How to be unattractive to the opposite sex

Do you attract or repel?
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It’s the age old question… how do you attract the opposite sex. It is a question that seems to intrigue everyone. Not only does this cause an overflux of answers and opinions, but it also has people telling you what they know when they really don’t know a darn thing.

I don’t think there will ever be a correct answer to this question. Every human is different and therefore every human will find different qualities attractive. So, what one person might find attractive, another person may find repulsive. With that being said, while some people may offer advice and suggestions, is it really the answer… or more importantly the CORRECT answer.

So, because the question “how do you attract the opposite sex?” is a complete waste of time, I will turn this completely around and tell you how to be unattractive to the opposite sex. This list will consist of some pretty basic items, which can go either way, but, because I am a female, I feel this list will be more valuable for men to read.

So, if your interested in learning how to repel the opposite sex… this is the place to be. Why not! After reading this list, people will start flocking to you because you have changed your ways.

Laziness...

I would have to say this is one of my biggest pet peeves. I can’t even tell you how much I hate when people are lazy. Yet, the more and more lazy a person becomes, the more unattractive I find the person.

Now how does this relate to relationships and becoming unattractive? Take marriages for instance. It is a new world out there. No longer do woman stay home and take care of the house and wait on the man’s every wish and desire. No longer is the woman responsible for everything that is considered the home life while the man does nothing but pay the bills and watch sports on TV. At this point, as I have just ran after the kids all day, slaved over the kitchen preparing a meal, scrubbing up the dishes afterwards, in between helping with homework, mopping the floors, throwing in a few loads of laundry, I may look over to the man who is watching TV and want to puke because of how unattractive he is right now. Now maybe my eyes are just glazed over with soap bubbles, but they lazier they get, the more unattractive they are in my eyes.

Now, because you are probably thinking that I am completely woman’s lib, I will reverse the situation. What about the man who is always working in the yard, cleaning out the garage, taking out the garbage, and even paying the bills while the woman sits around eating bon bons? The couple who lives in filth because neither one is willing to lift a finger. A situation that I can’t help but find unattractive. In this case, both people are unattractive.

So, let me rephrase this. If you are too lazy to lift a finger or you don’t do a darn thing, chances are likely, you are becoming more and more unattractive to the opposite sex. So, if you are single and you have traits of being lazy, good luck finding a mate. More likely then not, this trait will follow and sooner or later it will be affecting your lifestyle and your love life.

Being lazy can also be considered a lack of motivation. What it boils down to, is the more motivated a person is, the more successful they will become. Now, whether you are male or female, who are you more attracted to? The person that has made something of themselves because they work hard for what they want; or the person who doesn’t do anything and has nothing to show for it. I know which one I would choose.

Dishonesty

I understand little white lies, but being downright deceitful is devastating. This destroys the trust in a relationship. If you are dishonest, don’t even bother getting into a relationship. It probably won’t last.

This sounds harsh. After all, I have always been a rather trusting person. Even a complete stranger can do no wrong in my eyes. I was trusting of everyone. I never thought any different. But, sooner or later someone will break that trust. They will lie. It seems it is almost human nature. Yet, the more lies I encounter, the more I start to distrust others. I have been lied to so many times that I have a changed from trusting everyone to trusting no one.

While you may be thinking that trust needs to be earned, I usually thought the other way around. There is no reason to distrust a person until they prove they need to be distrusted. I found believing in people made me a happier and better person. Yet, the more lies I encounter, the more I don’t trust; the more I don’t trust, the crankier I seem to become. This makes for a very unattractive combination.

If you find yourself constantly lying to people, you need to confront the problem… yourself. It doesn’t make you a better person, regardless of the reason why you are lying. While I do understand that it is sometimes easier to tell a lie than it is to tell the truth, being dishonest should not become a regular habit. Therefore, the more you lie, the more unattractive you become.

Being disrespectful

I don’t know how many times I have witnessed people being disrespected by other people, but when I see this happening, I can literally feel the steam coming out of my ears. I can not stand it. What makes one person so much better than the other person. Absolutely nothing. Therefore, why should you disrespect that person, especially if it is someone you love or trying to be in a relationship with.

This really goes either way. You can see it when a man treats his woman like she is a piece of meat. When they demand they do something they don’t want to do. It can even be as simple as calling them over by you in an aggressive matter, just because you wanted to control them. It is no different than when a woman treats her man like a sheepdog; when she whines and cries just to get what she wants.

Sometimes people feel as if disrespecting others makes them seem like a bigger and better person. They like the control. Yet, what they are doing is achieving the opposite effect. Instead, they just look like a fool. They are making themselves unattractive to not only the one they are trying to impress, but each and every person around them Yet they continue to disrespect people!

Where is the respect? Some people show they have no respect for themselves and are then treated like a doormat by their significant other. Vice versa, when the person treats another like a doormat, they have a tendency to retreat into a doormat state. Now, I know that I don’t like being stepped on, and I don’t expect that you do either. Therefore, if you want to continue being unattractive, continue to disrespect others.

Personal Hygiene - or a lack of it

What happened to the days when people cared what they look like (and what they smelled like!) They say attractiveness is in the looks. Well, duh! That is what people first see. Yet, it seems once they got their mate, why bother with the little things. Now, I am not suggesting that you spend half your day in the bathroom primping and priming.

With this being said, this is what you need to do. Strip off your clothes; jump in the shower; scrub liberally. Once shower has commenced try this whole thing called toothpaste. It works wonders on your teeth. It works wonders on your breath. Even if I am not in a relationship with you, I don’t want to smell your last meal when I am talking to you. All that does is make me slowly (or quickly) back away.

You may be the most attractive person out there, but if you carry a nasty odor, I can guarantee that a person will become blinded by your smell. While our eyes may be pleased, our nose however will not. The nose will overrule the decision. So, if you can’t take care of your personal hygiene, consider yourself unattractive. Your looks and your smell are a complete package. Take care of it or continue to be unattractive to the opposite sex.

 

What's your opinion?

Which trait to you find the least attractive

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Now that you know

Nobody wants to be considered ugly or unattractive. Whether you are looking for someone new or already in a relationship, your attractiveness can change on a daily basis. Therefore, you need to keep up the work to keep yourself attractive in other people’s eyes. If you are in a relationship, becoming unattractive can doom the future. If you aren’t in a relationship, you obviously have skills you need to work on.

While people often consider looks as the entire attractive package, often time people forget about how actions can raise or lower your attractive qualities. If you let these actions slip, you might find yourself completely alone. Not only is being unattractive make it hard to find a mate, but you can put pressure on friendships as well!

So now that you know how to be unattractive, go out and change you habits or feel free to continue to repulse people!

Comments 30 comments

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Harvey Stelman 5 years ago from Illinois

barber, I can't disagree with you on any of your points. At least I know if we ever meet, you probably won't stink. Ha! H


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Ah, yet you never know... maybe I am too busy writing or being lazy to take a shower ;P lol... but now that I am being completely dishonest (cause I do more things than just write... I better get to my workout and then take a shower! LOL


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Inspired to write 5 years ago from Wales UK

Barbergirl good tips on relationships & keeping them. Thanks for the share. Dale


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Genna East 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

Enjoyed this hub, baber...very funny! When in an office atmosphere, I find that being aloof and cool works wonders!


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Stan Fletcher 5 years ago from Nashville, TN

I can't believe hygiene is not winning in the poll!!! You can be a disrespectful, lazy liar, but if you smell funny, I'm OUTTA HERE! Great hub!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Actually, I wasn't really ranking them! LOL... but if you add together a lazy disrespectful lying stinky bastard... I just don't know if I can handle all that. LOL


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Perpeptua 5 years ago

handy tips for staying single!


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DzyMsLizzy 5 years ago from Oakley, CA

I wish the polls could be configured to vote for more than one item. I chose 'personal hygiene,' because that was my ex's main issue..he was gross! That's just one of the reasons he's an 'ex.'

Disrespect is right up there at the top as well. That said, however, I do also feel that respect must be earned to a certain extent. Respect someone who does not respect others, acts like a complete jerk, and DEMANDS respect 'just because' of their age, or position? I don't think so. You do have to earn respect by being respectful yourself. If you simply demand it through control, and fear-mongering manipulation, what you get in return is not true respect, but play-acting, and full measure of resentment. It WILL come back to bite you.

My current hubby is everything my ex was not. And lying? Nope..he has a placard on his desk; a Mark Twain quote: "Tell the truth, and you don't have to remember anything."

Good hub--voted up!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Thanks for the comments. I have big issues with the respect and the lying aspect. They both kind of go hand and hand. Unfortunately, in a relationship... these two factors can make it go sour rather quickly. To make it worse, it is really hard to get back!


HostelHopper 5 years ago

I don't consider myself as an attractive dude, but I've been lucky with the ladies from time to time. I do know that smoking cigs is a big turn-off for the babes. I purposely refrained from smoking in the past so as not to turn them off.


Jillian 5 years ago

Great Blog. Right now I am looking over at the other half. He is reclined on the couch. I have just finished making supper, cleaned up, fed and walked the dog and made the bed up with clean sheets. All of the things you mentioned is a turn off. What men don't get is that if you really want to please your woman, try vaccuming, or putting, laundry away, or cook dinner for her.


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MyWebs 5 years ago from Sheridan, WY

Excellent hub barbergirl28. You may be interested to know that I found this hub from HubPages.com's official Facebook page where they linked to this hub. http://www.facebook.com/Hubpages.com

Seems HP staff likes this hub too. Well done!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@HostelHopper: Thanks for reading. I should have probably added smoking to the list, but honestly smoking doesn't bother me as much as the other things on the list. I guess I am fortunate, my husband is a nonsmoker.

@Jillian: I know how you feel.... my husband was in a little way the inspiration for this hub. Cause I found I was doing the same thing while he sat and watched TV. It was irritating. But, at least it gave me some sort of inspiration.

@MyWebs: Thanks for letting me know. I wasn't aware that they linked it on facebook. That makes me super excited!


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gr82bme 5 years ago from USA

Lilly, fun hub. I think all of us knows someone with one of these traits.


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Supercellbaebe 5 years ago from LONDON

I agree with you on all these points. I think they are all pretty bad and choosing a "worst" one was hard for me.

Very good hub xxx


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

A Funny hub barbergirl28 :)

I enjoyed reading it and yes, all the factors are so true for any relationship to get in the dungeon.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

I agree - these definitely traits that will put your relationship in a bad position. therefore, you should look for these traits beforehand and definitely avoid them. Thanks for all the commments. I really appreciate it!


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luckycharmz 5 years ago from Washington

Nice hub. I agree with all your points. I do meet people that have body odor, and it's awful. Although I have to admit, sometimes, my friends will give me deodorant and breathmints for my birthday. I wonder if they are trying to tell me something. :-)


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Ha ha - that's funny. You have some nice friends.


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David-leo Alabi 5 years ago

Great write-up!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Hahahahaha! These are all the reasons why I have a "second" husband! Great - hilarious really hits home hub!


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Ha ha ha.... we all need a practice round I guess... lol


wendy87 5 years ago

ha ha funny hub voted funny lolz


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

Thank you ... I am glad you voted me funny... Feedback was saying that I was more useful than I was funny! ;) And I was really try to work on that!


naturalsolutions 5 years ago

Yes there will be right answer for that question but there's a lot of way to do that. Like your advice i'm pretty sure that whoever read this will have an additional self confidence that they can attract opposite sex.


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barbergirl28 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@naturalsolutions - I really hoped that whoever comes across this article realizes that it is all about the boost in self-confidence. As humans, we are all beautiful and I wish more people felt that way about themselves. :)


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Brett.Tesol 4 years ago from Somewhere in Asia

Voted up, awesome and SHARED. You raise some really good points and cover them from both sides. I'd have to go with hygiene, there is nothing wrong than a stinky person ... just no need for it!


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Brett - I couldn't agree with you more... nothing makes me get that gut wrenching feeling then a stinky person... Really brings a whole new thought to gagging over the person you are on a date with. Although it can go both ways... not washing up or just wearing too much cologne. Both are equally bad! :)


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Your admirer 3 years ago from Delhi

Hahaha....Nice hub. I think just not brushing your teeth and your body odour is enough to repel me. Nice hub.

Another points I would like to add:

1) Talking too much

2) Calling too much : I had to switch off my phone for days as she calls me too much and even expect me to talk for hours.


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barbergirl28 3 years ago from Hemet, Ca Author

@Your admirer - Glad you enjoyed this hub... it was fun to write. And very valid points. I hate talking on the phone... particularly if the other person has nothing to say. Thanks for your added points! :)

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