How Clean Is My Window?


I got a forward the other day and this is how the story went.

A young husband and wife moved house and the first morning in their new home, the woman looked out of her window and noticed her neighbour hanging out her washing. ‘Those don’t look clean,’ she said to her husband. ‘She probably uses cheap detergent!’ The husband said nothing.

This happened every morning till one day, the young wife looked out and exclaimed, ‘Hey, her clothes look great today – someone must have taught her how to do it right!’

Her husband replied, ‘I cleaned the windows this morning.’


It was a PowerPoint presentation with beautiful pictures – you can find it here. It got me thinking – how often do I do that? How often do I see through a glass darkly and judge? How often do I need to pull myself up and clean my own windows or better still, open them to see better what's outside?

It happens to all of us. We look around from a position of superiority and wonder how on earth people just can’t be better. What is implicit in that of course, is why they can’t be as good as we are. Why do we do it? Why do we look for the mote in our brother’s eye before we remove the beam from our own?

It happens in the real world, it happens in the virtual world. It’s so much easier to believe a lack in others than to even consider than our own view might be flawed. Is it a sense of lack deep down in us that makes us look hard for the faults in others? Are we conscious of it at all or is it something that springs from the subconscious?

Maybe what it all boils down to is the fact that we don’t love ourselves enough. If we did, it might be easier to love our fellowmen. If we loved ourselves enough, we would accept ourselves for what we are – and there would be no need for any kind of affirmations of how great we are by comparing ourselves with others.

Love is, or should be, so simple. And yet, for most of us, it could be the toughest way to be.


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Melissa G 7 years ago from Tempe, AZ

Lovely, Shalini! I think you've pinpointed the main culprit here: a lack of love for ourselves. Nearly all the selfish and arrogant behaviors I've partaken in over the years have stemmed from this shortcoming, and it's so easy to adopt a sense of superiority over those who don't share our views (those fools!). ;)

It's as simple as changing our thoughts, though--like so many things in life. Sometimes I'll just remind myself: "I am love, I am loved, all my actions come from a place of love," and a stunning transformation takes place. My dad used to tell us to look at ourselves in the mirror and say "I love myself!, I love myself!" repeatedly. I tried a few times and felt vain and foolish, it seemed forced and unnatural. But I have begun to treat myself more lovingly over the years, with kindness, patience, and acceptance, and the more I practice this, the more I love those around me, and recognize how connected we all are.

Thank you for reminding us how essential it is to love ourselves. :)


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India Author

Melissa - thanks so much! I don't think you need reminding - it's evident in every post of yours. May that love always be in you :)


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Melissa G 7 years ago from Tempe, AZ

Thank you, Shalini! Trust me, I need reminders, and this one was very timely. :)


ColdWarBaby 7 years ago

As I've said before Shalini, we are all one. One world, one love.


Ananta65 7 years ago

This hub illustrates judgment so simple, Shalini Kagal. How often do I need to pull myself up and clean my own windows or better still, open them to see better what's outside?  Open them to not only see, but also smell and feel. This hub is a gem *smile*


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India Author

Melissa: Thank you - I need them too!

CWB: Yes we are and like I've said before, the world needs more people who think like you do!

Ananta: I should have dedicated this hub to you because your hub was the inspiration. Thanks for reading - and also Thanks for enriching it as you do with every hub you pass thru - I agree that the windows need to be opened not just to see but to smell and feel as well!


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Amanda Severn 7 years ago from UK

Hi Shalini,

That's a great story, and a lesson for us all. It's too easy to criticise others when we're less than perfect ourselves!


Ananta65 7 years ago

It's something mutual as far as I;m concerned, Shalini. Inspiration is not a one way street :)


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Feline Prophet 7 years ago from India

How true Shalini...it's so much easier to judge someone else than admit a lack in ourselves!


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India Author

Amanda - thanks for reading - yes, criticism comes so easy to most of us, doesn't it?

Ananta - nor love either :)

FP - yes, it is - guess we just need to be more aware of ourselves! Thanks for the comment :)


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

We should not comment unitl we know the truth as it can come back and bite us in the behinds. Love the article and thanks for being a mentor.:)


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India Author

Thanks AEvans! It's said the truth sets us free so maybe we need to watch our behinds more carefully :)

Thanks for becoming my fan!


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RGraf 7 years ago from Wisconsin

Very deep! I honestly believe that if each one of focused on cleaning our own windows instead of others dirty laundry, we would all have clean windows and clean laundry.


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cgull8m 7 years ago from North Carolina

Another great blog Shalini. Nice wisdom to follow, before we criticize others we should make sure we are perfect. Cheers :)


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India Author

Thank you RGraf - clean windows and clean laundry seem to be a good rule to live by!

cgull - thanks for reading - how true!


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compu-smart 7 years ago from London UK

Too true words here Shalini! i would love to comment more but


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India Author

Thanks for reading compu-smart - off to clean your windows?? lol


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quicksand 7 years ago

Sigh! That's the truth about life.

Hey! Got it! How 'bout designing houses without windows?

... on second thoughts, one should'nt run away from reality, right?

Have a nice day! :)


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India Author

You have a nice day too, quicksand! Actually houses with windows but no glass to clean might be a good thing :)


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shastinaray 7 years ago from Capay, California

Hi Shaslini Kagal I loved that story... All of it is so true.


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Proud Mom 7 years ago from USA

Hey Shalini!!! How are the pups?

I LOVE this hub!!!! I think you're right about the lack of self-love. If we lack that, we look for someone even more lacking to make ourselves feel better!

You do get to the heart of things!!


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India Author

Hi shastinaray - thanks for coming by - yes, it surely is!

Proud Mom - they're great - and I spend most of my time with them because the little one is just 2 months old! Thanks as always for stopping by, reading and commenting :)


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prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

great tips to clean window. thanks for share


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India Author

Thank you for reading :)


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trish1048 7 years ago

A great hub Shalini!

Loving ones self is hard to do for many people. I believe there's a fine line between loving ones self and superiority. I also believe that many people, like the woman in your story, suffer not so much from not loving ones self, but from pure ignorance. It reminds me of a show I watched one evening, where this woman accepted a date with a hunk of a man. They went out to have a few drinks, and were sitting at the bar chatting. She made a comment about her blue eyes, and said to this man, aren't my eyes beautiful? He replied, I would imagine they are. She, indignantly, said what do you mean, imagine? He replied, Blanche, I'm blind. I can only imagine. Well, you can certainly imagine her embarrassment. She had absolutely no clue that he was blind. Had she paid more attention to him, she would have realized almost in an instant. She was so into herself that she couldn't see beyond her skewed vision.

Thanks for sharing :)


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India Author

You know Trish - you're right - so many things stem from ignorance as much as superiority. Thanks for that story. Maybe one ought to feel sorry for the ones so into themselves - it can't be a happy place to be in! Thanks for coming by!


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vocalcoach 5 years ago from Nashville Tn.

A lovely hub! So very true and insightful. Loved the example at the beginning. I will be sure to keep my window clean and clear. Thanks you, dear one.


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Shalini Kagal 5 years ago from India Author

Hi vocalcoach - thanks so much for reading!


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GmaGoldie 5 years ago from Madison, Wisconsin

Great Hub! Oh, so very true. Fear and ignorance - these are the items we must fight. You are very wise to share this with us - thank you!


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Shalini Kagal 5 years ago from India Author

Hi GmaGoldie - yes, fear and ignorance are responsible for so many ills, aren't they? Thanks so much for reading!


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Shalini Kagal 4 years ago from India Author

Thank you dui!

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