Great Friends are Hard to find-Friendship

Trust

I do not have a large circle of friends. There are just too few people, that I can trust. Why is that? What is trust anyway?

Trust as defined in the dictionary: As a verb...To have confidence or faith in. To allow without fear. To be confident about something. Expect and wish. As a noun...something (as property held by one party (the trustee) for the benefit of another (the beneficiary). Certainty based on past experience. The trait of believing in the honesty and reliability of others. A consortium of independent organization formed to limit competition by controlling the production and distribution of a product or service. Complete confidence in a person or plan etc. A trustful relationship.

Small Circle of Friends

When I say small, I mean small. I have only two female friends that I confide in, and am loyal to. The interesting thing is that my two friends are polar opposites to me. They are friendly, outgoing, and talkative. Where I am friendly in a conservative way, introverted, and quiet. However, everyone knows that your opinion of yourself is not always the opinion of others. I often wonder though if I am attracted to these two people just for the fact that their personalities are completely opposite of mine. My spouse is just like me. Very quiet natured, but friendly in a conservative way.

My introversion, I assume is what causes me to write. I have always had difficulty saying how I feel out loud. I have always been able to get my point across on paper. A possible reason that my friends stay loyal is because I listen attentively to them.


Photo by: Steve Lochmann
Photo by: Steve Lochmann

Back Stabbing and Discrediting

For some reason females are very competitive with each other. At least in my line of work, which is Nursing. A predominantly female oriented profession. It's very interesting to sit back and watch. Sometimes I pray that I am not the one who is on the outs today. Have you ever done that?

I don't care too much for drama. I know too many people who thrive on it. Do you know this type? The type whose every moment in life must be a drama. They must have drama in order to survive. Every little thing is a crisis. Then they say oh I wish that things would just go my way. I just want to tell them to shut up...life is what you make it. If you make it a crisis all the time that's what it's going to be. Then of course you would be the one on the outs that day. I try to fly under the radar. At least in public I do.

What is up with back stabbing? What purpose does it serve to say something mean about someone behind their back. If I think you're doing something that I don't like, I'll tell it to your face...nicely of course.

The ones who purposely try to discredit you are the scourge of the earth. Come on people. Does it make you feel better? You know the type, they ask you for your help then turn around, and ask someone else if you were correct. Why ask you for your opinion if you really didn't want it anyway?

I don't know about you but I generally don't ever help someone who tries to discredit someone. They don't deserve it. Something to learn about nurses. If you are ugly we will do as little as possible for you, as we will avoid your nasty attitude at all costs. There are just some people that if you give them an inch they take a mile. Oh I'll be nice to your face, but don't expect my 100%, and you know who you are.


Photo by: Steve Lochmann
Photo by: Steve Lochmann

Writing to Express Myself

I mostly write to get stuff off my chest. Validation in my line of work is really hard to come by. I write for me. I don't get paid (especially since google adsense disabled my account). I find validation in the fact that some people comment on my stories and they tell me that they enjoy them. I generally get a bit embarrassed by complements, somehow the relative anonymity of the people that I come into contact with online makes it easier to accept complements, at least sometimes.

The weird psychology of the whole online experience, goes back to the beginning of the story. Trust, how do you trust people you haven't even met? I suppose you can just shut people out with the click of your mouse online. You can't do that in real life. You can't get rid of a troublesome coworker with the click of your mouse, life's just not like that.


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dohn121 6 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

Google disabled your account? I think that you have to click on the ! box so you can verify you phone number, mailing address, pay-out info (paper check, etc.) and PIN number. It is because I didn't get my PIN through the mail and didn't notify Google that I didn't that I have to now wait 3 weeks or so before I restart the process of earning through Adsense again. Make sure you do this (You're losing money that you invariably should be making). Let me know how it goes, Tammy.

Oh, and I did like this hub BTW, lol. Yes, I have only 3 people I can count on out of 7 Billion in this world. One of them is the love of my life (which makes sense). I could call on her at 3 AM and she would bail me out (if it came to that!). I'd do the same for them and they know this.

Thanks, Tammy! Good luck with Google Adsense!


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Shalini Kagal 6 years ago from India

How true, Tammy! While I pin a smile when I meet many, my genuine smiles are reserved for the very few who I can trust with my life. All I can say is, we're lucky to have those few in our lives and not have to go through life with people who could be bitching about you behind your back!

Like Dohn says, here's to Adsense being back again!


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Ken R. Abell 6 years ago from ON THE ROAD

Thank you for this honest presentation. People are people, & it seems that relationships often get messed up because of different kinds of competition, especially in the workplace.

Much encouragement to you - hope you get the Google snafu fixed quickly.


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Destined To Win 6 years ago

Enjoyed your timely and thought provoking hub that I'm sure many can relate, too. A wise pastor once made this statement, "If you can have at least one real friend in your life, you are indeed wealthy." Writing is such a marvelous way of self-expression and you do it well. I'm sure the "google thing" is something simple and can be worked out.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Dohn, I can't even log into my account. They disabled it right after I confirmed all my payment info and entered my pin from the mail (actually pretty much immediately). I have appealed but haven't heard anything back I will just have to sit on it for now.

Thanks for reading, I worried about this one all night...always afraid of offending someone. True friends are really hard to come by so I am really lucky that I have two. Glad to know I am not the only one who is very cautious about who I let in on my real life.

Thanks again, Tammy


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Shalini, thank you for your validation. Writing is such a wonderful gift...especially for me.

Keeping positive about my appeal for my adsense account reinstatement.

Thanks again, Tammy


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Destined, Thank you for visiting and for your validation. Friends are a gift and a good one is hard to come by.

I just have to think positively about the google thing. Nothing in life is free.

Thanks for reading! Tammy


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Ken, I will never understand someone who undermines their own relationships with others.

Thank you so much for reading. Just have to think positively about the google thing and hope it all works out.

Thanks again, Tammy


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pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

I think true friendship is overrated. Brought up as an Army brat, and moved from one base to another every two to three years you learn not to become too attached. I currently have a long standing friendship of over sixteen years, but that's it. I've been stabbed in the back so many times by people I thought were friends that it's not worth the emotional hassle. My husband and I are very private people and writing has become an invaluable asset to my life. Unfortunately, women are their own worst enemy and it's not just in your profession it's a cancer in all professions. I think that is why some reality shows are so popular, some women get off on drama and reeking havoc on others emotionally. Jealously has a lot to do with it, most feel because of their gender they are entitled for some reason. Loved your hub..it was so full of feeling and truth. Blessings to you and yours.


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pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

I think true friendship is overrated. Brought up as an Army brat, and moved from one base to another every two to three years you learn not to become too attached. I currently have a long standing friendship of over sixteen years, but that's it. I've been stabbed in the back so many times by people I thought were friends that it's not worth the emotional hassle. My husband and I are very private people and writing has become an invaluable asset to my life. Unfortunately, women are their own worst enemy and it's not just in your profession it's a cancer in all professions. I think that is why some reality shows are so popular, some women get off on drama and reeking havoc on others emotionally. Jealously has a lot to do with it, most feel because of their gender they are entitled for some reason. Loved your hub..it was so full of feeling and truth. Blessings to you and yours.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Pmccray, heartfelt thanks for the validation. Writing is my outlet and has always been (at least since I could write). I suppose I have been lucky.

Thank you for the blessings and blessings from me to you and yours.

Tammy


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Jen's Solitude 6 years ago from Delaware

Great Hub! BTW, did your husband take the pic? It is beautiful. As someone who is also a listener, I find your observations dead on. I look forward to reading your hubs in the future.


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itakins 6 years ago from Irl

Tammy-

I used to think this was a trait with nurses particularly-but no it's not,wherever you go ,whatever you do-it's there.

After reading this hub-I see so much of me!!My husband and kids are the bricks that support me -and after that 3 close female friends.I often feel ,when you are quiet ,some people assume you are arrogant -!

Hubpages is a great medium for self expression,and like you said -a click of a mouse and gone!!!


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Jen, Thanks, I really like to sit back observe and listen. Yes My husband took the pics they are nice aren't they. Glad to meet you and I will be off to read some of your stuff.

Thanks again! Tammy


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Itakins, we quiet ones are the ones you really have to be careful of...LOL...Yes I have been accused of being a snobby and arrogant. My little family keeps me together too. We live far away from influences of family and when they come to visit they are usually on their best behavior.

Thanks again for reading, and commenting I always look forward to hearing from you!

Tammy


"Quill" 6 years ago

Trusting comes from devotion and love that we receive and give out. Friends are hard to find these days. like you I have a few trusted friends that know me inside and out. No matter what I share I know is entrusted to them, advise is received and accepted going both directions and that is an element that is hard to find today.

Great Hub and blessings to you


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Quill, thank you for your kind words. I am truly blessed with the friends that I have. I hope they feel the same for me...I am sure they do or else they wouldn't still be around and available.

Thanks again, Tammy


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myownworld 6 years ago from uk

I really like the way you write...such honesty to it! I too feel that a few but loyal friends is a rare gift...and that it takes a long time for one to build trust, especially online. Despite all, reading your words, I found myself instinctively trusting you somehow :) so thank you for such a wonderful hub!


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

MOW, Thank you so much for your lovely complements! I like the way you write very much also. Thank you for reading!


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christalluna1124 6 years ago from Dallas Texas

Tammy,

I have Two very close friends, we have been very close for over 30 years. Both are male. I know I can count on them day or night 24/7. I like you am quiet, reserved, and keep mostly to myself. Most of my feelings are expressed by writing or in my personal journal. Especially with a mental illness it is very hard to develop close friendships, especially with women who are more critical. The person i live with is my opposite, very extroverted, likes to meet and talk to everyone, loves large gatherings. I see no point in walking around with a painted, forced smile to a group of people whom I have o desire to hang out with or impress. My partnes says I'm stuck up, its not that. But I don't feel comfortable with alot of people I don't know and with whom I have nothing in common. There are very few people who love to read and write anymore unless its texting. Yeah people talk behind my back, but they don't pay my bills..so. Great article!!

Regards, Chris


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Thanks Christal, I am very introverted and I really dislike even going to my kids functions (concerts, parties, recitals). I kind of rely on my husband to be my backbone at these events. I do it because my kids need it but if I didn't have to I wouldn't even go. I guess what I am trying to say is I understand where you are coming from.

Thanks for reading I really appreciate all your comments!

Tammy


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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas

Great hub, I had a person that I thought was my friend, hurt me badly about 10 years ago. Those type of people know what they are doing. They're unhappy and want to make your life miserable as well...

I'm like you, I learned through this experience that if a so called, "friend" is bringing you gossip and or discrediting some one else all the time. Watch Out, because you will be next... Thanks for sharing your experience.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Money Glitch, Thanks for the affirmation. Good to know my theories aren't unfounded. Thanks for sharing your story too. Thanks for reading and becoming a follower too.

Happy Holidays, Tammy


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

"A possible reason that my friends stay loyal is because I listen attentively to them, I never interrupt."

I'd say this goes a long way in friendship, especially if your friends like to talk a lot. :-)

I enjoyed your Hub, my friend. :D


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

James...Listening is an art...I do all my talking in writing...Thank you my friend your input is always truly appreciated. You learn more when you listen.

Thanks again, Tammy


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anglfire693 6 years ago from Detroit, Michigan

I agree 100% about women...


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Ya we tend to eat our young. Thanks for reading Angel.


Duchess OBlunt 6 years ago

LOL Tammy - we don't ALL tend to eat our young - but mostly!

Friendships - I also have two, so I count myself as very lucky.

I loved your hub. It was great to read so many of the same thoughts from one of the hubbers I would consider a "cyber friend" - meaning I haven't met you but I like you. :)


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Duchess...writing this hub gave me a lot of food for thought. I am in the process of reading a book called "Tripping the Prom Queen" about female rivalry. Very interesting.

As one of the eaten...I try not to eat my young...

Thank you for reading my hub...and I consider you a definite "Cyber-Friend"...I admire you, have learned so much from you, and hope our friendship to be a long one...I have noticed a few people have decided to pull out of HubPages lately...Good writers.

Anyhow, Thanks for reading!


Duchess OBlunt 6 years ago

Ah sucks! Thanks for the compliments. I'm seeing the trend too Tammy, good writers leaving. Please let me know if you do the same. I'd like to keep in touch anyway.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

I am not going anywhere...I honestly don't know where i would go. I am still learning...It would definitely mean a great deal to me if we stay in touch should either of us feel the need to leave. Thanks for extending that invitation!


Duchess OBlunt 6 years ago

:)

HubPages would not let me just post the smiley.

:)

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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Writeasmile...Wow that is really a sad story. I refuse to give the backstabbers the satisfaction of seeing me give up. I suppose I am too stubborn. I also refuse to let them know anything about me. Unfortunatly they are everywhere and looking back I had all that happen in Highschool there were jealous girls back then and they would snub me and still do. Most women are very competetive.

I totally agree that they will have to answer for their behaviours sooner or later be it karma or whatever happens to us in the afterlife. I hope you find the courage to be able to find a great job somewhere in the corporate world.

thank you for reading and commenting


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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

Great hub. I have a few very close friends and lots of casual friends. I had rather have one or two trustworthy pals than hundreds of fair weather buds!


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

You too Habee...We have a lot in common. Good pals are really hard to find. Women are very jealous of each other especially in the work force. We tend to work against each other.

Thanks so much my friend for reading and commenting...it means a lot to me.


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA

Great article. I think in your line of work, you are expected to withstand a lot of stress, so back stabbing just happens due to that. Unfortunately it's hard not to take those things personally. I've been the victim and the antagonist in those situations. The difference I think, is that only some people will admit they've made a mistake, while others will continue to try and fool you forever. I'll only maintain friendships with people who admit they've made mistakes.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Ben...It takes a really good and honest person to admit their mistakes and appologise. It's hard to admit it when you are wrong or even when you aren't wrong just to keep the peace...Some would say that makes you weak but I say it makes you the bigger person.


ralwus 6 years ago

I trust most people once anyway. Great video. Mostly I am shy but I love people and nurses are my favorite ones. I have had many of you angels to tend to me in such caring loving ways. Hasppy New year to you and peace, CC you are just so cute. LOL part of me has to flirt.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

ralwus...gosh dern (blush). I too trust most people once. I always have been a fan of Janice. Thanks for visiting sure appreciate it!


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Ghost Whisper 77 6 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

Hello Tammy! Tammy! Tammy!

Suprisingly, after reading this I realized that you and I share much commonality. I too have a small circle of friends but I like it!

I have two girl friends who I can trust and one gay man who is my very bestest friend. Often I think, wowzie! All these years on this earth and these three are the only ones who have truth, love, honor, integrity, caring? How can this be?

You are a very pretty woman and with some females, they can never get beyond it to reach out their hand in friendship. I know this, even when I have liked many women friends in my life, cared for them..what did they become? Backtalkers, backstabbers,slept with my boyfriends..it goes on and on...and the drama was just more than I could take-it made me step away from them. And issues? They had more issues than a magazine rack!

At one time I had thought...Why? Why do they hate me? backstab me? do all these things when I come so unarmed and full of friendship and love?

Once I stepped back and took a look from the outside, I found some answers, and of course looking within myself also.

I like who I am, unique, silly, intelligent, I am an outgoing person if you havn't figured that out ;) I have never felt competitive or envious of another woman, infact I have had great "sisterly feelings" towards them but they could not get past THEIR problems. What were they?

They didn't like who they were. They were unable to see that they too, were attractive, intelligent, funny..etc.

Often I have had so many stab wounds in my back that I couldn't keep a glass of water in me! OUCH! hehehe

Insecurities of themselves is where it stems from. Yes, even the ones who puff out their chests @@ (why do I like to do that? ha) It is all a facade. Most envied what I had.

What did I have? Self esteem--not to be confused with conceit-none here. Regardless that my hair isn't perfect and my bust isn't some amazing and my shoes are from Payless...it doesn't matter to me. I like who I am and I am not defined by "outside" things.

The good things about oneself are not the boggles and trinkets decorating the outside. The great things come from within-and they shine! People want that "shine" when they do not feel that they have ownership of that very same shine within themselves. Does that make sense?

You Shine :)


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Ghost Whisper...Hey I totally agree I think it all stems from women wanting to protect what is theirs. Insecurities abound with us and if those insecurities are exacerbated by a partner or friends it makes them even worse. Couple good looks and intelligence and you will really have to watch your back.

I never thought I was anything special just average. I did suffer from low self esteem at times but never did I take it out on a friend or anyone for that matter.

I agree I don't think that I could handle a big circle of female friends. Other than my two female friends my best friend really is my Husband and you come to realize that the longer you are married I have found that all the romance and whatnot that we had when we first met and fell in love has become the best friendship that I ever had.

Self esteem is the key...liking or even feeling self love and as you mentioned not conceit is the key. How can you possibly do good and keep good friendships if you don't even like yourself?

Thank you so much my new friend and thanks for taking the time to read and comment. I have been reading your stories I am totally hooked. TTYL


Dawn Almond 6 years ago

I once knew someone who always said that in your entire lifetime, you can probably count your true friends on one hand. This is so very true! I have lots of acquaintances, but very few true friends. As for me, I can just "tell" when I meet someone if I will have a "connection" with them. If I don't connect with them right away, it will never go beyond that acquaintance phase. You are so right; it is hard to trust people. After you've been "burned" a few times, you think twice about sharing your feelings with other people. I am thankful for the few "true" girlfriends I have (that includes you!), my husband and my family, even though it is very small, and my "close" acquaintances that I have. God, Faith, Family, and Friends.......that is my major focus for 2010!


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Dawn...So happy that you knew who I was talking about. True friends are hard to find. I count myself lucky to have the ones that I have. My main focus is to focus in 2010 LOL.


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Rebecca E. 6 years ago from Canada

Tammy-- you sound like me! small circle of friends whom I trust but many many "others" you know aquitances, buddies, whatever you might call them. excellent writing, let me know how the Google AdSense goes.


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Aya Katz 6 years ago from The Ozarks

Tammy, enjoyed your hub. I, too, have a small circle of friends. What is it with Google? Maybe all of us whose ads have been disabled should form a club!


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Rebecca...All I have to say about google is oh well you know if you get disabled there is slim to no chance of being reinstated. I really enjoy writing here so no big deal I just don't really know what I did wrong I even had one of their gurus look at the site and she said she didn't see anything wrong. Anyhow I am so thrilled that you read my story and made a comment it means a lot to me.

Aya Katz...Are there more people who have been disabled? I thought I was the only loser LOL...kinda embarrassing to me. I would love to join that club let me know when it meets I'll be there with the chips and dip and maybe a bottle of wine or two. Any how thank you so much for reading my story and taking the time to comment I really appreciate it.


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

how about friend out of your country. It look interesting. with difference culture, we can learn much from them. Thanks for share your story.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

prasetio30...thank you for taking the time to read and comment.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

lifes just like that Tammy, I know there are people like that in the line of your work, and in this world too,

It is my opinion that I just open myslef to everybody and I trust them all first then in time you will know whom are the real ones,

it becomes difficult specially in the real world and they are alwasy around like in your work etc...

smile Tammy and I know you are caring and great even though at times yes we are challenged by others around us,

Tc, Maita


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Thank you Maita, I can tell you have a kind and caring soul. Anyone would be very lucky to have you as a friend.

I am always happy to see you. Thanks again


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Rochelle Frank 6 years ago from California Gold Country

I really enjoyed reading your thoughts. I'm kind of a loner, too when it comes to close friends. I'll bet you are exceptionally good at your job. Compassionate objectivity is a rare quality.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Rochelle...I really don't know if I am that good. When you are a nurse the praise is really not given much. Usually it's about what we aren't doing that gets the attention. I just try very hard to do my best.

It has been really meaningful for me to write this hub. I have learned a lot about other people and that I am not alone with my thoughts and feelings.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment on this hub.

Sincerely, Tammy


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breakfastpop 6 years ago

Terrific hub. I am very much like you in that I have a very , very small circle of people who I consider friends. Loyalty and trust mean everything to me and I have that with these people. I have never had a need or desire to know a million people. I cherish the few friends that i have and I am very grateful for their presence. I love how you express yourself.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

breakfastpop...Thank you very much for your wonderful comment. This was just a rumination. I have been fortunate to meet so many wonderful writers here who are supportive of us nooks including you. I haven't read this one for a while, thanks for making me come back to look at it. I look forward reading more of your work.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

You say, "I do not have a large circle of friends. There are just too few people, that I can trust." Yo Tammy Dear. I'm with you. I, unfortunately, know how the world goes 'round. I'm a Vietnam Veteran. I won't get started here- right now. Thanks for another great hub!


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Mickey...My friend we all have our things...It's really hard to trust people and to tell you the truth I get too overwhelmed in crowds and I think I could only handle one or two close friends at one time.

Thanks for stopping by and reading. It's always nice to see you!


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Mystique1957 6 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

Ah! My dearest Tam...

Yes, sometimes it is hard to get to know someone; nonetheless, having people appreciate your work even it is virtually is a good thing! Especially, when someone is as nice and considered as you are! Interesting view!

Thumbs up!

Warmest regards and infinite blessings,

Al


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Al...Thanks for reading my hub. I consider you a wonderful new cyber friend. I have met many new friends in the short time I have been here at HP...Glad you are one of them. Take care...Tammy


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Ghost Whisper 77 6 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

Happy Easter Rockstar!

You were wished a blessed day!

Love, Ghosty


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Ghosty...Happy Easter! Have yourself a blessed day also. Love Tammy


TattoGuy 6 years ago

Really don't know how I missed this hub as it so relates to me, although I am a real flirt on Hupages in real life I don't let people get to close to me because they generally let me down.

I am writing that Judy Garland hub and am going to dedicate it to you but it won't be done to about Wednesday as I want it to be the best thing I have written as a tribute to the lovely Judy Garland, hope you are enjoying yer Easter, and Tammy you have a loyal friend here xox


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Art...You have written the most touching thing I have read today...You too have a loyal friend here in me...Your secret is safe with me...I knew it all along anyway...We can always be something we aren't in the real world in the cyber world. I can't wait for the Judy Garland story...I'll be watching for it....Tammy xo


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itakins 6 years ago from Irl

Tammy

It may be only cyber world,but you have a loyal friend here too.You are right to take a break when you feel you need it,nurses are not good at that,but we're great at advising others:)

I'm going for a little stroll around your blogsite shortly,it looks good.

Mind yourself,2uesday was sayin she will miss you too.I'm thinking we should set up an exclusive forum,we'll call it 'The anti-forum forum',oh we could have great craic:)


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Ita...I am all in for the anti-forum forum...The craic alone would be enticing...Thanks for stopping by...You have a loyal friend here too...Keep everyone on their toes...I'll be back before you really have time to miss me...Tammy


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couponalbum 6 years ago from Sunnyvale, CA

Totally agree with your title. Great hub. Very nice information. Liked your other hubs too. Joining your fanclub and would like to invite you to join mine. :)


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

couponalbum thanks for reading and becoming a fan. Nice to meet you.


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Granny's House 6 years ago from Older and Hopefully Wiser Time

Tammy, I told this to my children the whole time they were growing up. They would say; mom you have a lot of friends. I would correct them, I know a lot of people but that does not make them all my friends.

I have two girl "friends" and my daughter and one male "friend". I am 52. I have also told them that thier friends will come and go, but thier brothers and sisters will always be there. Loved your hub.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Granny's House...Thank you for stopping in. The older I get the more I understand what I wrote. It's really nice to meet you and know that I am not the only one who feels this way about "friends".


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Lita C. Malicdem 6 years ago from Philippines

We're both standing on a mutual ground, Tammy. I'm cut like you, not wanting to be pampered with a lot of "friends". I have friends, why not. But I'm confident that I can live with a handful few. And friends to me come and go but are never forgotten. They always leave in me lessons to ponder on, not pains and hurts. I love my friends, to whom you now belong.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago Author

Hi Lita...thank you for adding your wisdom and experience to this conversation...I too am ad to add you to my list of friends. It is wonderful to see you!


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mecheshier 5 years ago

Tammy

What a wonderful article. You are a gem. Yes, hang onto the true friends that you have, for they do not come to often in life.

Thank you for such an inspiring piece.


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Tammy Lochmann 5 years ago Author

Hi Mecheshier, Thank you so much for dropping by and for your kind comments. Funny how when we are younger we need to measure the number of friends we have to feel self worth. When does that change?

Thanks again, Tammy.


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Cheeky Girl 5 years ago from UK and Nerujenia

This is a great tribute to good friendships! And I think we all want good friendships and have people around us we trust and admire. I have been lucky on Hub Pages. I am sorry to hear your Google Adsense was stopped, but as there are Google ads here, I take it the issue as been resolved! Take care, have a great Easter weekend! :)


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Tammy Lochmann 5 years ago Author

Hi Cheeky Girl...No I have never been able to successfully get my adsense account back. Those are HubPages ads, not mine. They make a good amount of money from me to be sure but that's okay I have been blessed with great friendships and help improving my writing. Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving a comment. I have been less active around here for a while.

Happy Easter to you and thanks again.


Amy 4 years ago

I enjoyed your article.. it is filled with alot of truth. I have very few female friends because of mosts constant cattiness.


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Tammy Lochmann 4 years ago Author

Hi Amy!

There is nothing wrong with having just one or two friends. This is just what people have deemed success as having a huge entourage. Introverted people make the best leaders and are much more successful in life because they are more intelligent and more emotionally intelligent. Take care of yourself.

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