Internet Dating Scammers: How To Identify Them
You Don't Have To Be A Victim
By now we are all familiar in some way with the internet and how it all works. With today's lifestyles becoming more and more hectic the effort to get out there and meet people seems too much of an effort. More and more people are now gathering at the proverbial "watering hole" in internet dating site chat rooms. While the development of these datings sites started out as a great convienience it has now become dangerous in many ways. Not only do we have pedophiles looking for our children but we have a new breed of rapist, an emotional rapist, otherwise known as a dating scammer. Someone who uses your emotions to get to your money.
Unfortunately we have different catagories for these internet leeches, one being an individual who not only does it for fun but those who do it for business. This has become a very notorious money making business in underprivileged countries like Nigera for example. It's one the most popular countries along with Russia, Ghana and the Ukrain. In some of these areas the scammers work for the local mafia and are set up in cafes, homes etc. Getting involved with a scammer such as this can be very dangerous because they know what they are doing and tap into your vulnerabilities creating a trust where you are willing to give up your information such as bank account numbers and personal info. Who would be stupid enough to do this? Well it really isn't stupidity. We are all vulnerable in some way, we all want to be trusting and we are all looking for that something special and these guys and gals KNOW it. It doesn't matter if they are working a scammer cell or individually.
I went on a dating site and I met someone but after a few chats I just got this feeling that things weren't adding up. I did some checking and found some sites about scammers and also joined a group on Yahoo about scammers. I had gotten quite a bit of info and when I next talked to this man, and I'll assume it was a man, I exposed him but only after I played with him for awhile just to see how far he'd go, WOW, he had the role down pat. lol
The stuff I learned was so mind boggling that I just have to share it. I 'm pretty savy about the internet but was totally clueless as to how deep this deceit goes in the internet dating scams. Please remember that it doesn't have to be an out of country scammer but someone right here taking advantage of someones emotional state. We are all vulnerable in some way and these people will find the weakness. It's how they make their living. Also just because there is a picture it doesn't mean that is the real person you are talking to. You could be talking to a woman thinking it's a man and vice versa. After all they have no real intention of meeting you. They just want your money.
There are online modeling agencies that these people steal their images from. They also will steal images from other dating sites and will go as far as including pics of children from these modeling sites claiming them to be their children. Another way to grab your sympathy.
At the time I was researching this and playing with "my guy" there was a lawsuit in process because some one had stolen another mans pic from one dating site and used it to exthort money from someone else on another dating site. So you see nobody is safe from these people. They prey on your emotions and though most of us will say it can't happen to me......well don't be too sure. Some of these people are quite a bit more subtle and the signs are harder to see so Just beware of any online relationship.
Things to look out for:
They even set up bogus websites for their fake companies. That way they can make themselves look legit. Check It Out! My guy did and the address was legit but not for his company, but an accounting firm in London. I thought, this is gonna be very interesting.
Look at the spelling...."I" is always i. Most out of country scammers never capitalize their I when speacking of themselves.
The speech is broken and doesn't fit their profile or pic, for example. i see you very pretty, like to know you well. Although it's no crime to have an accent and I'm not saying all broken speech is a sign of a scammer, but when the picture and profile posted is of an obvious Italian CEO and the language is way off base....... RED FLAG
Most will say they are Native American..... Like my guy did and when I questioned him about what tribe he said oh no tribe originaly from America but moved to UK First red flag for me.
The discription for their matches is wide open. There are no specifics. All body types, religions, nationalities etc are accepted.
Ages for their matches range from 18 to 63.
They will have a sob story either divorced from a viscious spouse who took their child away or wife and children, killed in a car accident, orphaned etc..
They will proclaim their love for you within a few chats which they always request to be away from the dating site. Don't do it. If you do it you can't expose them to the site autorities. They know this, after all their main objective is to win your trust so you will send them money. Soliciting money is prohibited on these sites.
They will tell you they are contractors, engineers etc. for big companies who travel around the world and are currently working on a job site in Nigeria etc. that way they can easily have you send the money western union and will always have you send it in a "friends" name, which is really their own.
After you have talked and they have told you how you are the one they were always looking for and get you to reciprocate the feelings they will then begin telling you about losing their wallet, going to the hospital where the doctor is holding their passport until they get paid. And of course they can't cash their ckecks because the banks there don't deal with American banks. Please send me some money so I can come home.
WEEEEEEEEEEL first off if they are working for a big company they would be covered for all of this. No major company is going to abandon their employees in a foreign country. There is also an embassy in every country they can go to. I mentioned this to "my guy" to see what his response would be and he said the embassy said they wouldn't help him. Ha! another red flag. He got angry with me because I said I didn't have any money to send which in turn he tried to tell me I didn't love him lol lol lol Never told him I did in the first place lol lol
They get really agitated if you ask a lot of questions. They'll try to get you to just talk about love and how they will take care of you if only they can get home.
Sometimes you may be talking to someone totally different. If it's a "scamming cell", it's not uncommon for someone else to "work" anothers mark. I had noticed a distinct difference in the writing and language use on several occasions while chatting with "my guy". Watch for this.
You'll often have times when they seem to have gone off line for a little while and then they are back saying, "I had business call" or "the internet is bad here". The real reason is they are talking to more than one mark online at a time.
I'm sure there are many more ways they have come up with by now to scam people. They have to because more and more people are onto them but the basics are the same. I know not all people are scammers on those sites. I know I wasn't, but I was in a position that I could have easily fallen prey had I not been willing to listen to my gut. Whenever you are getting aquanted with someone PLEASE check them out.
One way that doesn't cost you anything is get them to email you.
Open the email.
Click on File
Click on Properties
Click on Details
Highlight and copy
Paste into the site below. This will give you an IP address and tell you where the email originated.
"my guy" was suppossedly stationed at the Navy Annex here in the states but alas his email originated from Nigeria. hmmmmmmmmmmm
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