How to deal with Peer Pressure

Learning how to deal with peer pressure is a difficult journey
Learning how to deal with peer pressure is a difficult journey

How to deal with peer pressure?

Peer pressure exists in schools, colleges, universities and even offices. Each and everyone of us is affected by peer pressure in one way or the other. If you've been a victim of peer pressure, let's sort out one primary fact, there is nothing wrong with you. All you need to do is tweak some aspects of your behavior and fend off the nasty vibes that may come from classmates or work colleagues. Here are 10 tips and tricks that you can use and learn how to deal with peer pressure.

1) No means no

Follow this rule all the time. Over time, the people around you will realize that you stick to your thoughts and there's no point in using persuasive tactics to try to convince you into doing something. Even the bullies will realize that there's no point messing with you. Saying no is difficult, but it is often your most lethal weapon against peer pressure.

2) Never drink with people who you think might want to impose peer pressure on you

Alcohol will decrease your judgemental skills and make you do things that you'll regret. Like adding fuel to fire, adding alcohol to relationships that are affected by peer pressure is a recipe for disaster.

3) Don't imitate fashion trends of the fashionable divas or the chick magnets around you

This is the biggest mistake you can make while trying to fight peer pressure. Girls and boys who try to imitate the looks, behavior and style of the so called popular bunch are prime targets for bullies and people who feed off imposing peer pressure on others. The best advise anyone can ever give you is to carve out your very own niche style and attitude.

4) Be yourself

Don't think twice before doing something that you feel is right. Do not let peer pressure affect the way you walk, talk or behave. It is better that people and friends around you like you for who you are rather than for who you can be.

5) Look into the eyes of the person who's trying to coax you into doing something you don't want to do

A strong gaze and a stare into the eyes can weaken even the most powerful of offenders. So the next time someone tries to coax you into doing something, simply look into their eyes and put your foot down. Your inner strength will shine through your eyes and will help you to deal with peer pressure.

6) Don't ever play the sympathy card

This is a strict no-no, folks. Many people play the sympathy card hoping that it will save them from peer pressure. The sympathy card may help you once, but definitely not in the long run. In fact, playing the sympathy card often may get you labelled as a weak person. So avoid the complications later on and don't use a sympathetic excuse to ward off peer pressure.

7) Laugh it off

The importance of laughter as a tool to fight off peer pressure is priceless. If you ever feel that you are in a complicated situation, find a genuine funny point in the conversation and laugh your guts out. Happy people laugh, and happy people don't give into peer pressure.

8) Don't be afraid of sounding rude

The fear of sounding rude by saying no to someone's demands often triggers peer pressure to set in on a day to day basis. If you give into peer pressure simply because you are afraid of offending someone by saying no, you must think again. If others are not afraid of sounding rude while they try and coax you into doing or saying something, why should you be worried about sounding rude?

9) Feel free to take advice

Yes, if you think that you have no solution to the peer pressure problem you are facing, talk to someone. They can be your parents, siblings, partners, friends or even relatives. Tell them about your battle in learning how to deal with peer pressure and confide in them the problems you are facing on a daily basis. There's one thing to watch out for before you use this tip. Make sure that whoever you talk to is worthy to trust, and worthy to give advice.

10) Don't do 'favours' to get into a group

One favour today, second tomorrow, third day after...... don't put yourself into this vicious circle. Your true friends need no favours from you. They only need you to be there.

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jimagain 5 years ago from Hattiesburg, Mississippi

My experience is that dealing with peer pressure is an issue of universal impact. I certainly had my share of negative situations growing up and trying to fit in. Much later than it should have taken me, I learned to accept the things that made me different. And I regret to say we hear more about this malady than we should.

Another good Hub and one that will definitely help others that have been subjected to this malignant tendency. I particularly liked points number 7 and number 10.


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princesswithapen 5 years ago Author

Jim, I like your comment when you say "......I learned to accept the things that made me different"

We all need to accept that we're all different as individuals, and more importantly, it is OK (in fact, great) to be different. That's exactly what makes us special.

Thanks for reading, and a great comment!

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myi4u 5 years ago from United Kingdom

Great advice! I would normally not care about what other people say. Unless what they said is worthy to note. Personally, I like criticism rather than praises. I can improve and learn from criticism but there are not many things I can do with praises.


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princesswithapen 5 years ago Author

Hi myi4u

I'm glad you liked the advice.

You are right about criticism. If you can learn and improve from criticism, there is nothing like it! But criticism can sometimes feel harsh. It's great that you can see the positive side and use it to your advantage.

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FloraBreenRobison 5 years ago

Great advice, with several choices. Some will work better than others depending upon who you are.

Congratulations on your hubnugget nomination


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princesswithapen 5 years ago Author

You're right. Depending on the type of person, some of these tips may work better. I've tried to incorporate all of the very core and basic issues that help everyone to ward off peer pressure. I'm glad you liked it!

Thanks for the comment, Flora.

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ripplemaker 5 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

If one can stay true to the self and avoid peer pressure, one has grown up indeed! :) great tips.

Congrats on your Hubnuggets nomination! To read and vote: http://hubpages.com/hubnuggets6/hub/ABC-HubNugget-...


NormalisCrazy 5 years ago from USA

Good advice, But I never needed such advice or understood how or why people would succumb to peer pressure..

What other people think never matters, only what you think about yourself. Good hub though.


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princesswithapen 5 years ago Author

Hi Ripplemaker

Thanks for the feedback and for appreciating the nomination!

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princesswithapen 5 years ago Author

Hi NormalisCrazy

You're lucky that peer pressure does not affect you. It may be quite a traumatic experience for those affected by it.

You're spot on when you say ".....What other people think never matters, only what you think about yourself...."

You've got a top comment there. Thanks for reading!

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travel_man1971 5 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

During my freshman period in high school, I was bullied by two senior students, asking me for money. They used to watch me walk the aisle to the Building 1 of our school then linked their arms on my shoulders, putting their hands on my side pockets. Poor thing, they didn't get my money because I hid it inside my bag.

I didn't report the incident, but when I refused for the third time, they lost interest on me. They're members of a high school gang that created terror inside the campus.


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princesswithapen 5 years ago Author

Hi travelman

It's great that you said NO at the right time and right place!

Your comment describes a real-life experience that provides us with much needed food for thought. It shows us the importance of the 'no-means-no' point in this hub.

Thanks for a great comment!

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cardelean 5 years ago from Michigan

I see this kind of thing is school all the time and have experienced it in social circles. It is a tough life lesson to learn, to be true to yourself. Unfortuanately some people never learn it. Thanks for the great hub and congrats on your nomincation.


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princesswithapen 5 years ago Author

Cardelean you're right, Peer pressure exists everywhere and knowing how to deal with it is a very tough lesson to learn.

Thanks for reading and commenting!

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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Important topic. Nice job with this subject. Good luck and Welcome to Hubpages.


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princesswithapen 5 years ago Author

Hi Denise

Thanks for stopping by. I'm glad you like the hub.

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