How To Stop Your Significant Other From Controlling The Way You Dress

Introduction

The freedom of expression through fashion defines teenagers, musicians, and artist. Fashion can also define a statement in time. Most fashion can be a phase sparked by adventure, celebrity influence, and creativity.

However when your significant other is not impressed with the way you dress, you could be dealing with a serious problem in the relationship.

Fashion is an outlet of expression, and one should be able to dress the way they feel within reason.

This article contains information on how to deal with the dress code issues in a relationship.

My Girlfriend Accused Me Of Trying To Dress Her Up Like The Old Woman On The Cover Of The Quaker Oats Box

Quaker Oats Old Fashioned Oatmeal, 18-Ounce Canisters (Pack of 6)
Quaker Oats Old Fashioned Oatmeal, 18-Ounce Canisters (Pack of 6) | Source

I Don't Like The Way My Significant Other Dresses, What Should I Do?

Dear Emunah:

When I met my girlfriend she was dressed in a barely there mini skirt with a matching tight fitting shirt, and I’m not gonna lie, I liked it. But now that we are taking our relationship to the next level, I feel that she should start covering up. I don’t want the mother of my future children dressing like a street walker, you know what I mean?

My girlfriend and I have gotten into numerous arguments concerning the way she dresses. I tried to help her out; I purchased a gorgeous outfit at one those expensive department stores, the outfit came with a matching hat. This woman of mine got all upset! My girlfriend accused me of trying to dress her up like that old woman on the cover of the oatmeal box.

My girlfriend lacks class in my opinion. She told me that I look at other women who dress in revealing clothes, and I will admit, I have a wandering eyeball, but I’m just looking at the merchandise, I’m not buying. And like I said, I don’t want my future wife dressing like a $2.00 hooker.

I have class, and I want my future wife to have class too. My girlfriend had the nerve to tell me that I dress weird. I know I’m no G.Q. pin up man, but I know how to dress. I have a certain style that I cling to.

I wear my classy khaki knee length shorts, with a white dress shirt, that I keep tucked inside of my shorts to secure a clean cut appearance, you know what I mean? I wear sandals, but when it’s cold outside I wear socks and brown loafers. I top this look off with a matching hat on occasion.

I switch the look up a bit, by wearing my blue jeans, a tight fitting vest, and a red cap to tie in some color. This is a classic look; I don’t appreciate my girlfriend tearing my outfit apart.

This situation is affecting our relationship; my girlfriend needs to start dressing with more class. My girlfriend needs to respect the way I dress as well. I’m looking for answers in order to resolve this unsettling situation.

Jasper Y.K..W. / The Bronx

The Problem:

Dear: Jasper Y.K.W.

First of all, that is not a woman on the cover of the Quaker Oats Container, it's a man. :-)

Perhaps the outfit that you purchased for your girlfriend appeared similar to the outfit that the distinguished Quaker is wearing on the cover of the oatmeal box, and I don't think your girlfriend was happy about this outcome.

Mr. Jasper I noticed three major red flags within your email which concerns me,

  1. You said that your girlfriend dresses like an underpaid street walker.
  2. You said that you have a wandering eyeball/ eye.
  3. You think that your style of fashion is better.

Mr. Jasper you come off as being verbally abusive towards your girlfriend. Why should she dress like a nun? When you met her she was wearing a mini skirt. You check out other women who dress revealing, your girlfriend is probably trying to hold your attention by dressing provocatively.

Now I will admit when women turn a certain age, they should dress more maturely; this can be a difficult transition for some women, since the media is drawn to the latest fashion which is not always classy. It would be nice if you both could focus on respect in the relationship.

Mr. Jasper, I'm trying to visualize your attire, and so far, you are having a problem in the fashion department as well.

You say that you enjoy wearing your khaki knee length shorts, with a white dress shirt, tucked inside your shorts, topped off with a matching hat, on occasion.

When I put this outfit together in my mind, two of the following bizarre images appear, in which I find both images to be utterly disturbing.

The Significant Other Dress Code Poll

Do you and your significant other argue over clothing?

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You May Dress Similar To A Bavarian Lederhosen, Minus The Suspenders

A Bavarian Lederhosen Costume.
A Bavarian Lederhosen Costume. | Source

The Second Outfit That You Put Together Could Resemble A German Garden Gnome

A German Garden Gnome.
A German Garden Gnome. | Source

The Solution:

Sit down with your significant other and discuss this matter. The results should be fair.

Allow your significant other to dress the way she feels fit, within reason. If he or she works for an upscale business company, the dress code should be enforced to promote a professional business environment.

If your girlfriend is hitting the streets wearing underwear, then she's gone too far, however if she is wearing the same attire that attracted you to her, perhaps you should not criticize your girlfriend. It takes time for some women to build a sophisticated wardrobe.

Your girlfriend should not judge the way you dress either. If the arguing still continues, most likely you both could be involved in a toxic relationship.

Below is a video that can help shed some light on this matter.


The Please Don't Wear That Outfit Poll

Do You Have A Problem With The Way That Your Significant Other Dresses?

See results without voting

In Conclusion:

Love & respect each other. If you can't accept your partner for the way he or she dresses then move on. Find someone that will embrace your unique style.

Don't Dog Your Mate Around

A Dog Wearing A Pleated Dog Coat in Hot Pink
A Dog Wearing A Pleated Dog Coat in Hot Pink | Source

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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean

Interesting situation here. There would probably be other significant issues causing these types of discussions--more than meet the eyes.


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swilliams 2 years ago from Arizona Author

Hi Ms. Dora! I would agree. There always seems to be more behind a relationship that is in trouble. Trust issues and insecurity is sometimes the root cause. Thanks for your feedback!


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Sami Hanson 2 years ago from Kansas

Controlling relationships are a deal breaker. I think you came back with a very insightful and honest response. Either way---- he fell in love with the woman who dressed the way she wanted. Going into a relationship because "you like what you see" cannot all of a sudden turn into expectations that she will change just because "you liked what you saw and decided to make it official". The nerve of some people!


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swilliams 2 years ago from Arizona Author

I know Sami! This seems to be a very bad problem. There are a lot of one sided relationships out there. Thanks for your feedback.


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

I don't like being told how to dress. I choose what I like and dress the way I fancy. I have always been that way. My partner does tell me what to and what no to wear though some can be controlling


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swilliams 2 years ago from Arizona Author

Hi DDE! It's important to find a partner that embraces your style. You found a good mate that respects your fashion sense. That is a blessing!


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Janellegems 2 years ago from Virginia

Great example of how control can take place in a relationship in reference to one’s clothes and a wise response to this situation. Voted up!!!


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swilliams 2 years ago from Arizona Author

Hi Janellegems! Thanks for your feedback! Fighting over clothing in a relationship should be a deal breaker, there are so many other problems that need to be addressed such as communication. Clothing should never be one of the problems. Thanks for the Vote up!

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