In My Room

Yes, I;'m brave enough to share with you a picture of my room in my dinky apartment in upstate New York.  It really does look like a teenager's bedroom.
Yes, I;'m brave enough to share with you a picture of my room in my dinky apartment in upstate New York. It really does look like a teenager's bedroom. | Source

There was a Beach Boys tune, called "In My Room", that had so much resonance with a whole generation of teenagers.

In some ways, I'm still that teenager, though I've aged quite a bit in the intervening years. I still need to be "In My Room" sometimes, with the door shut and no one to bother me. I think everyone needs that: a place to go where you feel completely safe and free from interruption, and where you can simply let your mind rest for a while.

I'm alone now: a single woman on her own. I don't mind that. I still have my room, and it's my room, a place for me alone, where I can completely be myself. My whole apartment is "my room", in a manner of speaking. I can't tell you how much I enjoy that. I'm afraid if you knew, you'd think I was antisocial or something, which isn't true. I just like my privacy, a lot!

Really bold.  You can even see the bed I sleep in.  I wonder if I'm completely nuts.
Really bold. You can even see the bed I sleep in. I wonder if I'm completely nuts. | Source

"In My Room" by the Beach Boys

As you can see, I haven't made a mad success, materially speaking in my years here on earth. Truthfully, I don't care. I have enough. I'm happy and comfortable, for the most part, where I am and with myself. I've accomplished some things that I've wanted to do with my life, and I think, on the whole, I can count myself in as a good person.

I was really struck, when experimenting with a new camera that I had bought, of how very...I don't know, juvenile? shall we say? of the appearance of my bedroom. The rest of the apartment is a lot more grown up, (not expensive, not elegantly furnished, but a lot more grown up!) it seemed to me, but it does seem my bedroom suffers from a case of arrested adolescence.

Well, that spoke volumes, really.

And, it's true.

I've been married, twice. Both relationships failed for a variety of reasons. I can't really say it's all my fault, or the fault of my incomplete adaptation to being an adult in adult relationships, though I'm sure that aspect of my character contributed a lot to both failures.

It has always been difficult for me to share living quarters with my mate. I wonder if other people have this problem? I seem to need my space, my room. I find living with someone else involves a constant, edgy awareness of another person in "my" space.

It should be "our space" and I should gladly share it.

Truthfully, I never quite got that far. It seemed to me that I was always pushed into a corner; that my mate actually owned the flat, townhouse or house we lived in, and that I was a visitor. I never seemed to be able to occupy my own space within our space, comfortably. I never felt completely safe, completely comfortable and free from unwanted interference, unless I was living on my own, by myself, in my room.



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Paradise7 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Thanks for the comment, Sweetie Pie.


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SweetiePie 4 years ago from Southern California, USA

Your room is adorable and sweet, and who cares what it looks like. If you like it, that is what matters. It is not like people are giving dinner parties in their room anyway, and I have seen bedrooms of people who bought expensive linens and beds for their bedrooms, but who were such pig pins that you had to wonder why they even bothered. I think a tidy room with pictures you enjoy on the wall is far more important to making your room look like a magazine photo shoot, which are pretty darn staged anyway. I think everyone needs their own room, even when they are married. I remember when my grandma was still alive that her and my grandpa each had their own rooms in their house. It was cute because they each decorated the rooms the way they liked.


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Paradise7 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Thanks for the comment, and the compliments, Gypsy. I love the Beach Boys, too. That song in particular.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and thanks for sharing. Even though I share my bedroom with my husband it is still my room and I work there alone on the comp while my husband pounds away on his laptop downstairs and you know any time I walk into the bedroom I always feel a good aura all about and I guess that is the most anyone can ask. Love the Beach Boys thanks for the video.


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Paradise7 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Thank you very much both for the comment and for the moral support.


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kittythedreamer 4 years ago from the Ether

I might have to do an "in my room" hub now. You've totally inspired me! Except, I am jealous that you're able to do WHATEVER you want in your room! I have to compromise as I am married and my husband and my style are totally different. But what I do is slowly introduce my style into the house...so as not to scare him too badly! LOL. :) Awesome hub. Don't ever stop being you. I love your style.


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Paradise7 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Thanks for the comment, Phil, and I can certainly understand your need for time to yourself. Everyone does; as adults it seems we have to compromise our alone time, a lot, to accomodate loved ones and work.


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Phil Plasma 4 years ago from Montreal, Quebec

I've never been a big fan of the Beach Boys, but reading your hub reminded me of when I was a teenager and my room was my life. I can certainly appreciate how for some people they need to have their own space. For me it isn't space so much that I relish, it is time. Time for me.


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Paradise7 4 years ago from Upstate New York Author

Thank you for the comment, Deborah, and even more for the moral support!


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

wow first of all I love the beach boys and this song is great. and I agree I love my privacy.. I am alone a lot. I don't mind.. and I love your bedroom.. looks cozy..

great hub.. sharing...

Debbie

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