If We're Not Alike, Why Are We Together?

Frogs and butterflies
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What does a butterfly have in common with a frog? What does a couple have in common, when they open their eyes in the midst of struggles? We may become disturbed by unanswered questions. I am not an expert in relationships, but I have had my share in this theme by my own and other's experiences.

Usually when the issue of finding out the level of differences between each other, many uncontrolled feelings arise. We try to get help from books, advice, counseling...or we just cry out our discouragement.

Let me share what I have found out in the aspect of not alike, but together.

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Not alike, but together

The first characteristic between two human beings is that we are all different. The second characteristic is that we were created to be together. Genesis 2:18 "Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."

Which ever the relation between a couple may be, it is based on the same rules. Here what I am pointing at is the fact that you may have a:relationship between:

  1. Parents
  2. Children
  3. Siblings
  4. Supervisors
  5. Friends
  6. Married couples
  7. Groups
  8. Congregations
  9. Families
  10. Etcetera, Etcetera, Etcetera...

It does not matter the kind of relation, what matters is that in order to have a good relation, we need to follow some suggestions.

Fifteen ways to be together

  1. Be responsible for own happiness
  2. Expand mutual interests
  3. Appreciate
  4. Respect
  5. Laugh
  6. Encourage
  7. Listen
  8. Communicate
  9. Apologize
  10. Forgive
  11. Be affective
  12. Be honest
  13. Be loyal
  14. Trust
  15. Give freedom

If we are together, let's make it work

We're not alike, it is obvious. We're together, that is a fact; let's make it work. Never lose perspective what made you have the relation in the first place.

Parents, children, or siblings cannot be changed. you will not be able to go back to the past and pick a substitute for them. For other kinds of relationships, you will probably be able to substitute them or be fortunate to get away from them; but would that really be the solution?

Try to put the above 15 ways into action. One by one will make a difference. I don't guess it will bring positive changes, I know it will. Sit together and discuss them, or start by yourself making the involved person know that you are committed to have a healthy relationship. Wow, how wonderful it is to have life and to know that the key of joy rests on:

And He said to him, "'YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.' "This is the great and foremost commandment. "The second is like it, 'YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.'

Matthew 22: 37-39


Blessings to all!


© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill

ABRAHAM LINCOLN: A House Divided Against Itself

© 2013 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill

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Ericdierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Wonderful hub and yes you are on a roll and you should go with it. The catch I see in your writing is that I did not marry a companion or best buddy. I married a woman totally opposite of me. I do not want her on my business trips or hiking or surfing or football games. And I am positive she would rather not.

And for her opinions ---- if we got together so much they would be the same as mine. That is a nice thought but then I lose a wife.


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Lastheart 3 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Ericdierker the main object of my hub is to emphasize that it is not the "label" we carry in a relationship, but the human being we ought to be for each. When we lose, we gain. Thanks very much for stopping by.


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Froggy213 3 years ago from On A Mountain In Puerto Rico

I love this hub and I am blessed to have you. May God bless our relationship.


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Lastheart 3 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Ok Froggy213 don't eat me and I will not take salt from you.


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midget38 3 years ago from Singapore

Too true, Last Heart. My hubby and I are as different as night and day...but are happily together, though we must practice more of the tips outlined above! Thanks for sharing, and so do I.


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

A wonderful hub Lastheart and myself and my partner are alike in some things but differ in many others so I think this provides a balance which works.

Thank you for sharing and enjoy your day.

Eddy.


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Lastheart 3 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

midget38 lovely to know that beyond differences with your hubby you are happy. That is the attitude.


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Lastheart 3 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Eiddwen it brings happiness to know that you are in a mature relationship. When couples identify that their differences brings balance and they deal with them, that means acceptance. You are on the right path.

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