How to prepare for your high school reunion

My infamous red dress
My infamous red dress

It's not just about losing weight

It's natural when learning about an upcoming high school - or college - reunion to worry about getting in shape. And the truth is, I wish I had hit the gym a few months before mine. I will admit that seeing the photos of myself in my glossy, red Issac Mizrachi party dress pasted on Facebook has gotten me working out after the fact. But no, that's not what I'm going to talk about here, except to say, black is your best friend.

This is about developing the emotional intelligence to prepare for your high school reunion so that you enjoy yourself, have no regrets afterward and actually want to attend the next one.

I had a marvelous time in high school and I would imagine that most people who plan on attending a reunion had at least a fairly good experience as a student, or why would they want to travel that particular memory lane? On the other hand, some might want to go back in time to try to right some wrongs. My sister, for example, has some painful memories of those years and took advantage of the opportunity to tell her "mean girl" off and remind her of the emotional havoc she wreaked on her adolescent victims. I was there and saw the former victimizer panting, "I'm so sorry. I'm not like that anymore." Fast forward, my sister lost interest in any further high school reunions (though a number of classmates have stepped forward to express their solidarity).

You may not have an ax to grind. You may genuninely want to reconnect and share some heart to hearts or just have a hootie ole time. Here are some tips so that you can make the most of your reunion experience.

Romy and Michele "Time After Time"

Prepare Mentally

1. It may sound corny, but it helps to take the time to review your old yearbooks, photo albums and journals so that you can reconnect with your past and brush up on details about your friends and acquaintances that you may have forgotten.

2. Think about the reasons you want to attend the reunion. Are there a few special friends with whom you'd like to reconnect? Do you miss your old crowd? Do you want to show off the new you? Did you have a great time at your previous reunion? Do you want to fill in some blanks about your past?

3. Think about the things you would like to share about yourself: Your career accomplishments, stories about your family, places you have traveled, hurdles you've cleared, breakthroughs in your life. Time is too precious at a reunion to waste on small talk. Be real!

4. If you will be attending with a spouse or fiance, think about the ways that you will integrate that person into the event. Your reunion may only last 1-3 days. You want your relationship to go on longer than that. So prepare yourself to find (non-embarrasing) ways of drawing your significant other into the conversation.

5. Think about what you'd like to take away from the experience: To learn things you never knew about your friends (or yourself). To feel better about yourself than you did back then. To reestablish old friendships. To expand your circle of friends. To rekindle an old love connection. To make new memories to share with family and friends.


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Prepare Physically

Despite what I said earlier, a school reunion is a great motivator for getting in shape. It's always a good idea to stay physically fit. But let's say the date has crept up on you and there's nothing more to be done about a few extra pounds. Suffice to say, this is a time when a little extra grooming is not considered frivolous. A month or so before the big weekend, take inventory of what you will wear and also create a backup plan. If shopping is not in your budget, then perhaps you can exchange favors with a friend or relative with an ample wardrobe and ask to borrow something nice for the big event. I found that you're better off wearing nice, tailored separates with a fesitive shawl and a dressy pair of (costume jewelry) earrings, than a cocktail dress if it doesn't fit flawlessly.

It's a good idea to get your best friend, son or daughter (someone who will be brutally honest) to take a few photos of you in your outfit with their phone. Those are the kind of pix that will show up on Facebook and all over the internet and you want to make sure what you're wearing will be flattering when flattened out. You may be protecting yourself from a devastating aftermath.

If you're a man, the same holds true. It's better to wear a pair of slacks and a linen shirt (or if you can pull it off, a "guayabera") than an ill fitting suit. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Get a manicure. Get your hair deep conditioned. You deserve it.

Pack photos of your loved ones or scan them onto your i-Pod. Believe me, the older you get, the more people appreciate them.

Now enjoy yourself!


I'd rather you forget everything I've said and have a great time, than dwell on all my self-conscious ramblings. Go. Take pictures. Collect email addresses. Thank the organizers. Dance your --- off. You won't be the first to mess up the Macarena.

Vicarious High School Reunion Fun

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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

That's a wonderful moment when we ca meet again with old friend. and it become more interesting when we can introduce our wife or husband. We can memorize all the old story by sharing together. nice topic. Good work


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lisadpreston 6 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

I will never go to my school reunion. I was the mean girl. I would be so embarrassed now. But this is good advice for all of you nice people. Love the red dress. Is this you? Both women are very beautiful.


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Guru-C 6 years ago Author

Hi Lisa, thank you for visiting and commenting. That is very noble that you describe yourself as the mean girl. Kids in high school deal with so many pressures both at home and school. Maybe you had a reason for the way you acted and perhaps now, you're much more mature and evolved. Something great about the internet is the ability to reconnect with people from our past when that is meant to be. Thank you for the compliment. Yes, it's me. But I cropped the photo tightly to make myself look thinner :) The other person in the photo is a dear friend of mine. I'll pass on your kind words to her. I look forward to reading more of your work. Cheers!


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lisadpreston 6 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

Thank you for those kind words. I have always felt so much guilt for the way I treated some people when I was young. Yes, you are right about the pressures at home and so many other problems such as being poor,different, due to our culturally mixed family, low self esteem, jealousy, etc. I know I have evolved into a completely different person, however I have many flaws to work on.

You are beautiful. You don't need to crop any pictures. You have a beautiful physical presence and an even more glowing spirit and soul. It comes through, trust me on this. I read some of your hubs and plan to read the rest of them tonight. Keep up the good work. You write beautifully too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am proud to be a fan.


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Guru-C 6 years ago Author

Lisa, thank you for your kind words!

I think that this is the time in history when we've had the most tools to reconnect with our past in order to make amends with ourselves and others. For example, my sister, the victim of a "mean girl" and I mentioned in the hub, had completely lost interest in maintaining any connection to her high school memories. However, about a year ago, several old friends and acquaintances from school reached out to her via Facebook and suddenly she found herself communicating traumas and triumphs. A group of women who bonded then and now, including my sister, will be meeting later this year for a long weekend in The Big Apple. Talk about moving forward!

Again, thank you for the lovely things you said. I can tell that you have grown up into a beautiful person!


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lisadpreston 6 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

Thank you. My heart physically aches for your sister. Since having my own children and seeing what they had to go through in school and my becoming a completely different person, makes me really despise the mean kids and bullys. The guilt now as an adult can be overwhelming. I think you have inspired me to write a hub on this. Love, Lisa


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mwatkins 6 years ago from Portland, Oregon & Vancouver BC

My high school reunion was the best time I ever had in H/S! Lost weight, got a new little black dress, took the most handsome man with me and had absolutely nothing to talk about to anyone there because my life had changed so much in 20 years. Never look back. No regrets!


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Its tnt 6 years ago from God's own Country

OH really useful! We had our school reunion too recently. It was fun and new actually. It felt like we all were united to each other after the span of 2 years though! Yes we had our reunion like after 2 years, so not much to be prepared, right! Thus we have planned to make it happen after quite along time like when every one puts on weight or so, Lol!


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Guru-C 5 years ago Author

Thank you so much, Its tnt!!!!!! Wishing you a Happy and Healthy New Year!

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