amy

Pray like your life depends on it... every hour if you have to... If you love him enough to stick around for 45 years than pray for him - you will definitely see changes in your life.

Tanz! :)


Amy 4 years ago

My huusband hasn't done any of the above. Married 45 years, only had sex once, no communication, intimacy no nothing.

I live upstairs and he lives in the basement, alone with no friends, computer, tv, phone. And won't talk to me. Its been years since he actually went out of his way to say something to me. I've tryed and all I get is go away and leave me alone. We live like apartment dwellers.

There is so much more to our story, I would like to write a book.


mona 4 years ago

Main problem in Indian family is mother of man. There is no life for wife because of mother in law. I am Indian woman in america and I want my daughter to make this very clear whom she marry that no MIL .


jatinder singh 4 years ago

wow anamika u have done gteat jobe for me .....


john 4 years ago

im sitting here reading all your comments my wife left me to go and live with her mother in the sun in spain im in the with her so much and deep down i think she loves me why you ask because she wants me to come to spain and live there why have i got a broken heart you ask maybe i will tell you all sum time my story is worth listing too god bless you all


anom 4 years ago

wheres the section about keeping the house tidy as well as your appearance?


wilson 4 years ago

very useful


victor kiptanui 4 years ago

Answering to rekha i wud say dat it depends on d individual nature of husband,their mood at d moment and d way u ask them for household works..also d type of work..as a woman won't like to struggle in sm que in a sunny day n her husband sitting in icecream parlour on road side,in d same way one shdnt forces husband to do work they r nt made for..bt wife is ill,pregnant etc. An ideal,caring husband will surely come ahead


Bharat 4 years ago

Its kind of interesting to note that most of them who have commented on this article are women.. Ladies you have a separate article to read. Leave this for men. :) Good luck.


Vandy 4 years ago

Answering to rekha i wud say dat it depends on d individual nature of husband,their mood at d moment and d way u ask them for household works..also d type of work..as a woman won't like to struggle in sm que in a sunny day n her husband sitting in icecream parlour on roadside,in d same way one shdnt forces husband to do work they r nt made for..bt wife is ill,pregnant etc. An ideal,caring husband will surely come ahead


Vandy 4 years ago

Good tips of course..even if my hubby dsnt hv each of these qualities m d d luckiest wife i believe..v respect our differences n ..its really magical


Adel 4 years ago

It seems that when husbands read this article get mad that "what about the wife" a vise versa. This particular article is about husbands in general and there is one about wives in general. It is ironic to see the ones that have suffered the most. Respect is the essense of relationship. If you did not live it when you were growing up, you probably now going to show it when you are married and then always fight why you are not getting it.


ali 4 years ago

this page is for men

donot compare your hubby


Stuck on the Bus Girl_12 4 years ago

A woman looking for a man to marry seeks a gentleman who treats her right and shows respect. I am from the UK and my sister once dated a guy for 5 years hoping to marry him, then he left for 2 years and returned later only to look like a jerk to my sister by having LOUD SEX with my sister's roommate next door to her. Ladies, this is not the man who will marry you and stay monogamous. Gentleman, do not do this if you ever want a chance with a lady to marry because it is tasteless and rude. Word to the wise...women do not like guys like that for a husband.


UKLady 4 years ago

Hello there,

I would say one thing all the points on "how to be a good husband" are excellent, but it's all a fantasy, you will not find all these qualities in a man, it's too good to be true.

You certainly cannot guarantee these qualities in men from India, I am british born and chose to marry a guy from India, at the time I thought I was the luckiest girl in town and went out of my way to do things for him, but in return all I have experienced in my nearly 9yrs of marriage is stress, grief, lies, deceit, his family's interference even they are in India, brainwashing him with supersitious thinking, and the times I have visited I have felt harrassed by them.

I am going off the subject here, but one thing I would say to all Indian girls born in the UK/Canada/America etc etc, PLEASE DO NOT MARRY A MAN FROM INDIA!!!! they are lying, manipulative, game playing creatures, I thought I was marring a modern educated man from India but he turned out to be the most backward man on this earth.


mercy 4 years ago

really good subject but how do i know if my hubby is cheating?


foff 4 years ago

Power struggle says it all...what is it about relationships that make people want to assert their dominance and control over others? Animals do this too.


favour 4 years ago

Men who are not use to should learn how to take their wife out, less, the wife may find another out taker else where. Because women like to be seen and admired.


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Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

I just love your "Eleven Qualities of an ideal husband," but they need to be given to young couples as well. #4 is probably the problem that the older spouse, especially a male, had with a previous spouse, although the loss of a previous spouse could be the reason he is getting married at an older age.

Many men do not adjust well to the natural aging process of women, which is the reason so many older women go through numerous body altering surgeries, facelifts, for example. Men seldom do these things because women usually accept them as they are. Women even consider their natural aging as sexy, mature, or attractive. Women do not mind having wrinkled men. Men can be pieces of work, but women let them get away with it. Older women have been conditioned to be ashamed of themselves as they age because they are often criticized by men. Even though many men become obese as they age, most do not want obese women. Women hide their gray hair with dye or wigs. Many women have died due to some crazy crash diet trying to please their husbands. This happened to a dear relative who lost 40 pounds in a couple of weeks. It was too much for her body.

There is no law against marrying an older or younger person, unless the younger person is underage as described by the law. Many young couples have many marital difficulties that may outnumber those of odd-aged couples. So, who is to say what is better or worse unless it is obvious. If odd-aged couples want to marry, and all is well and right, "May the force be with them!"


sheila 4 years ago

two thumbs up.,,i am starting to enumerate what are the attitudes of my man to be an ideal husband.,, and i am proud that he pass and he haS all THE ATTItUDE being an ideal husband for me.,,


imdadul 4 years ago

wife is like a beautiful flower

so handle her with care


Nat 4 years ago

Married 40 plus years and after the first 10 years or so I lost interest in the wife. Now I only like her as a friend. I don't consider us married any more. We hadn't had sex,intimacy or any thing for 30 years, and I'm happy about that, she is a lousy lover. We live as apartment dewellers. I have down stairs and upstairs.


Quebec 4 years ago

Just respect her and her family and she should also respect your family in equal measure. If both do that then your in heaven. If even one side dont do that then it start going to hell.


chaitra 4 years ago

Hello Anamika:)excellent suggestions... what i noticed till now is sorry advicing is very easy but it becomes comes very difficult when men is dominating.


mcboye 4 years ago

am filled and what of if you later found your wife with another. What do you do?


Krishna 4 years ago

Hi anamika, it’s nice advise to all Men who want to make her wife happy. I want to add one more point : Never differentiate her Parents Or Relatives from you


raj.99 4 years ago

its really a nice. All points which you mentioned are correct, and really agree with this.But if wife still does not change herself then what do you say about that.


aamir 4 years ago

nice must read stuff


Ms. Unique 4 years ago

I really wish that I read your good wife/good husband hubs years ago. My husband and I are both extreme and passionate people. I think we love each other but we have behaved so poor with one another and been so disrespectful towards each other verbally I don't think that your hub can save us. To much damage has been done. I will definitely use your goodwife views for my future husband. It is so important for people to remember to try to hold your tongue especially when you are angry. You are right we can't not take words back once they are said.


Scott has a piss-poor attitude. 4 years ago

Shame on you, Scott. The world if full of all kinds of people and we're short on any of them. Maybe your ex-wife was like that, but most women aren't.


Scott 4 years ago

After being married for 2 yrs I put a gun to my head and demanded a divorce. 2 yrs of being told I was not smart enough to bring a carload of balloons to a wedding party, 2 yrs of being told that the dead plants on the side of the house were dead, 2 yrs of working on HER house and my neighbor lady bringing me a glass of water and a sandwich...two years of neglect...DONE. I'LL NEVER GET MARRIED AGAIN...TO HELL WITH ALL WOMEN...YOU'RE ALL ALIKE, SELFISH, SELF CENTERED, MANIPULATIVE, MEAN, CRUEL AND ONLY LOOKING TO A MANS WALLET AND NOT HIS HEART.


aksub 4 years ago

Some valid points, but extremely sexist.


Chipettah3 4 years ago

Wow awesome I copied to send to hubby! I'm new to ask ! Can u tell me anything ? I notice u have things for sale . What's that about ? I'm a Christian also looking for friends who want to prepare for future problems in our country ?


Uruzz Tyrburr 4 years ago

After reading ever thing here on this page it seems very one sided


Prasanth 4 years ago

I am getting married within 3 months. I am going to send my would be the links to your threads "How to be a good husband" and "How to be a good wife". I totally agree with your views. Thank you


Amit 4 years ago

But Women also should be active in bed and support their husbands to make sex more effective


merry 5 years ago

This is a very Good advice for the husands and am happy when me and my hubby do the chores together which has really helped our marriage,doing things together.


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hlnorg 5 years ago

Also, I love that you included loyalty and faithfulness, so many marriages today are lacking those two. The husbands have no sense of allegiance to their wives, and when out of sight behave very badly and disparage their wives. I am adding honesty to your list. I believe that the truth should always be told regardless of what the consequences might be.


hlnorg 5 years ago

Love this hub! Numbers 2 and 5 are my favorite. I do not believe any marriage can survive without numbers 2 and 5. Any marriage without them is unhealthy, and cannot be a happy one. Thanks for sharing!

"If we all treat each other like we treat ourselves - what a wonderful place earth would be."


zaid 5 years ago

very good hub. i like it very much . it has teach me very important thing in my life and i hope the things i will follow will work. i love my wife so much...


rekha 5 years ago

is it ok for a housewife to expect her husband to help her with some housework?


Jaxson 5 years ago

I am not asking my husband to be all of these, all at one time during our marriage, but I think for me, Number 9 is the most important, I do not feel protected by my husband.


Goke 5 years ago

i printed both 12 qualities on how to be a good housewife to your husband and took home from offshore where i worked to my wife to read them together,sincerely speaking my home became a newly welded home from my wife.


Basit Ali 5 years ago

I think if you want to be a good human being, you have to be a good husband.


MANJU 5 years ago

ITS A GOOD THING THAT ONE MUST READ COMPULSARY BEFORE GETTING MARRIED

THE THING I NEED TO ADD IT AS THE 12 TH IDEAL POINT IS THAT THE WIFE SHOULD NOT FEEL ANY HESITATION IN SATISFYING HER HUSBAND IN BED RATHER SAYING THAT SHE IS NOT IN THE MOOD TODAY


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ubanichijioke 5 years ago from Lagos

Great piece, jam-packed with great and useful information.


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Jo_Goldsmith11 5 years ago

Really good hub. I noticed that you left out the spiritual aspect. If one is a Christian and the spouse is Buddhist, atheist, Mormon? What then? Overall, I get the lesson! Excellent...voted up


cheryl 5 years ago

I am so glad to have read this article after reading How to be a good wife. I wish I had a printer attached to my phone


julija 5 years ago

hi again, anamika, again, i can say that women should not ask what they can't give to a man, and men should not ask what they can't give to a woman. only ask what u give (by this i don't mean 50%-50% in everything, that is almost impossible and not very romantic, right?) i meant the qualities men and women have same - feelings, emotions, ambitions. I would love to say - everyone should start with herself/himself. I ain't no perfect. but i wish to improve. He is no perfect...but u know, he seems perfect to me, my lovely one...


Betrayed 5 years ago

For the record, personal integrity has nothing to do with gender. People lie and cheat because it is a part of who they are and their character. All cheaters attempt to justify their actions by blaming their spouse. There is NEVER, EVER a valid reason to cheat on a spouse. If you are not happy then either get counseling or get a divorce - but don't lower yourself to the selfish, underhanded deed of causing "damage beyond repair" by cheating on them. I lived through this by making the unfortunate mistake of marrying a "younger woman". In the end she turned out to be the single biggest disappointment in my life. I don't recommend marriage to anyone, ever. Nothing is forever.


dessalew 5 years ago

thank you for all these points. i will try to implement all of them.


Robert 5 years ago

@ Naty

Thank you for your response.

Let me begin by saying that I agree with you 100% that any man who cheats is just as bad as a woman who cheats. So I am afraid your comment about sexism is irrelevant, because I do not agree with the idea that “a man is a man and he will leave u”. A real man should not leave his wife or family.

I did not mention that, because this blog post was about the behaviour of WIVES, so that’s the focus of our discussion here. So in that context, I repeat my comment that a woman who cheats on her husband because she is not happy in bed is a slut and should be dumped, as she is neither a lady nor fit to be a wife.

Secondly I feel sad that you don’t believe in unconditional love. It seems that the so called modern woman’s idea of marriage is a highly conditional transaction based on having your demands met first before giving anything in return. I repeat, this is not marriage, it is a business transaction.

I come from a Christian perspective, as I assume at least some of the readers do here. So I can only speak to that, although there are many similarities in other marriage traditions. Marriage is a commitment to spend the rest of your life with someone. Allow me to quote a portion of the marriage vows I and my wife undertook:

“I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad,

in sickness and in health. I will love you

and honour you all the days of my life.”

Note that the vows we took are to love and honour each other ALL THE DAYS OF LIVES NO MATTER WHAT. Most vows are variation on this.

I respectfully suggest to readers who subscribe to the feminist ideal of marriage (which places the emphasis on having your demands met rather than on fulfilling your duties as a wife) should not take such an oath, as they have no intention of keeping it. This devalues the sanctity of marriage as an institution, something which is accelerating at an alarming rate. It would be far more honest for their vow to read something like this:

“I promise to love you all the days of my life, UNLESS you get fat, don’t help in cleaning the house, don’t satisfy me in bed, or otherwise don’t give me what I want, in which case I will kick you to the curb.”

With views like that, is it any wonder that in the west marriages are falling apart, and real ladies (and gentlemen) are very much an endangered species.


Natty 5 years ago

@Robert

Truly unconditional love exists only to children. Grown up independent people who respect and love their partners should look after themselves and after the place where they live. Pay attention, it's not only about love, it's about respect for your partner. And if your spouse doesn't show you any respect - no wonder love dies.

As for sluts.. I think Elizabeth only wanted to equal men and women. Not a big secret - married women do cheat on their husbands just as much as married men on their wives. I mean, there is clear statistics - and even life experience shows the same (maybe in ultra strict religious societies it's different - but ONLY there, and ONLY out of fear, otherwise it would be the same, believe me - it's the human nature, and it's in women just like in men). But anyway women - in exactly the same situations - are blamed much harder.

Compare: "A man is a man - he will cheat on you and you will lose him" and yours "She's not a lady nor a wife worth having". Now, this is called SEXISM. Think about it.

In my personal opinion, male sluts are not any better (or worse) than female sluts - both are disgusting and should be treated equally. End of story.


Robert 5 years ago

@ Elizabeth Of course if you love your wife you should try to please her in bed. But if a woman will cheat on her husband simply because she is not happy with her sex life, then she is neither a lady nor a wife worth having. She is a slut who should be dumped. End of story.

@ Lady T, I guess you don't understand the concept of unconditional love. So you will only love your husband if he dresses well and does housework? That's not love. That's a business partnership. Marriage is for life, not for convenience.


snoop 5 years ago

haha, yeah i like your article, keep up the good work, i just got my lil idea how to treat a lady so good and so smooth, thanks for that! peace y'all


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gajanis786 5 years ago

Excellent....very good points....let's hope to implement those still not implemented for a happier family relationship.Thanks.


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Anamika S 5 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

@smita I have not left it. read point number 12.

@LadyT That makes sense!


LadyT 5 years ago

Nowhere here do you mention about a man having to maintain his appearance or that of the house. I think it is very sexist that you feel that a woman should have to do these things to be a good wife but a man does not need to. I sorry, but if my husband stopped looking after himself and got fat and smelly, and didn't help with or give a hoot about housework, he would be kicked to the curb. Thnak you.


Michael Shegs 5 years ago

That was a fabulous piece there! Keep it up!


jhay-ar 6 years ago

as i read, most of all said is favor for girls but i think on how to be a good one one word all you need is to FORGIVE


smita 6 years ago

Hey you left out this point : Please your woman in bed. If you cannot keep your woman happy in Bed she would go where she can get it.


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Woman Of Courage 6 years ago

What a great hub, Keep up the good work!


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nikipa 6 years ago from Eastern Europe

I really liked it! You have mentioned all the missing pieces of a puzzle (good husband).

But probably I will add one more here: Make your wife feel special!

Husbands, You will never regret doing that. :)

Thank You for Great Hub!


Samue A. Willie 6 years ago

I actually have no point to make but thanks for your peace of advice.


Elizabeth 6 years ago

A husband should try to please the woman in bed because just like the men, a woman has needs and if they're not being met she will go somewhere else to get it.


sidharthsid2001 6 years ago

Well Anamika, i feel what all is said by you is a bare truth, and 90% of all husbands know it. The only thing is that some neglect those things and some in the rush of life forget these basic things. Its good that you made them recollect their memories and made them treat their wives as a life partner rather than an asset. thumbs up!!!


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Swati Nitin Gupta 6 years ago from New Delhi

Very well written Anamika.


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Rismayanti 6 years ago from Tropical Island

Great hub,.. you give correct information and lesson for the husbands..thanks


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samboiam 6 years ago from Texas

Thanks for publishing this piece. I have been married for 19 years and I can testify to the fact if people will follow these tips they will have a successful marriage.

I have written a hub entitled "Here To Stay". I would appreciate it if you would check it out.

http://hubpages.com/relationships/Here-To-Stay


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SEO IT! 6 years ago from Tucson, AZ

A good husband should clean the house half of the time when his wife helps bring in the money. As a woman who has worked full-time, sometimes even more hours than her husband, I appreciate it when he takes some of the domestic pressure off.

A good husband helps put the kids to bed and holds one while his wife is taking care of another and never refers to his time with the kids as "babysitting".


srini  6 years ago

Thanks Anamika, good one. I guess few more for good husband (rather basics)...

1. Financial security.... its most basic, however I think its worth mention. Without this husband is incomplete. It today's worl even if wife is earning, she expects that husband is responsible for financial security.

2. Be good father....... women like husbands to be good fathers. Caring about kids & kid loving man is appreciated by wives.


shalu_vishaka 6 years ago

Liked both your hubs on good husband and wife..

keep writing


joel 6 years ago

There isn't much to say after all of these wonderful comments than to add how enjoyable it was reading this, and i have to agree 200%


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Steven King 6 years ago

I hate to sound repetitive Anamika but great hub! I really enjoyed it.


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Anamika S 6 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

Thanks for the encouragement Kartika. That means a lot to me.


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kartika damon 6 years ago from Fairfield, Iowa

Anamika, you should be commended for this hub - very well written and excellent advice for men who are serious about creating a loving and long lasting relationship. Kartika


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Anamika S 6 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

Thanks for expressing your Opinion The LIP and Professional Papa.


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Professional Papa 7 years ago from Tampa, FL

Anamika, nice hub. It is always important to work at being a good spouse!


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THE LIP 7 years ago from PLANET EARTH-SOMEWHERE IN ASIA

It may seem like an exaggeration but even today in middle class families it is the women who are the worst enemy of the bride while the men are forced to take sides in this silent power struggle between the proverbial saas-bahu tussle.

While the mother uses emotional blackmail to keep her son inside her apron strings the new bride tries to woo her husband with her beauty and charms.

Getting the balance right is a delicate matter and not everyone succeeds as Peter put it.His marriage lasted for 30 years and then it crumbled.Marriages cannot survive on compromise just as they cannot survive on love alone.


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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

Thanks for the visit Vizay. I have already written on that subject. Here is a link to How to be a good wife to your Husband http://hubpages.com/relationships/How-to-be-a-good...


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Vizey 7 years ago

Women dream of good husbands but it is matter of luck. Thanks for advice but you should also write on " How to be a good Wife"


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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

Thanks for the nice comment fastfreta.


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California

Another very good hub, with excellent advice for new and old husbands alike, to take heed to.


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salmanali123 7 years ago

lol nice funny hub ...husband make smart


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shamelabboush 7 years ago

Very nice but tiring tips! I will try to apply but I can not promise anything :)


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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

Mahesh : Thanks for the Visit. Yes, A man can be a good husband and a good son. Those qualities can be developed.

dohn121 : Thanks for the comment. Yes, Communication is the most important part of any relationship.


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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

I was hoping that you would mention spontaneity and you did! I was also keeping my eye out for being "flexible." You definitely pointed that out in Adaptability and Sensitivity, so kudos to you!

Okay, so ONE thing that I will recommend is to re-emphasize listening (Communication). I've learned that sometimes a woman just wants to come home and vent her emotions (tell you about how rotten her day went). Draw the poison from her. LISTEN to what she says to you and READ between the lines. Ask yourself this question: "What does she really mean by telling me this?"

Sometimes, in the heat of an argument, it's better to just step aside and TAKE IT LIKE A MAN. It's not easy to do, but sometimes you just have to in order to save the relationship. However, be wary of your stance on important things and don't sweat the small stuff! At the same time, don't let her walk all over you, else she think you're a coward / chump. Just know when to shut up and when to speak up. Phew! I'm done.


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CEN7777 7 years ago

Nice post Anamika jee. Do you think it is easy for a man to be a good son and an ideal or perfect husband.


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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

Thanks for the Comment Peter.


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Peter Dickinson 7 years ago from Southeast Asia

I agree with all your points. I lived them all but would only add that my secret for a happy marriage was 'Give and take but never expect to take'. It worked for me for thirty years. What happened then I really don't know. Thank you.


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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

jayb23 : Thanks for the visit and appreciation. The said point is there in Communication.

fishskinfreak2008 : Thanks for the visit. You can see that point in my hub on 'How to be a good Wife to your Husband'.


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fishskinfreak2008 7 years ago from Fremont CA

No one likes arrogant women either. Some interesting ideas. Thumbs up


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jayb23 7 years ago from India

Excellent hub anamika. All the points are well taken. I would like to add one more point. Make your woman laugh. Women love men who are witty and have a sense of humour. Keep up the good work.

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