Improving Personality

Ways of Improving Personality:

Effective personalities are not developed in a night, so to speak. Each person desiring to improve his personality must strive to equip himself with a program of self-improvement and must stick to it no matter what. Through patient application and effort, one can develop characteristics that we have judge as attractive or unattractive in others and which we can adapt in our own behavior patterns. Some of the positive steps to take if we wish to improve ourselves are the following:

1.Self-appraisal- Begin by listing down and evaluating your physical, intellectual, social and emotional traits in terms of effectiveness, ineffectiveness or partial effectiveness. You may use a personal rating sheet.

2. Effective regulation of emotional life- One must develop a high degree of control over one’s emotion and not allowing one’s emotions to control you. Negative or unpleasant emotions like fear, envy, pride, etc. should be checked or sublimated; the positive emotions like joy, love, reverence, etc., should be developed.

3. Social relations – One should be capable of social intimacy – forming friendships and participating in social relations that are deeper than mere acquaintances. Social competence consists of being able to actualize one’s own needs. Relations with others should not be exploitative, manipulative or artificial but must be characterized by mutuality and genuine respect and affection.

4. Work- One must be committed to some form of work that is satisfying as well as economically good. Keep busy and indulge in worthwhile hobbies.

5. Love and sex – One must be able to forego personal gratification, even sexual gratification, to satisfy the loved one. Love consists of thinking more of other people rather than one’s own self.

6. Self – One must have a positive regard of one’s self as a distinguishable of the world he lives. One should have a well-developed ego identity and should know who he is, where he is going and should have an inner assurance that he will be recognized and accepted by those who count.

7. Philosophy of Life– One should live by a philosophy of life that should give direction to one’s actuations. One good philosophy is ‘to do well, to de good, and to be liked”, i.e. living simply with no splash, or glamour, or notoriety, striving little for social or economic gains. Another good one is: “To see God in everything you do.” The Bible contains many golden passages that can enlighten or guide one’s life.

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Nicole Winter 8 years ago from Chicago, IL

I liked how you broke all this down, hub linker! I've found that if I feel irritated with someone elses actions a good question to follow-up with is, "Hey, do I ever do that?" If I find it irritating when someone else does it, chances are others find it irritating, as well!


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JAY777 7 years ago

Wow hublinker i think that this could really help people develop their personality as well as their relationships.


Gemzky Haringbuang 6 years ago

wow!!!now I know.So everybody should try it too


blehhh!! 5 years ago

wow i think this is how people do improve their personality


extravaganza 5 years ago

the answers are so complicated....pero atik rah


leopard balbacoa 5 years ago

now i know the ways to improve my personality...in the following years i apply this ways to see whats the result. . . .


Rahul Naik 5 years ago

Really these ways are very practicable for everybody.

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