Body Language that suggest they are lying to you

Body Language and Gestures Matter

Complete Lack of eye contact, can suggest a liar or someone with an anxiety disorder. Make sure you know who you are communicating with.
Complete Lack of eye contact, can suggest a liar or someone with an anxiety disorder. Make sure you know who you are communicating with.
The eyes can tell you more than words can...
The eyes can tell you more than words can...
They are said to be the windows to your soul...
They are said to be the windows to your soul...
The eyes can tell you innocence, truth or lies...
The eyes can tell you innocence, truth or lies...
Eyes wide? Chin down?
Eyes wide? Chin down?
So much is said by the way we position our bodies
So much is said by the way we position our bodies
Is the body language relaxed, scattered, slow?
Is the body language relaxed, scattered, slow?

Eye Movement and Body Language can tell you what you need to know

Not all relationships last forever. People grow apart, spouses cheat, and love ends. Unfortunately, cheating and lying does not only effect the cheater, it effects the spouse, who is often left bewildered, feeling betrayed, hurt, angry, sad, foolish and perhaps as if they were not good enough to maintain their spouses commitment to the relationship. If a spouse is cheating, they are lying to you as well. Don’t be blindsided by their manipulation and lies, be aware of the things that people do when they are lying to you, so if nothing else you can prepare yourself.

If someone is lying to you they may give you all the answers to your questions with their body language, rather than their words. Some body language signs that someone is lying are;

  • Scratching or itching their nose-and the other body language that people show when they are lying is known as The Pinocchio Syndrome- If you are speaking to someone and they don’t have something hanging from their nostril, but continue to scratch and touch their nose, listen to what they are saying as well as pay attention to some of the other body language mannerisms they display, they may not be speaking the truth.
  • Covering of mouth or chin- When children lie, they will throw their hands up, and in front of their faces. When an adult lies they revert back to this childlike mannerism by partially covering their face with a hand or rubbing their mouth and chin area, as if they are attempting to hide behind the lies.
  • When you are speaking to someone and ask them a question, watch their eyes. If they widen their eyes (as if they were asking, what-you don’t believe me?), this is a classic mannerisms of a liar.
  • Excessive blinking has also been a known characteristic of someone whom is lying to you. More recent research suggests that absence of blinking all together can also mean that the person speaking is being less than honest. Complete absence of blinking is now believed a more liable characteristic, more so that excessive blinking
  • If they are looking you in the eyes while the two of you are engaged in the conversation, and the point when he/she is finally answering your question about where they went after work, and he/she breaks the eye contact while speaking-this is a telltale sign, that you should proceed with caution.
  • Another eye, give away is when someone is speaking to you and they are remembering a situation and are simply attempting to say it correctly, they may look up to the left. Looking up to the left signifies that they are recalling an event, on the same token, if they are looking up to the right, this may signify that they are looking up to imagination and are creating the lie they will tell. This goes hand in hand with how our brains work, and what left and right sides of your brain are responsible for.
  • They stop moving. If all movement stops when someone is answering you, they may be lying. People stop moving when lying because they are focusing on the lie and how to tell it so that it is believed, with this focus they may become very still.
  • Someone may be a liar if they commit allot of detail to an explanation to answer a question. For example, you may ask so what did you have for lunch. A normal response would probably be Turkey Sandwich from the Deli. A response with too much explanation may be, “Ron and I went to the Deli, spent 25minutes sitting in traffic, then when I ordered the girl gave me a Med cup rather than a Large and they forgot Ron’s mayo. It was horrible.” If you notice, the second response did not even give an answer to the question asked. This often happens. If you think about how you answer a question, it is usually a response that flows by first giving an answer and then highlight. When a person is making an excuse, they may begin a sentence with a sigh, or by saying something like, "Well you see, or, I was going to but..." Excuses may be valid or lies, may attention to their body movement.
  • Someone may be lying to you, if when you question them-they do not answer you, they become defensive and turn the questions around on you. People do not like to admit they have made a mistake, and to conserve or protect themselves and their lies, they would rather blame and redirect issues on someone other than themselves. This is why a cheater almost always accuses the spouse of cheating.
  • Sweating is also a sign that someone is being untruthful. If you begin your conversation they are cool and dry, and the temp outside is 70, but when you ask them a question that puts them in the spot, and they begin to speak a lie, blood pressure may(usually will) rise when someone is lying, sometimes to the extent that they begin to perspire.

These are just a few things that anyone should watch out for if they are concerned that someone is not as straight forward and honest as they attempt to convince you of... If you are the liar; Truth is always better; I would rather get in trouble for saying the truth than for telling a lie. At least if you are truthful, you can keep some level of trust and belief. Once caught in a lie-everything you have ever said or will ever say will be view differently.

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sannyasinman 6 years ago

Useful hub. Do you know if this works across different cultures and nationalities?


Nan 6 years ago

Good advice and how- to - know a liar. However, experience is the best teacher. You should not open yourself up to hurt and pain or you will get hurt. KNOW THAT A ROMANCE IS ACTING. One actor trying to outdo the other! As a teacher I had a lot of experience of students lying, and they told good lies, some believable, and laughable. Sex is always a game, you would not tell your spouse or lover that they are horrible! That would kill the relationship! Don't follow up on every detail.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Thanks for the comment sannyasinman...

Yes body language is a relevant form of communication in different cultures and nationalities, although it may mean something different than it means in the US. The movement of the eyes is the most consistent in meaning and reading people across the board. Although people with autism, have eye movements such as rolling of the eyes or not being able to hold eye contact, in the situation of dealing with autism or anxiety disorders-studying eye contact and movement are not reliable ways to read someone. I'm working on another Hub, I hope to finish today or tomorrow that will give further detail of the meaning of gestures such as crossed arms, stance or crossing of the legs. These types of gestures do differ between cultures.


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Dao Hoa 6 years ago

I did not think of the liar's action reverted to childlike mannerism. Thanks. It is good to know.


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Cagsil 6 years ago from USA or America

Hey H.C., I voted this Hub UP! :) I enjoyed reading, but already knew most of it. It was nicely done. Glad to be a fan.


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RTalloni 6 years ago from the short journey

Good tips, but so glad you mentioned "may"...we do need to be careful not to jump to conclusions as any number of things may distract a person's focus.

Lying is so prevalent and has played a huge part in the degradation of our society. So sad that a "good" liar is admired by many people!


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Thank you for reading and commenting. You are correct 'MAY' is an important part of understanding body language. You really need to know a person to be able to read them accurately . Everyone is different and when nervous people act out of character

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Dolores Monet 6 years ago from East Coast, United States

I've always thought this was an interesting topic, but wonder if the behaviors that you describe pertain to just a regular lie. What about people who are chronic liers, the ones who don't feel guilty about it.


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bonny2010 6 years ago from outback queensland

Oh dear remind me not to sit next to you when I am a tall tale telling mood - you will distract me and I'll lose my punch line - great read


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Dolores and Bonny2010,

Thanks for reading-

Some times you do need to know a little something about the person and the way that they move. But you can often pick up on nervous behavior and movements without knowing someone very well. Even Chronic Liars do something-people in general change posture when they are telling a story vs when they are remembering facts-most of the time those are the easiest movement changes or expression changes that someone can pick up on.

This doesn't work with people that have movement disorders-or autism... It can be tricky-but it is a lot of fun too :)


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia

Wow with this info I just may embark on my private eye career.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Hi Blondepoet, Thanks for reading and commenting. I am always a little paranoid when someone is telling me something- I started studying body language (perhaps I thought I could become a human lie detector) but the details that go into reading people are endless and I am an emotional girl-so I tend to forget to look for the signs when I am talking to someone... Go Figure :)

hc


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agvulpes 6 years ago from Australia

This is a great Hub (I'm looking up to the left and I'm not sweating) I will try to remember these signs for the future!


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

agvulpes, I have always loved the ideas behind peoples movements and gestures--this hub and research made me think about the way that I act when I am speaking to others. I am now more careful I dont give off the wrong signs when I am saying something :) Thanks for stopping by and commenting


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Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

Good info and well done hub!


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

neil sperling,

thanks for the comment-glad you got use of the information :)


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acaetnna 6 years ago from Guildford

Gosh this will be so useful. Thanks for the info H.C.Porter.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

acaetnna- this subject is of large interest to me- always thought it would be cool to be able to examine others movements and determine if they were truthful or not :) thanks for the comment and for reading


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Shahid Bukhari 5 years ago from My Awareness in Being.

That doesn't not leave much for human interaction ... does it ?

You see, some of what you say may be valid ... from a certain angle ... but the cited Examples, of body language, are not universal constants ... viz. I live in Pakistan, here summer temperatures normally soar to above 40 degrees Celsius, during daytime ... and most of the people ... without the luxury of air conditioning, sweat profusely ...

So if we take your cited examples literally ... all desert dwellers, or those belonging to "developing" or World Bank blackmailed countries ... are liars ...

This mannerism, interpreted politically, would imply ... all poor Muslim Arabs, are liars ... and geographically, mean, that the only truthful ones on earth are the Eskimos !

By the way, why not add something about the dilated pupils !


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Shahid Bukhari-thanks for reading. In reference to your complaint on the inaccurate information in this hub, let me emphasize.

You have pointed out the sweating- If you look at the content, it is not saying if you are sweating you are lying- It states if it is cool outside and the person is cool in temp and when asked a question start to perspire while answering- it is pliable to believe they are lying.

As for the other examples you stated, I am not sure what exactly the complaint was-but let me clarify that I wrote and posted this hub to give statements that have been researched and proven to be true. As for the dilated pupils, I did not include that one because #1 unless you are fairly close to someone you can not tell- #2 Sunglasses and glasses also shield from looking into pupils #3 if you are outside on a sunny day-you may also not read the dilation correctly #4 lack of sleep- many medications along with a vast variety of medical conditions can effect this.... So basically the only environment and situation that you can properly assess the pupils and their dilation is if you are in a consistently lit room with a non medicated, healthy person-too many factors.

Although I do not agree with your comment or assessment of this hub- I do appreciate you taking the time to read-consider and make suggestions.


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Tracy Lynn Conway 5 years ago from Virginia, USA

H.C. Porter, I just love this hub! It is so well written and I love the topic of body language. I have never seen aspects of body language explained so well! I can't wait to interact with people using this new found knowledge.


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Tracy Lynn Conway- awww, thank you! That was an awesome compliment to receive! I am so glad I could give you some valuable information to utilize and I hope you have fun with it! Thanks again...you just made my day :)


Ultimate Body Language 4 years ago

That seems very consistent with my research as well. These are good basic indicators of lying. The hard thing about lying is that we have been doing it since we were kids, so to get good at lie detection requires a lot of practise.

And even then we will miss lies.

But we can only try.

Thanks

Dave

Ultimate Body Language Company


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H.C Porter 4 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Thanks Dave- glad you can confirm my research with yours. you are very right, learning to read people correctly takes a lot of work. thanks for commenting on the hub!


yaya 4 years ago

Great article H.C Porter, very useful!

it will indeed help liars in some extent, for them to know what mistake they must not do to be caught lying!!...

And helpful for those trying to catch those liars


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H.C Porter 4 years ago from Lone Star State Author

yaya- if we only had to wear our true meaning and truths on a sign held around our necks...life and relationships would be so much easier to handle...thanks for reading and for the comment :)


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rjbatty 4 years ago from Irvine

H.C.: This is a good Hub, and you've obviously attracted a lot of attention (feedback) to it. While reading over your tips, I became aware of the fact that I convey many of the same mannerisms in my normal fashion of communication, e.g., telling the truth about mundane manners. One of my siblings was/is a serial liar, so I have a heightened sense when someone is telling me a fish story. I paid the price for this awareness earlier, but it is proving to be very useful in my adult life. I cannot always tell when someone is lying to me -- some people are very artful -- probably able to pass a lie-detector test (if it came to that). Despite my years of early training, I still tend to be rather gullible/naïve, but oftentimes, a kind of "spider sense" goes off in me and I can "feel" something is amiss. Still, if I were placed under a lie detector test, I'd be giving off all sorts of false-positives because of general nervousness and anxiety. In any case thank you for posting a very interesting piece.


disagree 4 years ago

completely and totally subjective.


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H.C Porter 4 years ago from Lone Star State Author

rjbatty- thanks for commenting. body language is so hard to read, I often give off the wrong signals when nervous... I am not so good on the spot or in front of large amounts of people...so I stutter and show signs of lying, but not because of a lie, but because of insecurity and shyness. Anyhow, I believe that body language can not tell 100% if someone is lying, but can give you a clue as to when to be cautious. :)


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