Ides of March are Upon us

 

Well Spring hasn’t quite sprung in this neck of the woods, but I’m anticipating it will show its sunny face soon.  Hopefully the expression, ‘March comes in like a lion goes out like a lamb’ will hold true to form. 

 

The other expression that comes to mind is “beware the ides of March”, being the 15th day when Julius Caesar met his ill fated death which has cast an ominous shadow on that day ever since. The irony is that March 15th was considered the first day of spring in the Roman calendar. My rather twisted version is that Spurinna [soothsayer] was perhaps warning Caesar to beware a change in weather as opposed to ‘watch your back; Brutus doesn’t have it’. None-the-less the decision made by Caesar to leave his bedroom chamber on that day proved to be the death of him.

 

Unfortunately, Caesar didn’t have a chance to learn from his mistake, but most of us have an opportunity to turn a mistake around and take away something positive. I’m certain some may ask ‘how is that possible?’, but if we don’t learn from our mistakes what was the point in making them? [and we all do] One unacknowledged mistake only leads to another and another after that. If you have a slow leak in your car tire and fill it with air without repairing the leak you wake up to a flat tire every morning. If you make a mistake and don’t deal with it you may face deflating the morale and energy of those around you. Every mistake [with the exception of ones as drastic as poor Caesar] has a silver lining. 

 

Children are probably more aware of this than adults. They make mistakes almost on a daily basis. Asked after the fact [and perhaps after a discussion with Mom or Dad] what did they learn from their mistake 90% of the time they have an answer. The truth of the matter being that a child is allowed the opportunity to make mistakes, when we become adults no one is quite as forgiving or understanding. Adults are expected to have learned from all the mistakes they made as a child and translate that into the present. If only it were that easy!

 

I often wonder, if we all understand [not lay blame] why the mistake occurred; help each other cooperatively [not begrudgingly] fix the mistake; work with each other [not put onus on just one] to avoid the mistake from recurring, would we end up with a better team, a better relationship, a better level of energy?

 

What do you think? 

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lorlie6 6 years ago from Bishop, Ca

Thanks, Carmen-

Love the tire analogy, by the way...but what most impressed me about this hub was that you pointed out how we are no longer forgiven for mistakes as we age.

I so agree with you, and tend, personally, to make whoppers daily!

Laurel


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thanks for a very interesting hub, thanks for sharing. Hey, I have missed seeing you around. welcome back. creativeone59


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks for visiting ladies. Lorlie, Yes, with age is supposed to come wisdom, but we all still make mistakes regularly whether at work or home. It seems the closer you are to someone the harder it is for them to forgive... never got that. Thanks creativeone for noticing my absence.


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maven101 6 years ago from Northern Arizona

Hi Carmen...Nicely written Hub with a clear message of understanding and forgiveness...Why are we more critical and less forgiving of those near and dear to us when they make mistakes..? I believe it has something to do with high expectations and its relative deprivations when faced with mistakes by those we love and hold in high esteem...nice to see you back and writing again...Carpe Diem, Larry


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

I think on so many levels if we all worked as a team, wouldn't life be easier and then consequently better? I have a feeling that might even help politics! Great thoughts and I guess Caesar did not fare as well as the proverbial groundhog - at least he comes out and doesn't die on the same day!


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

LOL good one akirchner. I agree with you re: politics.


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Feline Prophet 6 years ago from India

Just as we are always learning, so too are we making mistakes...it's a fact of life. :)


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

So true Feline!


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Mardi 6 years ago from Western Canada and Texas

Great hub Carmen, very true. Working with divorced people pre and post the actual divorce you see a lot of inability to just forgive and go on even though the relationship is over.


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Its especially difficult if there are kids of any age involved.


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Teresa Laurente 6 years ago from San Antonio, Texas, U.S.A.

Interest, and a good read. Have you been to SAT yet?


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Hi Teresa, thanks for visiting. What's SAT?


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Deborah Demander 6 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

Carmen, a well written hub. The hardest part of correcting a mistake is to first admit to having made a mistake. It's hard to humble oneself.

Namaste.


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

I think admitting to having made the mistake strengthens your character.


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Eileen Hughes 6 years ago from Northam Western Australia

carmen yes we all make mistakes, and yes like deboroah says admitting or getting you partnet to admit to it is hard to do at times. but we all need to move on and have a laugh and look forwards.

Woiuldnt it be boring to be perfect. Gee I would never succeed at that. cheers great hub thanks


Duchess OBlunt 6 years ago

Carmen - wonderful reflections. I like the analogy of the leaky tire. If we don't acknowledge and work on fixing the mistakes we will never grow. The young don't seem to realize they don't have the market cornered on making mistakes. We wouldn't be human if we didn't all make some. I agree with you, it's what we do about it that makes the difference.

Very insightful.


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Eileen, thanks for the visit and comments... yeah, perfect would be boring, but practicing is fun!

Hey Duchess, nice to hear from you. I often wonder if the young are aware of mistakes they are making, in retrospect I wasn't always.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa

Thanks for this interesting take on the Ides of March! (Coincidentally I am right this minute working on a Hub on Ancient Rome which will feature the Foro Romano where Cesar met his untimely!) I believe tht the word "mistake" should be used as little as possible - we whould turn the perception around and call those events that happen to all of us "learning opportunities" which has a positive connotation rather than the negative connotation of the word "mistake."

As you say, we need to use "mistakes" positively and learn from them or we will make them over and over and they will drain our energy and make us less and less able to cope.

Thanks again

Love and peace

Tony


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Hey Tony, I'm looking forward to reading your hub... I love ancient Rome. Thanks for the visit.


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sweetie1 6 years ago from India

Hi carmen, well ceaser didnt learn from his mistakes but most of us dont learn either and those who learn , learn hard way..i know a guy who kept smoking even though he had lots of health problems and only gave up smoking when he had angipplasty.. ie they put stent in his heart.. though he had lots of years to learn to not smoke but he never tired.


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dutchman1951 6 years ago from Tennessee, USA

See I did find you Carmen!...like this thread also.

After reading this thought came to mind: You do have to wounder how many times a person keeps banging thier head until they figure out it really does hurt!

Thank you for the wounderful comments

Jon in Nashville


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xiaoshu 6 years ago

great hub,i really like it and bookmark it in my favorite files!thanks for sharing!


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AskAshlie3433 5 years ago from WEST VIRGINIA

Great hub my friend. Hope all is well and best wishes.


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Carmen Borthwick 5 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks to all for the comments and visit. Take care.


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ChristineVianello 5 years ago from Philadelphia

Great hub, I do agree with this one. I actually believe I should of watched my back this month. I work with alot of sneeky people, who would love to see me down.


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Carmen Borthwick 5 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Yes we all have to watch our backs sometimes. Thanks for the comments. Hope all is well with you.


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whoisbid 5 years ago

You are a gifted writer.


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

A great hub and thank you for sharing .

Take care

Eiddwen.

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