What's wrong with Interracial Marriages?

Seal and Heidi Klum

When people fall in love, they love their other half as a person and as it so happens in life, we can't help who we fall in love with. No matter the race - the fact is, two people have fallen in love and want to share their lives together.

I read an article in the news this week about Keith Bardwel, A Justice in America, refusing to marry an interracial couple. Full Story.

It’s a pity to know that there are still people out there who think less of people of other races. This issue is still happening in some continents, racism against Asians, against Caucasians and also amongst African/Americans - who get it the most. I wonder what goes through people’s minds. All human beings were born of a woman, deserve to be respected and treated equally. Yet, I still hear stories of:

  • Parents disowning their children because they married someone of another race.

  • Footballers in Europe being subject to racist tauntings.

  • Innocent people being attacked and sometimes killed because of their race. Some Asians even have “honour killings” because they don’t like their families marrying outside their race.

  • And then there are websites such as whiterevolution.com who want to keep America white?!!

 

David Bowie and Iman

As at now, 2009 the issues above are still happening and those are just some issues. Have we forgotten that we should be our brother’s keeper no matter what race or religion we belong to. We are not better than our neighbours vice versa. Every human is equal. God made us all and we should live together amicably and peacefully. Supporting and inspiring one another. Also, to fellow Africans and other people – I know a lot of you have been hurt due to this issue, but please release the bitterness from your system and move on or else it will eat away at your heart forever.

The two main points I want to raise in this article are that:

1) Interracial marriages are now on the increase, a lot of them are strong and are very happy families. So, lets just move on or does Michael Jackson have to come back to sing “It doesn't matter if we're Black or white” Pt Two.………? I didn’t think so, either. I live in London and can see these marriages growing in number.

Interracial Marriages Flourishing

2) Lets stop seeing each other as a colour. Every one has red blood flowing through their veins.

Food for thought - people of all races donate blood. I am yet to see a hospital that has blood for the Asians, blood for the African/Americans and blood for the Caucasians. So, for those of you who have had blood transfusions or might have one in future, the blood could be that of a different race. My point - we are all human.

In summary, I’ll leave you with a short poem I wrote, while reflecting on this article.

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How would you feel if your children were hated

Due to racial tension they never created?

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You work so hard to be a success

But cos of your colour, they block your progress

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How would you feel if people attacked you for no reason

Hands clean and innocent, yet your still thrown in prison?

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What will it take for you to love your neighbour

Till a loved one gets killed or till your nearly 6 foot under?

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Lets live together in harmony, irrespective of colour

Even God said, "prefer one another in honour". Rom 12:10

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Your thoughts please...

Do you think the issue of racism will ever go away?

  • Yes
  • No
  • It won't go away but it will definitely decline
  • It will get worse
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Pete Maida 7 years ago

It is too bad that there are still places where such backward thinking still holds. I had hoped we were getting out of it. My daughter-in-law is African/American and I couldn't have asked for a better lady to join our family. How dumb can an American be to have a problem with this when the leader of his country is bi-racial.


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Philipo 7 years ago from Nigeria

When I read the heading of this hub, I was touched and quickly answered that there is nothing wrong with interracial mattiage. I believe with time, things will sort itself out. People naturally fall in love and there is hardly anything anyone can do about it. In most cases however, the issue is not with the couple but with the extended families. The point remains that we are all humans irrespective of colour of continent. Lets love one another. Nice hub and congrats on the follow-up poem.


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Hmrjmr1 7 years ago from Georgia, USA

Love is Love and they say it conquers all but somketimes it's a tough fight. God Bless those that follow there hearts... and God Bless you for this Hub!


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andromida 7 years ago

Interracial marriages remind me that once we were one,in fact we all are one.


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livingsta 7 years ago from United Kingdom

Beautiful hub..very beautifully written..thanks a ton for sharing Lady_E..it is sad to see racial differences and lots of other inter-racial problems around the world


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mroricle1973 7 years ago from Virginia Beach

Racism is just straight ignorant. Interracial marriages are just fine. I do not believe racism will ever go away... In the Bible Jews didn't associate with Samaritans meaning there was racism even back then, so I don't think it will ever go away. I believe you just have to be above the ignorance.


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

Thank you Pete, Philipo, HMrjmr1, Andromida, Livingsta and Mroricle for taking the time to read the Hub and comment. Very much appreciated.

Bless you. :)


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Laura du Toit 7 years ago from South Africa

Thanks for sharing Lady E.

Very touching and beautiful poem.

Well done!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 7 years ago

Lady E,

Well written! Wonderful hub! Excellent "Food For Thought" point in regards to blood. I always say we all "bleed red!"

Personally it does not matter to me what color you are. It is important to be mindful that there are additional stereotypes to keep in mind because of this.

There are some very successful interracial marriages!

What is most important is that you Love, Value and Share the same principles of life, family and living!

Thank you for sharing.

Blessings!


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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii

I'm married to a man, and not his color. Our marriage is a blast and i can't ask for more. Your hub is well appreciated.


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

Cheers Lovely ladies - Laura, Deborrah and Island Voice. Thanks for your comments. Much respect to you. :)


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

Lady _E: What a wonderful hub I to agree love does not have any color and I too am in an interracial relationship where love only sees a color as clear. I would not trade my husband for the world and I feel blessed each day we are together. I certainly hope that many of us are around to see change but I don't know if it will happen in this lifetime. It doesn't matter to me who you are Love is what makes the world go round. :)


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Catherine R 7 years ago from Melbourne, Australia

Beautifully written hub. Hopefully we can move towards a time when skin colour no longer matters.


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James Agbogun 7 years ago

Racism is pure ignorance!


Osho Adesina 7 years ago

Elena, I agree with your opinion. I am involve in an interracial marriage.i am enjoying the relationship.


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks again everyone for your comments. I'm trying to refrain myself from commenting on this Hub because I don't trust myself to write a few sentences. I'll write non ending paragraphs. Lol.

AEvans and Osho, that's so sweet. I wish you continued happiness in your marriages and hope it will testify to people who are against it. Thanks for your comments. :)

Catherine - I hope we can move on too. Lovely to hear from you. :)

Hi James - I agree with your comments. Much respect and regards. :)


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Cindy Frye 7 years ago

I've had this argument with people more times than I choose to remember. Still, as is the same with the question of gay marriage...I just want to know (without using religion as the excuse) WHY one person feels the need to have opinion on the life of another person when it comes to whom they love and choose to live their life with.

It's tough enough to navigate this life and if one person finds another, regardless of race or sexuality, who loves them, respects them and makes them feel secure and safe...why should anyone else have a problem with it? With all the horrific things going on on this planet, it boggles my mind that time is wasted on a debate on whether or not a couple is mixed or if they're gay.


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Mish Dang 7 years ago

I am Vietnamse and my husband is Cambodian. We made beautiful kids! On the first few years, my dad didn't like him much. Still now, I think my dad secretly wants my husband to be the same race even though we both Asian!


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks Cindy for your comments. Nice to read from you.

Mish, that is lovely and I wish you, hubby and family a happy life. I'm sure your Dad will eventually warm to the idea. :)


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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

I have no issues with Interracial Marriages. Afterall, we all are one. I think such marriages should be encouraged.


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Jerami 7 years ago from Houston tx

great hub; inspiring poem. I do not think that racism will ever go away, because there will always be those that are insecure with themselves who have to find someone that they think that they are better than. Racism is but one form of Hate. Self hate projected outwards. I think.


Denno66 7 years ago

Something I heard a long time ago, a source I can't identify,: eventually all of the races and colors of Humanity will blend into one, to join with that truth beneath the skin of us all. Wonderful Hub. Thank you.


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

* Thanks Anamika, I agree - we are all one.

* Nice of you to stop by Jerami, I also think it won't go away but hope it decreases significantly.

* Hi Denno, it would be nice if we could all blend into one. Thanks for stopping.


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jess can help u 7 years ago from Fresno, CA

Racism, will never go away, but it has gotten better over the years. I am a product of mixed race, and as a young teenager, in high school, felt it very keenly. I am 59 years old now, and it isn't as traumatic as it once was. I see all human beings as creatures of God, and when I see others, I see no color but the person. Thank you for allowing me to share.


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resspenser 7 years ago from South Carolina

Check out National Security, an American movie. It is hilarious and touched on interracial relationships!

Just joined your fan club.


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James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

This article is very well done. I am glad I came by to read your point of view. My compliments to the author.


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

* Hi Jess, thanks for stopping. I heard/read about those earlier years and it's quite saddening. Lovely to read from you.

* Thanks Resspenser. I will check out the Movie. I love funny films.

* Thanks for your comments James. I must pop by sometime and catch up with more of your Hubs.

Cheers Everyone. :)


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Beata Stasak 7 years ago from Western Australia

Thank you Lady_E for answering my question about refugees.

You are right and I like very much your article. I would like to invite you to read my blogs if you are interested:

http://hubpages.com/literature/So-much-makes-sense...

http://bittersweetbeata.blogspot.com /please vote on this my blog - all about refugees...

http://universalandparticular.wordpress.com


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks for visiting and for your comments Beata. I will check up the links you posted. Regards.


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mistywild 7 years ago from Houston, TX (Proud Texan)

wodderful hub. I don't understand people who can look at someone and dislike them just because of their nationality. Living in America I have seen this time and time again and am apalled at it, such a loss for the feebleminded. Also, the thing that really bothers me about all this is that if these two people who love each other have a child, the child has to suffer, get called names, and be hated. It's not fair. I did not answer the poll because I did not see an option I would choose, I would choose, I hope to GOD it does.


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks Mistywild. I do feel for the kids too, they do get labelled but hopefully things are improving.

Lovely to read from you. :)


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kateperez 7 years ago from pasadena, tx

Lady_E,

It is truly unfortunate that people are so blind to what they see so clearly.

I am a caucasian woman married to a Latin American man. We have been together, in love, accepted, for the past 26 years, married for 23 of those years. We have three well-adjusted children from our union and their lives are as blessed as they can be.

Your article is well written and expresses the very truth of the matter. We can look beyond the color of the skin or we can choose to impose our archaic views on others. The judge in Louisiana has been requested to step down. I do not know if he has or not. I live in neighboring Texas.

Your poem is lovely, your pictures show acceptance, but until the older, set in their ways members of the past stop teaching their youngers we will continue to have this unfortunate and unacceptable behavior from people.

We can only hope that it reduces to the point where it is merely an annoyance and no longer an issue.

Great HUB. Thanks so much.

Kate


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kateperez 7 years ago from pasadena, tx

Your comments are not controversial. They are stunning and appropriate.


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks so much for your beautiful, encouraging comments, Kate. I love what you wrote about your family and wish you lasting happiness. ((Hugs))


Angelaca 7 years ago

Very well-written and full of truth that we all need to take to heart and put into practice. Skin shade has nothing to do with the character and integrity of a person. It's a persons heart that should be taken into consideration, not their skin color. We are all made of flesh and blood and have the breath of God that keeps us alive, so we should look at each other as human beings and not try dissect and separate one another by the tint of our flesh. No shade of color is superior or better than another.


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

Truthful comments. Thanks Angelaca - love the way you put it. Wish I could copy those comments and paste it into the Hub itself. From your first sentence, sometimes I believe society plays a part. E.g The news - An African maybe was attacked. The person reading the news says "A black man was attacked". Now, if it was an English guy, we wouldn't here "a white man was attacked". So, these comments don't help and kids watching will just see it as normal.

It should be "An African was attacked". Ah, well, don't mind me - I'm in a rambling mood today. Thanks for stopping. :)


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floating mind 7 years ago from Chicago, Illinois

This hub gets to the point, and I agree with you fully. Humanity (society) needs to find a way to get pass skin color. If only words could be used to set everyone straight, then the words in your hub would be what the world needs to read. Great hub!


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks Floating mind, if only...

Thank God it's not as bad as it used to be in the 50s, 60s - we just need to keep the progress going. Cheers.


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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

Your post is very wise, Lady_E. Color is irrelevant, and I look forward to a day when everyone will realize that. I hope that Obama's election in the United States will be some kind of tool toward realizing we are the same. We shall see.

Thanks, I tremendously enjoy reading your words.


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks for your comments Mike. I look forward to that day too. Nice to read from you again.


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Miss Info 6 years ago from New York City

i love your site.. its just like mines


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prayzpoetess 6 years ago from Jefferson

Bravo!!!! I pray for the day that people will really judge others by the content of their character; not the color of their skin....Loving unconditionally is the only way to please God...Thank you Lady_E...God bless! WONDERFUL HUB!


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK Author

** Thanks Miss info.

** I pray so too, prayzpoetess. Regards.


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terced ojos 6 years ago from terced_ojos@yahoo.com

How come people always point to the victims of this beast called racism as opposed to the societies that tolerate them?

Where is the outrage at racists Amerikkka?

If people stop teaching their children that racists garbage this stuff goes away.

So much energy is wasted on asking things like "what's wrong with interracial marriage.?"

What's wrong with the predominant group in America. Namely "white people"?

Every racists slur I ever heard came out of the mouth of someone white.

As a child growing up I would go home and ask my parents things like; "mom, dad what's a wetback, what's a nip? what's a zipperhead?what's a bush-boogie?what's a spear chucker.? I heard the most ugly, visceral things coming out of the mouths of 8 and 9 year olds. Only to hear the same things repeated by their parents. I never heard this kind of stuff in my household.

White kids and white people in general had racists comments galore for everybody that wasn't white.

Little has changed in this society. Most of the stuff is just beneath the surface.

The real question in my estimation is "What is wrong with White People and Why Are they So Preoccupied with All Races Non-White.?"


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK Author

Interesting Points Terced.

Thanks for stopping. Regards.


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elainegreen12 6 years ago

I strongly recommend ______ B l a c k w h i t e C u p i d* C 0 m ______ to you where I just found my interracial boyfriend! You know it is a great place to meet black men and beautiful women. What's kind of relationship do you want? ;)


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK Author

Who me? lol.

Elaine - I'm not particularly bothered as long as he has a heart of Gold. I am Colour Blind. Best Wishes. :)


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Squidmom 6 years ago from Texas

Thank you for writing this! I'm one half of a bi-racial marriage, I'm an American Hispanic and he's an English Caucasian but we never think of ourselves as a mixed race couple until we are out and run into someone who clearly has a problem with it- people are just proletariat at the end of the day, here's hoping that everyone will realize that some day


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK Author

Hi Squidmom - Its sad to hear about people still having problems about this. On a positive note, interracial marriages are on the increase and lots more people are coming to accept it.

I wish you and Hubby a very Happy Marriage.

Best Wishes.


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Amanda Robinson 5 years ago from Grand Rapids, Michigan

I completely agree with your Hub. I wrote a Hub not to long ago on Black and White Marriages. Check it out if your interested :) Great Hub :)


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks Amanda - I will pop by. :)


ShortStory 5 years ago

Not to worry, the fastest growing demographic in the US is mixed-race people. It'll work itself out sooner or later.


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK Author

Hi Shortstory - That's good to know. :)


ShortStory 5 years ago

Fastest growing demographic in the UK as well, so it's just a matter of time...


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kittythedreamer 5 years ago from the Ether

voted up, awesome, and beautiful. thank you for speaking the truth and exposing the sadness that still exists in the world today..racism. i grew up next to an interracial couple, so i never though differently about that type of relationship as a child. i am grateful that i had that experience, because i believe that it helped shape my open-mindedness...i think that if you are in love with someone...nothing should matter and nothing should keep you from loving that person...despite their skin color, religion, or gender. thank you, Lady_E!


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK Author

Hi Kittythedreamer

Thanks so much for sharing your experience.

Best Wishes.


DaveG 5 years ago

I salute any couple who discover that the joy and love of being together outweigh the trouble and scrutiny of others who, sadly, cannot get past skin color. What I have known is that all races can be supportive of interracial relationships and all races can be stubborn and narrow minded.


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK Author

Hi DaveG

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I like your way of thinking.

Best Wishes.


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sweetie1 5 years ago from India

Hi Lady E , though the priest was wrong in refusing to marry them but i feel that back ground of both partners plays a lot in marriage. We dont have different races but we have different casts and it has been seen that if you marry in your caste, usually your marriage survive life long but in inter caste marriage the divorce rate is very high and if not divorce then sepration rate is high too. So i dont know marring interrace or intercaste is a wise decision.. but it is up to individuals and not priest to say who to marry or not marry


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks Sweetie for sharing that. Interracial marriages are actually on the increase and I agree with you, it should be up to individuals.


Wisdom 5 years ago

Interracial marriages are mainly done for selfish reasons - usually someone who is immature and is socially disfuctional. It promotes child abuse and hurts many children leaving deep scars of identity crisis and bitterness towards others. As long as you are beautiful being black or white who cares about the kids - you think if you intermarry you are not a racist? Think again - think for yourself - You have being programmed by the Jews to forsake your culture and your race because of false teachings and racist accusations - I assure you, you gain no respect from inter-marriages – you do not build the pride of your nation or the world – you do not respect that which you were given – you do not respect different people and cultures but on the contrary try to enforce all into a similar culture and race – you become the true racist. You have been tricked out of your self respect and pride and love. When all is done - the Jews will keep their race and pride but you will have lost your identity and respect as a unique and beautiful person. Accept who you are – your colour – your race and your self, then you will be able to truly love others. Be black and proud, be white and proud, be Indian and proud … in diversity is your strength and specialness and meaning and love. Yes in some unique cases it works out, but on the whole you are slowly destroying your self and the world.


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Royalmark 5 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria

Even in Nigeria, the Igbos don't want their children to marry the Yorubas and vice-versa.

I hope my mum don't get to see this but I'm sorry to say she's in that league - guess it's a passed down thought pattern though.

I don't go by that actually. If I fall in love with a Canadian, Urhobo, Yoruba, Igbo, Calabar, American, Asian, why not? We're moving on irrespective of the 'only son' tag.

Blessings,

Chukwuka.


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK Author

Hi Chukwuka, you must have left this comment just when I logged out yesterday.

Well... a lot of people still have that mentality even in Asia. My Indian friend is only allowed to marry not just any Indian, but one from her Village.

I am glad my parents are open-minded, maybe partially because they spent a long time in UK and honestly, if I decide to marry a European, they will be fine with it. They have always said "If you are happy, we are happy".

I love your attitude too. We fall in love with people, not colours or nationality. Chineke go give you beta wife o, Chukwuka. :)


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Sneha Sunny 5 years ago from India

I absolutely support you. It's pointless to disrespect the couple just because they have an interracial marriage. Here in my country too its a very big problem. Here people don't even support love marriages. Forget about the interracial marriages! It's something that should come to an end.


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK Author

Aaawh Sneha, what a pity.

I hope things change. Nationality should not be a barrier to love.

I also wish you a happy Marriage. :)


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Sneha Sunny 5 years ago from India

lol...Well, actually I wasn't talking about myself. I'm just a student now. :D But yes that's what happens here.


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK Author

Okay Sneha... (Smiling)

Good luck with studies then.


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stars439 5 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

Wonderful hub, and you have made somevery important points. God Bless You Precious heart.


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pelt545 5 years ago from Hampton Roads, VA

There is nothing wrong with interracial dating/marriage but there is sure something wrong with the haters/racists.

Fact: We are all human. We were formed in the likeness of God. We have a soul, flesh, and mind.

One question I like to ask people: Will God judge us by race/skin color when we die and face Him?


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK Author

@Stars439 - Thanks. Lovely to read from you again.

@Pelt45 - Very True. God Judges our hearts and actions. Thankfully the world is more in acceptance of interracial marriages but there is still a long way to go.

Thanks for stopping to share. I hope it touches the hearts of those who are against it.


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platinumOwl4 4 years ago

Lady_E, I am currently reading a book you may enjoy. The title is White over Black(American attitudes Toward the Negro) 1550-1812 this will do you head in, if you can find a copy. The condensed version is titled "The Whiteman's Burden" both are written by Winthrop D. Jordon. Since American travels the globe claiming to uphold demoracy it also spreads a great deal of a negative policies.


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island

hmmmm...heartwarming poem...a strong fan of interracial, inter-tribal marriage cos it brings something different...despite the shortcomings, well written...thanks for sharing your view on this.


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks Accofranco

You are right. It does bring something different.

Regards.


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Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

I do not encourage interracial marriages, but I do respect others' God-given right to make their own decisions. I am not convinced that they are sinful, and I do not judge the unions. I am neutral because of my life experiences. I respect people's decisions and would not intentionally hurt anyone because they chose to marry one of another race. If they are happy, so am I.


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks for stopping, Levertis.


Nice Girl 4 years ago

I completely agree with this article. I am an in an mixed race relationship at the moment in the UK and my own mother has already said I have to end the relationship otherwise I will have to choose between my parents or him... very sad and hard to hear especially as I am extremely close to my parents and love them dearly.

I just don't understand why she isn't happy for me that I have found someone who loves and cares for me.

As Ghandi said "Be the change you want to see in the world"

Thank you for writing this! Good job Lady E


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

Aaawh Nice Girl, I hope with time your mum comes round. These are matters of the heart that shouldn't be interfered with. I have my fingers crossed for you and yours.

Good Luck, Elena.


Nice Girl 4 years ago

Thanks for your good wishes Lady_E, wishing you a wonderful healthy joyful life :)


Bob 4 years ago

I am not racist but am not a fan at all of interracial marriages. I think culture is great so why would I want to change that? What I mean is if i (im irish) married a black woman the kids would be black, they would not be looked at as irish by anyone. It would also be a problem to the kids identifying themselves. I find it very selfish to do as shown by my cousins who are half hispanic and have self identification problems. I just don't get why people want to do this. I don't agree it should be encouraged at. Friends is a different story by the way.


Noel 4 years ago

There's nothing wrong with wanting to preserve your heritage and rooting for your own. Diversity isn't having a bunch of bi-racials with no allegiance to their ancestors and people. No one calls the jews and arabs racist, but they rarely marry outside their race. Blacks and hispanics have no racial pride, that's why they're so quick to marry out of their race. It's sad in my opinion. It's self-hatred.


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK Author

@Bob @Noel

Thanks for sharing your views.


andromeda 4 years ago

Brides black, brown or white....darkness is equality


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James-wolve 3 years ago from Morocco

Thumps up.Perfect and awesome.I agree with every word you say.We are all from Adam and Eve.Living under the same sky,breathing the same air.What s the matter if I m from Costa Rica or from the darkest regions of Africa?aren t we brothers and sisters?Why wars?Why racism?

Basically, I think "who cares." Law permits you to marry who you want, provided that both parties are over 18 (or have parental permission in the case of those aged 16-17), are not related by blood and both give consent. Or at least, that's what I know on the matter.

As for different races, why is the tone of your partner's skin important? I'll tell you it isn't. Racist people may not agree with me, but then they are simply racist and need a reality check.

My opinion is that as long as the two people wishing to engage in marriage are consensual, abiding by law (and in love, but that isn't always the case) regardless of sex, length of relationship or origin, they should be able to get married as they wish. Which, incidentally, they are perfectly able to do.the challenges of an interracial relationship ,I think,come more from the cultural differences that each person grows up with and trying to find common ground. As long as a person is genuinely interested in his/her partner, the love that exists between them also involves patience (and that is crucial). It takes time and effort to make anything good work, but trust me... when you ve got something great you'll look back and appreciate any of the difficult times together.

Personally, I usually think girl of different races are more attractive, but that s just the way I ve been since I was a little boy:). I would certainly marry someone of a different race and plan to do so in the future lol.


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Lady_E 3 years ago from London, UK Author

@James-Wolve

Totally agree with you. It would be interesting if a racist man needed a new heart and they found one but told him it was from another race. Would he accept it? Mmmmh... food for thought. I enjoyed reading your comment and I totally support interracial relationships.

Best Wishes.


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James-wolve 3 years ago from Morocco

I support it too.I was about to marry an american girl but she backed out of the agreement at the last minute.She claimed reasons were religious but a friend of her told me the truth.She had that thing with american guy.Religion was just a cover.I thought she was different but I was mistaken.It seems they are all the same.Always be emotionally prepared to be taken aback.That relationship honestly killed something inside me.From that moment till now I am not the same.My ideals,trust,confidence are shattered.She is happy now,maybe with a kid or two..My gosh..I need to write something


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Lady_E 3 years ago from London, UK Author

Aaawh.... sorry to hear that - James. I hope what died inside will come alive again. I met a friend last week and we were chatting about relationships and her advice to me was that sometimes what's going on with us psychologically affects us from moving forward. So, in your mind you have to let it go (spiritually you are unblocking something in your heart and life) then, start the process of finding someone new..... Good luck.


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James-wolve 3 years ago from Morocco

I am ok now,just sometimes I can t believe that she s gone.I am almost to be recovered completely from that awful pain.I am not like those who stuck into the past.I am still young :) and there is a life ahead that I have to live abundantly .Thanks for your warm sweet words.Have nice Sunday.


Roundworm 3 years ago

I agree with Bob. Racism is abundant . It's more to do with Identity rather than skin tone. Of note, wherever there is Melting point, there is culture clash. Always. There are things that go beyond human control. And are subconscious .

I think Mixed marriages are hard ,not only for the unacceptance. But for the lack of quick understanding btw the two. Reminder, American veterans who brought back home Vietnam brides. Success depends also on the income ,status quo , etc.

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Lady_E 3 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks Roundworm. I appreciate you stopping by to share that.

Best Wishes

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