I Love My Curves

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Big Girl, in a Small-Minded World

I have lost so much weight over the years, but I am still what some would refer to as the plump, chubby, or yes, even the fat chick. I use to cringe every time someone called me those things, but now it doesn't bother me.

At my highest weight my life was awful, I couldn't even walk through the mall without getting disgusted looks or rude comments. Everyone I ran into treated me as if me being fat was interfering with their lives. It got so bad, I spent many a sleepless night, crying, and praying that God would make me skinny so the name calling would stop.

I mean how in the world did people think calling me a fat cow, would help make me want to lose weight. When someone is depressed the last thing they want to do is eat lettuce or exercise. Me being fat was mainly my fault, with a little extra help from my PCOS, but I sure didn't like being treated like I had some kind of plague. I mean I can't even count how many people accused me of being lazy, just because I was fat.

I have been on dozens of diets, and exercise plans over the years. None of them ever worked except my current regimen of yoga, paired with some low-impact aerobics, and a few healthy eating habits. All the strict, low-calorie diets ever did was make me sick and hungry, and the strenuous exercises made my joints ache. Most of the time, I would last about a week or two, at the most.

The main thing that changed my life, and the way I feel about my body, has to do with me changing the way I let others opinions and harsh words bother me. Below I will be going over how I made the emotional journey, from hating, to loving my curves.


Changing for Myself

One morning, while I was sitting around having myself a random pity party. I realized that I needed to put a stop to living my life the way I was living it. My daily routine consisted of doing everything that was making me miserable to begin with.

Not only was I letting my weight, and poor self-image destroy what little confidence I had, it was also controlling my personal life as well. My relationships were horrible, I went from one abusive relationship to the next. I also allowed myself to be placed in some pretty messed up situations due to me thinking I couldn't do any better.

I realized that for me to be treated like the woman I truly was, I had to start taking everything negative out of my life, so I did. Little by little I starting taking everything that was hurting me or causing me some type of distress, out of my life.


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Throwing Out the Baggage, Losing the Spare Tire

The first thing I started with was my body, I knew that diets were pretty much useless. So I chose to make healthier choices, instead of dieting. The weight started falling off like crazy, which is when I realized in order to lose weight all I really needed to do was eat sensibly.

I also decided to add a little exercise to my daily routine, which was so much more fun than sitting in my bedroom, crying. Yoga and low-impact are what I usually do, but I sometimes add in some heavier workouts as well.

Taking control of my weight was not as hard, as I use to make it. The real problem was that I use to want to lose weight to please others, and not myself.

Realizing My Opinion is the Only One That Matters

The next thing I needed to change was how I let others make me feel about myself. I did this by learning to embrace the fact that others views, and opinions about me are their problem, and not mine.

This one was a hard one to adjust to at first, but before I knew it, I was finding myself not really caring what others thought about me. I even talked to a few of the people that would give me dirty looks in the mall. I found that their whole demeanor would change, once I greeted them with a friendly smile, and said hello.

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Getting Rid of the Scum in My Life

After losing some weight, and gaining a little confidence, I knew i needed to end any and every toxic relationship I had in my life. I was literally dropping so-called friends like flies, anyone who was using, or abusing me was out of my life.

I knew in order for me to be happy, I couldn't have anyone in it, that would keep me from being the best me I could be. Which is why I was single for sometime, until I met my husband. I only let positive people in my life now.

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Loving Myself, and My Body

The last thing I needed to change was the way I felt about myself. Even though I had lost a ton of weight, I am still a little chubby. I needed to learn to love myself, and the body I have. I started embracing my curves and loving myself, and I realized just how fantastic I began to feel.

It has took me some time to get to this point, and I wouldn't trade this feeling for anything. I finally love my body, every single curve, and lump. I know how hard I worked to get the body I have now, and nobody else can ever change that.

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btrbell 22 months ago from Mesa, AZ

Good for you! It us so hard to be confident when people are always judging! Great hub, beautiful pictures and awesome message!


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BlossomSB 22 months ago from Victoria, Australia

Enjoyed your hub and I say the same - Good for you!


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prettynutjob30 22 months ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet. Author

Thank you ladies, I feel so free now that I no longer care what others think about me.


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Tamirogers 20 months ago from Seattle, Washington

Great Hub! I am sharing it with my daughters who are 20 and 21..It is so difficult to come to a place to truly love yourself. Good for you! I am 53 and still struggle with this--which is not good for me our my daughters. I have, however, gotten much better over the years at getting rid of toxic relationships in my life. Voting up and following!


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prettynutjob30 20 months ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet. Author

Thank you so much Tami, you are beautiful, everyone is. Life sometimes has a way of making us forget that, but through meditating and spending time with the right people. It gets easier for us to find the true beauty we all possess.


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CorneliaMladenova 19 months ago from Cork, Ireland

Awesome hub, you look beautiful and it is good that you have stopped to pay attention to what the rest of the world say. Nobody is perfect. I also lobe my curves, by the way :)


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Shyron E Shenko 18 months ago

I am so proud of you Mary, thank you for all the information. I know what you mean, and I was bullied in school and I learned to love myself and everything became better in my life.

Blessings and Hugs.


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Jodah 18 months ago from Queensland Australia

Congratulations on changing your lifestyle and now being comfortable with yourself. People need to realise that we are all different and what works for one doesn't work for everyone. Also you can't tell by looking at someone why they are the way they are. There are often medical problems such as thyroid disorders or physical disabilities that stop them being able to exercise (my wife is in that group). Just because someone is overweight doesn't mean they are lazy and overeaters. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, you are no exception Mary.


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Nadine May 18 months ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

Your hub will inspired a lot of people who suffer from the same..., to be very overweight. But who makes that rule? In Africa man find voluptuous woman beautiful. Indeed it comes down to the fact that we FIRST have to love ourselves, before we can truly love others. I friend of mine manipulated a photo of herself by slimming her body down and then she hanged it next to the mirror where she would look at herself each morning. She then added feeling that made her feel attractive while brushing her teeth while looking at her slimmer self, and gradually the weight came off! SIMPLE! Voted up!


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Au fait 18 months ago from North Texas

Looks don't last no matter who a person is. Everything is changing in this world all the time -- that's the one constant -- and looks are no exception. Personality, intelligence, sense of humor, and compassion for others are far more important and likely not to change much over time.

While being excessively overweight can affect one's health adversely, in most cases with diligence and determination, it can be changed. I know because I have lost a lot of weight over my life too. I had a great aunt who had to be buried in a piano case because no coffin was large enough. So the potential is there.

The thing is, one can change being overweight in most cases if they decide to do that.

Personally, I don't think one's weight is the business of anyone but oneself. I know a lot of people try to make it their business and behave and speak as if it really is their business. I really think if they would put as much effort into learning compassion (if that is even possible) and developing their intelligence, as they put into demeaning and cutting other people down, which requires very little intelligence, the whole world would benefit, especially themselves.

So glad to read that you have a handle on this issue and you're past letting pin heads with no manners spoil your day.

Voted up and BAUI. Sharing with followers. Pinned to Awesome HubPages.


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prettynutjob30 18 months ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet. Author

Thank you guys, for all the sweet comments.


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Faith Reaper 18 months ago from southern USA

I love my curves too, and I am glad you love your curves! We are woman and meant to have curves. You are beautiful inside and out and I am glad you are realizing that fact, pretty Mary.

You are smart in realizing about making the healthier choices and not saying the "D" word ... that really is more of a life style change than a diet for sure, which is the key.

I believe God did answer your prayer by revealing to you just how He sees you which has allowed you to see yourself as He does and not worry about those others.

Yes, away with the toxic relationships. I am proud of you.

God bless you

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ahorseback 18 months ago

Next time you look into the mirror remember , Someone loves you just the way you are AND when people get to know you , they can't live without you ! Have a perfect day beautiful woman !........:-}


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brakel2 18 months ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

Hi I know the feeling, and lots of folks I know feel the same way. Somehow to be fat is sinful and becomes a dart board. Nowadays, people even go for surgery which may be a necessity in certain cases. I admire your courage to face your fears and do something to conquer them. People used to make fun of me for being too skinny. You can't win if you listen to others. Pinning, Blessings, Audrey


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fpherj48 18 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

I LOVE this hub! Your words ring so true and are words I hope are read and taken to heart by every young woman!

We ARE all different...this is a wonderful thing. The unique individual each of us is, makes the world a better, stronger, more loving place. Our talents, compassion, generosities and achievements are WHO we are......NOT numbers, whether age, height, weight, money, material things.....YOU are BEAUTIFUL just as you are!.....UP+++

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