How to stop worrying about your past? Tips to forget your past and move on

Hate, sadness, regret and anger because of bad memories and past experiences are omnipresent in everyone's mind and heart. It all comes down to how you decide to deal with these feelings. Are you going to succumb to the bad things that have happened to you earlier or will you forget your past and move on? This post is a no-nonsense and practical approach to learning how to stop worrying about your past.


1) Don't keep talking about your past with your friends

It is very tempting to just pick up the phone and talk about things that are bothering you with a close friend, girlfriend or boyfriend. It is great to do so for a couple of times because it works as an emotional outlet. However unnecessary repetition will stop you from throwing out the hurtful thoughts out of your head.

Intimate conversations with friends are a great emotional outlet. But if you are playing the same tape again and again, you may want to stop, rewind and put on a different tune. If you know what that means.
Intimate conversations with friends are a great emotional outlet. But if you are playing the same tape again and again, you may want to stop, rewind and put on a different tune. If you know what that means. | Source

Self help gurus will tell you that talking your heart out to someone will help ease the pain, and rightly so. But having the same talk over and over again can put you in a vicious circle of pain and regret. If you are really keen on learning how to stop worrying about your past, leave it behind and stop talking about it.


2) Hang out only with friends who treat you nicely

Bad past experiences can be a result of broken love, hate, abuse, bullying, betrayal, peer pressure and many more feelings that stem off social interaction. This makes it crucial that you don't spend your time around people whose behavior can re-ignite these feelings within you.

Do you feel like an outcast when you hang out with your friends? If you feel like your mates are not treating you right, talk to them about it. And if they still do so, move on. It's their loss that they've lost a friend like you.
Do you feel like an outcast when you hang out with your friends? If you feel like your mates are not treating you right, talk to them about it. And if they still do so, move on. It's their loss that they've lost a friend like you. | Source

Not even a single minute of your life is worth spending with people who don't care about you. Are your friends and the people who you hang out with, giving you due respect? Do they show concern for you? Does their behavior towards you remind you of your turbulent past? If you have been nodding along, maybe it is time to find a new set of friends who actually care about your feelings.


Princesswithapen does not suggest that you break all ties with your current friends immediately. Try speaking to them about your concerns and tell them how you feel. If their poor behavior towards you continues, maybe it is time you moved on.


3) Keep yourself busy with a hobby

Cliché, but true. You may have heard this piece of advice a lot and that's because it really works. Everyone has something that they are passionate about – whether it is something as simple as a passion for fitness or something as intricate as passion for a musical instrument.


Find your passion and divert all your attention and effort to it. Take it up as a hobby and devote your time and energy. Slowly but surely, the activity will be on your mind even when you are not doing it and will help you forget your past.

Can't find a hobby? That's okay. Just go to the park and play ball. Just pursue anything that keeps your mind occupied until you find a true hobby.
Can't find a hobby? That's okay. Just go to the park and play ball. Just pursue anything that keeps your mind occupied until you find a true hobby. | Source

You may not find a hobby that you want to pursue immediately, but there are zillions of things you can do to keep yourself occupied until you zero-in on something you are passionate about. Hit the gym, play a sport, take up photography to upload a portfolio online, write a blog, paint, go swimming, make a short homemade film and upload it on YouTube, write about your expertise online – the possibilities are endless.


4) Keep yourself busy with studies/work

One of the easiest ways to stop worrying about your past is to keep yourself occupied with work. Whether you are at school, college or in a job/business role, focus harder on the tasks at hand to take your mind away from the bad memories that are bothering you.

Beat worrying about your past by concentrating on meaningful work. Fill up all all free time with some kind of work and you won't even get the time to fret about your past.
Beat worrying about your past by concentrating on meaningful work. Fill up all all free time with some kind of work and you won't even get the time to fret about your past. | Source

You will be surprised at not only how easy it is to stop thinking about your past, but also how efficient you can get if you focus on things that really matter. Our work is a reflection of our state of mind, and vice versa. So if you have failed to fix your state of mind, maybe you want to try fixing things the other way around. Focus on your work, and you should be able to forget your past and take your thoughts away from bad memories.


5) Success is your sweet revenge: Princesswithapen's 3 R's

So why are we talking about success while discussing ways to stop worrying about your past? Quite simple. The bad memories and experiences in your past could have been the result of betrayal and hate. You may even hold grudges against someone specific or a group of people who have let you down or mocked you for what you were. The best way to put all this behind is to go all guns blazing and being successful in your own right.


Regardless of what point of life you are in, there is always a goal that defines success for the time being. Whether it is getting into a good uni, winning at the sport you play, getting out of debt, getting back in shape, working for a promotion, getting the job you always wanted, being a successful entrepreneur or earning the money you always wanted - we all have a goal that we work for. If you want to forget your past, befriend success and forget failure.

Success is the most powerful weapon against bad memories and a hurtful past. When you start achieving what you'd set out to do, you will start walking over your painful past and carve a brighter, happier future for yourself.
Success is the most powerful weapon against bad memories and a hurtful past. When you start achieving what you'd set out to do, you will start walking over your painful past and carve a brighter, happier future for yourself. | Source

Princesswithapen's 3 R's: With success, come the 3 R's that we all ultimately want in life – Recognition, Respect and Riches. The people who were the reason for the bad memories etched in your heart and mind, will burn at the sound of your success. They will feel jealous and may very well one day, come begging to you for help. This will be your sweet revenge and will help you completely erase the disturbing memories of your past. Put your past behind you, chase success and strive to be a better person every day. Go for it - you know you deserve it.

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Comments 2 comments

samanthajae 4 years ago

Hi Princesswithapen, your hub is full of great advice. Have voted up. Thank you for sharing.


WhydThatHappen 4 years ago

Great reminder to get yourself where you want to emotionally be! Shared

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