If We're Not Alike, Why Are We Together?
What does a butterfly have in common with a frog? What does a couple have in common, when they open their eyes in the midst of struggles? We may become disturbed by unanswered questions. I am not an expert in relationships, but I have had my share in this theme by my own and other's experiences.
Usually when the issue of finding out the level of differences between each other, many uncontrolled feelings arise. We try to get help from books, advice, counseling...or we just cry out our discouragement.
Let me share what I have found out in the aspect of not alike, but together.
Frogs eat butterflies and butterflies suck frogs
Not alike, but together
The first characteristic between two human beings is that we are all different. The second characteristic is that we were created to be together. Genesis 2:18 "Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."
Which ever the relation between a couple may be, it is based on the same rules. Here what I am pointing at is the fact that you may have a:relationship between:
- Parents
- Children
- Siblings
- Supervisors
- Friends
- Married couples
- Groups
- Congregations
- Families
- Etcetera, Etcetera, Etcetera...
It does not matter the kind of relation, what matters is that in order to have a good relation, we need to follow some suggestions.
Fifteen ways to be together
- Be responsible for own happiness
- Expand mutual interests
- Appreciate
- Respect
- Laugh
- Encourage
- Listen
- Communicate
- Apologize
- Forgive
- Be affective
- Be honest
- Be loyal
- Trust
- Give freedom
- Joining Efforts for a Better World with H.O.W.
How can we join efforts for a cause? The cause of a call to join efforts in behalf of the promotion of social justice, and to end human rights abuse.
If we are together, let's make it work
We're not alike, it is obvious. We're together, that is a fact; let's make it work. Never lose perspective what made you have the relation in the first place.
Parents, children, or siblings cannot be changed. you will not be able to go back to the past and pick a substitute for them. For other kinds of relationships, you will probably be able to substitute them or be fortunate to get away from them; but would that really be the solution?
Try to put the above 15 ways into action. One by one will make a difference. I don't guess it will bring positive changes, I know it will. Sit together and discuss them, or start by yourself making the involved person know that you are committed to have a healthy relationship. Wow, how wonderful it is to have life and to know that the key of joy rests on:
And He said to him, "'YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.' "This is the great and foremost commandment. "The second is like it, 'YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.'
Matthew 22: 37-39
Blessings to all!
© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill
ABRAHAM LINCOLN: A House Divided Against Itself
© 2013 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill
