How to improve your Marriage and avoid Relationship Boredom

Effects of Boredom in Relationships

Someone has rightly said, ‘Marriage is a two way street and it takes the efforts of both the partners to make it work’. Unfortunately, many who take their time in finding a partner or entering a relationship do not put much efforts to save it when it comes to maintaining the relationship. After the initial excitement is over most relationships are seen going stale making the partners seek solution in marital infidelity or divorce. This is because after some time after marriage or living relationship the priorities of one or both of the partners tends to shift into children, job responsibilities money etc and as a result they tend to neglect the partner or take the partner for granted enabling boredom to creep in the relationship. If you want to maintain your marriage or relationship it is essential that you should put efforts to save it before it is too late.

Given below are tips for improving Marriage and avoiding Relationship Boredom among couples.

Good Communication between Couples can help in improving marriage and avoiding Relationship Boredom.
Good Communication between Couples can help in improving marriage and avoiding Relationship Boredom.

Tips for Improving Marriage and avoiding Relationship Boredom

Improving your marriage need not necessarily involve huge changes but even the cumulative effect of small changes can make a significant difference in the quality of a relationship. Here are some Tips for improving Marriage and avoiding relationship boredom.

1) Improve your Communication: A healthy communication between partners is essential to maintain a good relationship. Take the time out to talk to your partner on a daily basis even if it is across the breakfast table or a late night dinner together. The daily communication can help to gain a better understanding of your partner. Try being an observer and a listener when your partner speaks and do not dominate the conversation by not allowing your spouse time to speak.

2) Take Care of your Appearance: Most Couples become lazy or uncared about their looks once they enter matrimony. Make sure you dress properly, eat healthy and do exercise regularly to stay fit.

3) Spice up your Sex Life: Most women find their men selfish when it comes to their own sexual needs. By taking your time to understand what your partner wants in bed and fulfilling them or trying out new thing with them you also ensure that your spouse would not cheat. Never reach a stage where you are not touching each other. Most women loved to be especially hugged or kissed by the partner even when they are not physically intimate with their partner. According to a study done by the Doctors at the University of North Carolina, hugging boosts blood levels of Oxytocin which is a relaxing hormone that is linked to trust.

4) Add Romance to your Life: Schedule regular dates with your spouse even if it is going out for a movie or play, or taking a walk at the beach or go dancing or having food together at a local restaurant. The idea is spending time together. Every day life can get so bogged down with details, work and loose ends that fun and romance can easily become buried and neglected. So make time for you and your spouse to go for vacations and spend time together doing something you both enjoy.

5) Add and element of Surprise: Predictability in relationships can create marital boredom. It is very important that you use words and actions to convey that your spouse is valued and treasured. Women especially who leave their own family to join her husband after marriage get hurt their mate never remembers a Birthday or an Anniversary and may even feel that her relationship is worthless. Women are also highly emotional and buying them gifts for special occasions or even without a reason can earn their loyalty towards spouse. However, try not to be predictable about what you do to surprise her or what gift you would get for her.

6) Give Respect and Take Respect: What you give is what you get. If you expect your spouse to respect you make sure that you show respect when you are talking to your spouse and also in front of others. Treating your partner like dirt, rolling your eyes when talking or using bad words would not help you gain respect. Never neglect a spouse which is a sign of lack of respect for the person.

7) Take the television out of the Bedroom: The Television in the bedroom can kill romance and sex between partners. Late night TV watching can become a habit which translates to less sex or intimacy between partners which can ruin a marriage. So taking the TV out of the bedroom is a great idea. Feng shui for Romance also suggests this.

8) Celebrate Special Days and Events together: Do you have some special days which means a lot to you and your partner? This can be Birthdays, Anniversary, Valentines or any other dates that have significant meaning or cause for celebration. Make sure you record these days in a personal calendar or organizer so that you won’t forget and make plans to celebrate in advance. You can also celebrate festivals or events like Christmas, Easter or even a New Year Day.

9) Smile Often and not frown: Smiling is contagious and is a very good habit to develop. Smiling helps to build connections so make sure you carry a genuine smile that can warm the heart and make you more attractive to your spouse.

Life is short and one should not spend it keeping grudges or wasting without enjoying it. Do not take your partner for granted but take every opportunity to celebrate your relationship. The tips listed above are small but definitely worth trying if you want to save your relationship, improve your Marriage by avoiding boredom and do not want it heading to marital infidelity or Divorce.

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Bruce Clark 4 years ago

Very well said. Marriage is a blessing, thus, it must be treasured for life. No boredom must be felt for it is a relationship that should go on forever. Great hub!


Robbie 4 years ago

Very good advice! Just need to be reminded sometimes. Very helpful. Thanks!


Jessica 4 years ago

Thank you for the good advice. Will work on it =)


Peace John 4 years ago

i like this, it will mend many marriages


maro 5 years ago

how to remove barriers between each other there isno communication between us or by other words iam avoiding taking to him as he always make me feel that iam very sorry to speak to him there is always misundersatanding and i have stoppedtaking to him or speaking openly with him to avoid crises.please advise


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TheMonk 5 years ago from Brazil

I´m always on the look out for things like this. Great hub! Voted up!


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teeman 5 years ago

my wife once said sad the same thing - now this is a confirmation, thanx. it might be late cause i see us parting ways ...


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Gyspy Writer 5 years ago from Midwest

I would like to add one more idea...read sexy books to each other. Great article, by the way.


Tina 5 years ago

This is a great article and it pinpoints every ingredient needed in improving a marriage. Communication in marriage cannot be overemphasized. One needs to keep talking and talking. Not communicating is as frustrating as getting your baby to tell you what is wrong when she cries. If you don't communicate how can you know when there is a problem.


rohit 6 years ago

every thing is worthy

my best friend married to a person he and his family are selfish n just ask her for gifts and money

what should she do ............?


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Valory Elizabeth 6 years ago from Southern, USA

Excellent relationship and marriage advice and tips


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beth811 6 years ago from Philippines

Great tips. Thanks for sharing. It's time again to do these reminders.


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Psychic Australia 6 years ago from Australia

A strong marriage is , these days, the key to happiness.


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jgw899 6 years ago from Santa Cruz

Yes good tips...especially spicing up your sex life !


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Jennifer Bennett 6 years ago

Good tips and advice for every married couple. Thank you!


samboiam 6 years ago

Some very good tips. Thanks for sharing.


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stricktlydating 6 years ago from Australia

Great advice!


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rizwan_isria 6 years ago from India

Great tips


sord87 6 years ago

IF I have to take out my television out from bedroom,my 3 year old son no longer in ours too ,it would be fun!LOL thanks for sharing anyway!


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Anamika S 6 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

Yes, That is very true. Replacing complaints with how to improve can definitely create a positive atmospheare. Thanks for adding to the article.


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HappyHer 6 years ago from Cleveland, OH

Great job with this! Another idea is to replace complaining with requests or helpful suggestions. Many of us don't even realize how often we complain, but when you become mindful of that, it helps create a more positive environment.

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