If A Gay Man Gives A Straight Woman Advice And It’s Not On The Internet Does It Make A Sound?

The path to friendship isn't always straight!
The path to friendship isn't always straight! | Source

For years gay men have been giving their straight female friends advice (I know because I’m one of them). I’ve told them what to wear, what not to wear and begged them to just go ahead and cut their hair even though the loser they were dating had a thing for women with long hair (and it worked, the loser stopped dating her, problem solved all the way around and yes, her hair looked better short as I knew it would). So I self appointed myself The Gaytriarch in all my friends lives (gay, straight, men, women, animals, okay whoever will listen) and so far it’s working for all of us. (He said rather full of himself.)

Imagine my surprise when I learned that there are impoverished women everywhere that don’t have a gay male best friend! I was shocked and appalled (all at the same time). I couldn’t imagine a world without talking my best gal pal into buying that Betsey Johnson dress she couldn’t afford and had no place to wear. What if there were other gay men out there who had life and love experience advice to give and no woman to give it to? Now I can stop worrying (about this topic) as jacksandjills.com is a website made especially for gays and their fave straight gal pals. (And if you don’t have one or the other, you can actually be matched to one on this site - how DO these kids do it these days?)

The principle is simple, as they state on the site, “the path to friendship isn’t always straight” and nowhere is this celebrated more than on jacksandjills.com. While I would like to believe that I have given all the advice in our relationship (over the past thirty years that my gal pal, Jodie and I have been best friends) the truth is there were many times that she gave me some really good advice. (Well, I’m thinking she must have over all these years, I just can’t think of any at the moment. Probably because I was too busy telling her what to do, think and wear. I think she did tell me once that I needed to listen more but who was listening?) Seriously, we have been each other’s rock through life’s most turbulent storms and we have laughed harder and longer than the law probably allows. No matter what I’m going through and no matter where we are (we live in different states) I know she’s with me, has my back and is telling me to get my back waxed. And that’s what friends are really for (thank you very much, Dionne Warwick and Elton John)!

So if you’re a gay man who wants to give with the advice or get it or if you’re a straight woman looking for the perfect “Will” to your “Grace” then get to jacksandjills.com and start interacting with a social network that involves martinis! Facebook is fine for having people who want to poke you from high school that you haven’t seen in thirty years but imagine a site that offers advice and a relationship with your potential Manolo Blahnik sole mate? Whether you want a gay or gal in your city or across the globe this is the site that can make it happen.

And while the 1960’s movie proclaimed, “Mars Needs Women” this site needs a few gay men and the straight women they love to make a world where everything is just a little prettier and let’s face it, fabulous. So gay men, remember if you give advice to a straight woman and it’s not on the Internet it may make a sound but it’s not going to go viral – here’s your chance!

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Shanna11 4 years ago from Utah

I have a gay best friend, but he never gives me awesome advice. He makes me laugh like crazy though! It's vaguely disheartening when I see his friends in drag and they look so much better than me! :P I want in on the secrets!


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somelikeitscott 4 years ago from Las Vegas Author

Shanna - Ha! All will be revealed...join us and have him join us at jacksandjills.com!! And always remember that no matter how good they look, you're the real deal!!!


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LauraD093 4 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

ty needed some good advice the other day and was up to my slightly-sagging ass in outfits and couldn't reach any of my fashion police posse...may have to check this site out in cases of emergency. Good gay male friends are different possibly than my case which is I'm straight but best friend for over 30yrs is a gay female. I've been a honorary "In-Law" 4 30+ years brats even once made me a button stating "Not Family-only an In-Law:)" This button and a huge sex toy were my only gifts at my 40th birthday bash lol...seems my social group has a different flavor not nearly as fab! Voted this up and funny wishing there was also a envious button to choose as well.


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relache 4 years ago from Seattle, WA

I recently just caught up with one of my fave gay brothers and he and I both had a lot of advice to give one another. It was like an old-time slumber party only we didn't do each others hair or nails while we talked.


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Earth Angel 4 years ago

Geeze I wished we lived closer! That Jodie is one lucky lady! So are you Mr. Funny Bones! Blessings, Earth Angel!


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Greekgeek 4 years ago from California

What a hoot! I had several self-described "fag hag" college friends who would've loved this site if it (and the web) had existed back then! (Although I'm not quite sure whether they were generically so, or merely obsessed with Freddie Mercury.)

I'm not up for another social site to keep up with, or I'd drop in just for the smiles. I have yet to meet a gay man who wasn't a sweetheart, although exceptions must exist somewhere or the laws of physics would implode from all the excess niceness floating around. Come to think of it, that may explain some of the excess nastiness floating around on news site comment threads.


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Pamela N Red 4 years ago from Oklahoma

I have been busy and haven't been to your site in a while. I need to remedy that. Sharing your great article. Good to see you again.


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gabgirl12 4 years ago

Wow, it's awesome that you have such a beautiful relationship. I don't have any gay friends currently. I did have one but we lost touch a long time ago. He's was very quirky and super smart! This Hub made me think about him. Thanks for sharing!!


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emilybee 4 years ago

Such an awesome hub and so informative on this jacksandjills site!!! Thanks for sharing and for the heads up-I'll have to wander over there next time I need some fashion assistance ;)


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somelikeitscott 4 years ago from Las Vegas Author

So glad you're all enjoying this hub (and writing in to tell me about it)! Enjoy even more at jacksandjills.com where you can read tons of fun stuff!!! Thanks again for the reading and writing!


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Melbourne31 4 years ago from Ogden, Utah

Is there a chance that gays would fall in love to a woman? I have a gay friend and he confessed that he is falling in love with me. I really find it ironic. I wonder how our relationship would turn out if I would accept him.


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somelikeitscott 4 years ago from Las Vegas Author

Melbourne31 - Love is love and if there is a sexual as well as a "love" feeling within your gay pal then I would say we might be looking at someone who is bi-sexual. Sexual preference for many falls somewhere between the absolutely gay or straight scale.

The caution from your pal here, The Gaytriarch would be to understand that returning feelings for someone who identifies as gay when you identify as a heterosexual could cause issues. Don't delude yourself into building dreams and hopes of future when you know he's going to end up with another man at some point (unless that's a deal you both cut up front).

Just remember that when someone is falling in love with you, it doesn't mean you have to fall in love with them. Love isn't about being polite. AND you need to ensure that your emotional and physical needs can be met when it comes to being involved. Don't settle, don't delude yourself and whatever you do, don't add him to your cell phone plan! ;)


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Melbourne31 4 years ago from Ogden, Utah

Thanks for that!=D

You're right. Actually, I manage to ignore what he is telling me. Like what you said, it can cause issues and I don't want to end up with regrets.

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