How to convince your husband to have another baby: Ways to convince him for a second or third child

Is your dream of a happy family unfulfilled because your husband doesn't want to have any more kids? Find out how you can convince him.
Is your dream of a happy family unfulfilled because your husband doesn't want to have any more kids? Find out how you can convince him. | Source

How to convince your husband to have another baby? Whether you want to be a mom to a little girl or a mother to a newborn baby boy, find the right way to explain to your husband why you think that you should have a second or a third child. From money matters, expenses, healthy brother-sister rivalry, examples of happy families to concerns about age – this post discusses how you can use logic and reasoning to convince your man to have another son or daughter.


1) If you already have a boy, tell your husband that he can be a daddy to a little girl

At some point in their lives, almost all men try to imagine whether they can be good fathers to adorable little girls. Movies and TV shows have immortalized the image of fathers being doting dads to their little angels.


If you have a son and you think that you can convince your husband to have another baby using this trump card, sweetly remind him of how he can be the hero to a daddy's little girl.


2) If you already have a girl, tell your husband that he can do guy things with his son

Popular culture has typically portrayed men longing to play ball with their sons as they grow up, and eventually share a drink as they grow old. The perfect father-son relationship is a matter of pride for most men.


If you have a daughter, you can try to coax your husband by gently telling him how he can be the perfect dad to a great son.


Give your husband examples of happy families in your friend circle and colleagues at work. This will put him to ease and remove doubts that more children mean more problems.
Give your husband examples of happy families in your friend circle and colleagues at work. This will put him to ease and remove doubts that more children mean more problems.

3) Give your husband examples of happy families with more children than yours

The fear of the unknown gets the better of the best of us, and your husband is simply human. He could be against having another child because he feels that an addition to the family will create complications and frustration.


Help him cope up with his assumption that a second or a third child will create problems by pointing out examples of happy families who have more children than you both. Such examples will gradually make him more confident about being a dad again.


4) Tell him that your new baby can use passed on items from your older child

Men who manage the finances of the household may typically be worried about the extra expenditure that a second or third child will bring on. The talk about having another child may instantly be sending him into a tizzy of calculations for new baby clothes, toys and lots of other stuff that costs a lot of money.


Calm his nerves by explaining to him how you will use items that will be passed on from your older child. Remind him how much you will save on baby accessories including a stroller, toys, beds, utensils, car seat, cradles and heaps of other things which would have otherwise cost you thousands of dollars to buy brand new.


5) Tell your husband that the financial burden will be too much if you have another baby at a later stage in your lives

This is a very solid point to use in your arguments against your hubby while talking about having more children. If he is saying that it is too early to have another child, tell him that the later you conceive, the harder it will get for you both from a financial perspective at a later stage in your lives.


Explain to him that the earlier you become parents, the earlier you will get done with the primary financial responsibility of raising a child till he or she moves out. If you prolong your decision to have a baby again, you could very well be delaying your own retirement to meet your child's expenses.


Be a wonderful mom to your child to send a signal to your hubby that your parenting skills will easily allow you to manage an addition to the family.
Be a wonderful mom to your child to send a signal to your hubby that your parenting skills will easily allow you to manage an addition to the family.

6) Try not to be flustered in front of your husband when your child annoys you

The slightest bit of frustration when your child annoys you will reaffirm your husband's belief that one child is more than enough to handle. Be very aware and don't let your children's tantrums get to you.


Your calm and cool attitude while dealing with your children's mistakes will show your husband that you are capable of managing more kids.


7) Get help from friends and family to convince your husband

Does your husband have a best bud who he trusts in just about all matters of life? Is there a particular person in the family whose word your husband blindly believes? If there is, bare your heart to that person over a heart-felt discussion.


Explain why you think that your family should have another child and if your words make sense, he or she can convince your husband.


8) Having another baby may not be an option if you wait any longer

If you are past your late thirties and into your forties, use your age as the reason for your last ditch attempt at trying to convince your hubby to have another child. Tell him that as you get older, the chances for you to conceive will get slimmer.


If you are unsure about the details, consult your family doctor on guidance and advice about your family planning.


Bring out the old photographs to re-live the beautiful memories of your first child when he or she was a cute toddler.
Bring out the old photographs to re-live the beautiful memories of your first child when he or she was a cute toddler.

9) Show him baby pictures of your first child: Remind him of all the sweet memories

Remind your husband of all the beautiful memories of when your first child was a tiny toddler by bringing out the baby pictures. Photographs of him cuddling with your infant son or daughter may be just the motivation he needs to be a dad again.


As you show him the photographs, talk about all the fun times you both had watching your little bub grow into an adorable child. After all, changing nappies and late night snacks become a fun memory in hindsight.


10) Tell him that you both have better experience of being parents

Since your first child, you and your husband both have become experienced parents. As a married couple, you are both mentally and psychologically better equipped to deal with raising children.


This is a very valid and logical point to use in your arguments against your husband. Tell him that you can use your experience from raising your first kid to easily manage another addition to the family.


11) Options to continue legacy and family name

Tell your hubby that another child could be a chance to further your options to continue the family tree.


The twenty first century has seen a rapid decline of the concept of legacy and continuing the family name as a reason to have kids, but it could still be your trump card to convince your husband if you think that he will bite the bait.


Siblings can form a healthy support system.
Siblings can form a healthy support system.

12) Tell your husband that your child will have company with a brother or sister

Many believe that a kid's childhood is better spent in the company of brothers and sisters. If you believe in this parenting school of thought, use it to explain to your husband how a brother or sister will help the upbringing of your child.


Tell him that your child will have company and a little bit of sibling rivalry will create healthy competition between the two.


13) Remind your husband about the beautiful relationship he shares with his own brother or sister

Does your husband share a great relationship with any of his siblings? If he does, use it as an example of why your child also deserves the loving support of a brother or a sister in life.


Talk to him how future generations of your family can have cousins, uncles and aunts if you decide to have more kids.


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