In Search of Love

Love is a four letter word that is the most powerful weapon people are born with. I’m in deep thinking for a long time about the true meaning of love. What is love, how are people affected by it, how is love different to different people are the kind of questions that I’ve always tried to find the answers of. In the process of searching the truth about love I’ve analyzed a lot of people whom I met and to my utter disappointment I’ve found many of them are not born with love in its conventional sense.

What is Love?

I’ve tried to dissect love to its smallest parts and the process is still on! Love, when you see it as a physiological phenomenon, is nothing but the effect of millions of neurotransmissions that play in your brain cells. Sometimes the neurotransmissions just can’t flow properly due to illness and people just stop loving! Isn’t it amazing?

Let’s now get to the psychological perspective of love. Psychologically love is a kind of emotion that plays in our subconscious mind from the time we’ve come into existence. Generally speaking love is an emotional state of mind that is associated with the strong desire to have something or to stay with something. This is the most interesting of all that psychology deals with! If you start to reconcile the physiological aspect of love with its psychological aspect, I think you might just be bored to death! So don’t do it.

In Search of Love

Ever thought that love as an act of emotion reveals your true self to the people surrounding you? When we love our parents, the spirit there is not the same when we love our life partners or for that matter when we love our children! Our inner selves also change the manifestations accordingly. That’s why a good husband doesn’t necessarily make a good father or a good mother isn’t necessarily a good wife.

So what kind of an emotion is it? I think the answer is quite overwhelming! When we love our parents we expect everything from that relationship. Actually till we’re young our expectations are the most from our parents. But from the parents’ point of view it is quite opposite. A father or mother while loving their children expects absolutely nothing from them. It’s a pleasure for me to observe the nature of the emotion called love that reacts in exactly opposite manner in the closest relationship in the world!


Loving your spouse or life partner is another facet of the emotion. Somebody can love his girlfriend just for having sex with her and that might be the only expectation! This kind of relationship is very fragile and lasts only a few days. The role of sex in this kind of a relationship is quite obvious but in what degree is the question. Now think about it a bit differently. Imagine somebody who’s obsessed with sex and loves to go to the sex workers frequently. It is also love but the emotion is not for a human being, human is an object in this case to fulfill the desire of that person. Love has this ability to make one a subject to someone and at the same time an object to others. A caring spouse who loves you, your children, and your near and dear ones is kind of an endangered species. In most of the cases the person concerned either loves your wealth, or your look, or your position in the society and so forth but certainly not the self inside you! So you’re an object in this kind of a relationship, the subject being something else! A lasting marriage is all about loving the self inside your spouse and that love must be unconditional.

Some people’s love for power and wealth is quite astonishing to me! They can do anything to acquire what they love, they can even hate people. Although these are extreme cases but many people out there are of this type. They can even kill people to get what they desire and love exists inside them too, but in a different way!

As I’m approaching the concluding phase of this article my mind is becoming more and more perplexed! What I love? I love to see the ocean that creates waves and destroys them almost immediately; I love to see a leopard that runs after its prey in a jungle as if a bird is flying; I love to see the moon passing behind the clouds at the midnight sitting in a desert! Right now I’m loving to watch the skyscrapers in Manhattan while writing this article through the window of my apartment… ok, wait a second, I’ve just got an email in my computer! Someone asks me to bid for a particular building out there, it’s up for sale and my love for watching the buildings just vanishes! My mind is now occupied with calculating the area of the building, its price per square unit and so forth! This is hypothetical but this is the nature of love. The love for the things you can never own in life is eternal; it’s not like the love for the things you can own.

My long journey in the search of different meanings of love in different perspective is far from over! In fact it is a life long journey I suppose. And I think I’m not alone in this journey, there must be others like you who’re searching for this for a long time. In search for love people discover the amazing facts about themselves that were unknown to them and perhaps the most rewarding thing in this journey is rediscovering their souls!

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katiem2 5 years ago from I'm outta here

This is a beautiful and inspiring tribute to love and what is love. I enjoyed reading your work on love and it is a vital topic as we all search for love until we find it. Many need help on this subject of love. Love and Peace :)


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andycool 5 years ago from the U.S. Author

Thanks a lot Katie for your valuable comment! Yes many need help here... I too think so. Love and Peace :)


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No_Clue 5 years ago

Wow, andycool! This is a really insightful hub...a pleasure to read and ponder. Your photos are stunning and mesh well with your ideas!


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andycool 5 years ago from the U.S. Author

Thanks No_Clue for reading this hub and making comment that's so inspiring! I really appreciate it. Love and Peace :)


shygirl2 5 years ago

Wow, I liked this, although it spells love in a scientific form in a sense. But it was inlightening and well thought out! Thumbs up and useful!! : ) Love is what makes the world go round, besides money.


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andycool 5 years ago from the U.S. Author

Thank you shygirl2 for loving this hub. I appreciate your comment. Yes, love is what makes the world go round, indeed!


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bbnix 5 years ago from Southern California

This is my all time favorite subject andy'.

I truly feel like love dominates my life on a thousand levels. It's taken me decades to sort through my feelings of love, and the unbearable companion of lost love, and the painful realization of unrequited love, all that enables me to love on those many levels.

Like you, I love my world, my environment, my nearby ocean, the majestic animals, large to small.

As you referred to, I love my son at a level I can't even comprehend, and he, with my wife of 28 years this week, unconditionally.

As a hopeless romantic, I love so much of the human condition, its trials, beauty, and majesty. I love to battle injustice, belligerence, and selfishness that is woefully present in our world.

I love to feel like when I've passed, someday (a hundred years from now),I've meant something to this world more than what I gotten out of it - hopefully much more...

I love a quiet Shakespearean passage of love and loss.

I love the pebbles on the ground.

I love that I breathe each moment of every day, and I love that I can't breathe it all in fast enough.

I love my friends here, my freedom as self-employed.

I love to learn new skills each and every day.

I love the view out your window..

And I love you for allowing me to gush about how I love my life to tears...thanks so much, my dearest new friend...


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andycool 5 years ago from the U.S. Author

Love as you do for thousands of years,

Bring joy to us and wipe all tears!

I pray to God that He loves you too,

And gives you strength to love as you do!


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Aamna Aamad 5 years ago from Pakistan

Great hub Andy...In order to find your true love,first of all you need to find the true you. Finding the true you doesn't refer wanting what you do not have already,but loving the things you have in your life.Being grateful for your day,for your smiles,for your friends,for your family, for your happiness,for the books you read,for the birds that you hear and the music you like...Being grateful is the first step we all need to do in order to get where we are headed for the future.


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andycool 5 years ago from the U.S. Author

Thank you so much Aamna Aamad for your inspiring comment! I also believe that being grateful to the events happening to us we would be able to unlock the "locked love" in our hearts! If we let the love flow spontaneously to our world, one day the whole world could become a lovely place to live, which I think will be the greatest success humanity could accomplish!

Love & Peace! - Andy


Ana Gajic 5 years ago

I have really, really enjoyed reading this hub:)It's just so logical and at the same time so beautiful:):):)


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andycool 5 years ago from the U.S. Author

Thank you so much Ana Gajic for stopping by! Your comment is much appreciated. :)

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