How to get your boyfriend's attention, make him want you more and make him miss you all the time

Making your guy want you is all about striking the right balance in the world of love, relationships, comfort zones, emotion, sex, pride and success. Let's put the ambiguity aside and talk about things you can do to make your boyfriend want you more.
Making your guy want you is all about striking the right balance in the world of love, relationships, comfort zones, emotion, sex, pride and success. Let's put the ambiguity aside and talk about things you can do to make your boyfriend want you more. | Source

Promising to be practical rather than cheesy, this post looks at things you can do in your everyday lives to make your boyfriend want you more and more. Let's forget complicated relationship advice and reverse psychology tips that ask you to ignore him, here is a 21st century, no-nonsense and hard hitting list that is all about getting the job done – Getting his attention, making him want you and making him miss you ever step of the way.


1) Surprise him: Walk, talk and dress like a diva

Look at any of the popular and top women's magazine and you will find airbrushed picture perfect poses of dazzling divas on one page after another. Such flawless looks may not be possible in real life but you will make your boyfriend want you more if you manage to pull it off once in a while. Don't confuse this with being asked to put on kilos of makeup and displaying model like behavior all the time. Just give him a glimpse of what you too can transform into if you desired. You sexy look will be engraved into his mind for a long, long time.


2) Take charge: Ask him out for a date once in a while

It is no secret that the 21st century woman still loves the quality of chivalry in a man. But you will surprise him if you make the move and ask him out on a date for a change. This could go either way – He could feel relaxed and happy giving you the reigns of planning your romantic rendezvous, or he could feel weirdly surprised watching you take charge. Either way, you will grab his attention. Book the tables, drive him there, drop him home and look into his eyes as you say I Love You and kiss him goodnight – Do whatever it takes to show him that you can wear the pants too.


3) Learn a dance move

Don't confuse this with learning how to dance because not all of us are comfortable shaking a leg. All you need to do to get your boyfriend's undivided attention is to learn a single dance move and bust it at the right time. Whether it is a sexy twist or an elegant twirl, do it at a moment he least expects it. You are likely to see raised eyebrows and a priceless look on his face.


4) Stop calling him those mushy names

It's great to call your partner mushy and cute names but you could be risking falling in the trap of the comfort zone if you are overdoing it. No matter how sensitive your guy is, deep down inside he is still a guy and could possibly be turned off if you keep using cute names all the time. Think of how he would want to hear his name from a girl and say it out loud when you call him.


5) Put on a stellar performance in bed

Many relationship gurus may tell you to abstain from sex if you want your boyfriend's attention and make him crave you even more. But that's exactly not the point here. If you and your guy have already taken your relationship to the bed, put on a stellar performance and leave him panting for more. Feel free to take initiative in the sack, dominate and satisfy him like never before. So if he is not with you and starts fantasizing, all he will think about is you and only you.


6) Support him and massage his ego

Ego plays a massive role in a guy's personality and so does the presence of a supportive partner. Just like you love to lean on his shoulder, make sure that yours is available when he needs one. Be supportive of the things he does and the things he believes in. Give him compliments and give his ego a slight boost whenever he is down. Slowly but surely, he will be addicted to the kick he gets every time he is with you. And as a bonus, this feeling will make him miss you every time he is away from you.


7) Learn how to say no

Just like how women may not want to be with men who are pushovers, men will love it if the woman in their arms is not one either. Show him that you know when to put down and say no in your personal and professional life. Not only will you make him want you more, but he will also have high regard and respect for you as an individual.


8) Be focused in your own life and be successful

Guys like girls who have a focus – whether it is studies, sports, career or any other activity. Show him that you are a woman with dreams, passion and ambition. Be focused in your own life and vigorously pursue whatever you are doing at the moment. Men are naturally attracted to successful women and if you manage to become one, there is little more you will need to do to make him want you more and more.


9) Carry a high level of confidence

We all love to hang out with people who are confident and have high levels of self respect. A confident personality automatically attracts attention and over time, garners respect. Your boyfriend will beam with pride when he walks alongside you, with your beaming confidence levels.


10) Be attached, but don't be needy

The best thing about being in love is that you get to share your life with somebody you care about. Being in a relationship itself is all about depending on each other – but things can take a frustrating turn if one of the partners becomes needy. Would you like it if you had a possessive boyfriend to deal with? Assuming the answer is no, if you find yourself heavily depending on your guy for just about everything, you should take a time out and give your relationship a fresh twist. Show him that you are an independent person just like him, who can get things done in the same way, if not better.


11) Show him that you have a life of your own

It's good to be absorbed in your partner's life and it great to spend hour after hour cuddling and doing all the naughty things a couple is supposed to do. But at the end of the day, people like to be around folks who have a life of their own, partners included. It is fine if you can't talk to him for a few days because you have been busy with a group project at college. It is ok if you chose to skip a date with your guy just because you have to stay back at work to finish something on a tight deadline. Making him want you more is all about making him realize that you are a passionate girl who has a fire in her heart and a plan in her head to live life on her own terms.

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Robwrite 4 years ago from Bay Ridge Brooklyn NY

Interesting to hear the secrets of the other side.

Well done,

Rob


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psychicdog.net 4 years ago

PWAP have you tested this??? I would have thought you just need to be YOURSELF! which could include trying some of this stuff out on a boyfriend for fun - I must say it's really nice to know girls might be trying to please guys - returning the favors! Voted up


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Glenn Stok 4 years ago from Long Island, NY

You did a great job at writing this. As a guy, I was interested in reading your hub because I wanted to see what you'd say women should do.

As it turns out I once had a girlfriend who did exactly those things. However, she had one flaw which caused the eventual breakup. She had temper tantrums. But doing all the things that you mentioned here had kept me around for many years.

It's unfortunate that a woman can behave as you said and yet fail with one important issue. I'm not saying a woman has to be perfect. For that matter, there were other issues too. But I didn't care about them since she was a wonderful, loving, and intelligent person. But having temper tantrums was an extreme negativity that got in the way.

The point I'm making is that following your instructions all by itself is not sufficient if there is an extreme problem in someone's personality.

But, nevertheless, it's important to know what you said. And it's important that these things are ingrained in one's personality and not done for the purpose of trying to win over their partner.

With that said, I found your hub very informative and helpful and I voted up.


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carladominique 4 years ago from Philippines

Very nice hub.


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misslong123 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

Wow, I really liked some of your advice. I know most of that, but I really needed to hear it again. I'm not doing a great job at being unattached and being independent. lol. I put drinking glasses around the house over our bugs to let him kill them when he gets home. lol. I guess I should suck it up and pick them up and not be such a needy baby about that. Heck, I've done it before. Just not my favorite chore. Thanks for the encouragement!

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