Interracial Marriages Don't Work

The Breakthrough of Interracial Marriage


Richard P. Loving and his wife, Mildred, were convicted under Virginia law that banned mixed marriages. They eventually won a U.S. Supreme Court decision in June 1967 that overturned laws prohibiting interracial unions. In 1968, Gallup found that only 17% of whites approved of interracial marriage; 56% of blacks approved. Now, 83% of whites and 96% of blacks approve of interracial marriage. 1965 AP Photo

Interracial Marriages don’t work.

That’s quite a statement of which I emphatically disagree.

For the purposes of this discussion we’ll stick with a simple explanation of the concept of race as being Black, White, Hispanic, Asian or Indian. These constitute the major divisions of race within the United States.

That being said, there are many other variances including culture, geography, ethnic background, social economic strata, nationality and class systems that make claim to the perception of race.

Remarkably interracial marriage in the United States only became legal after the 1967 Supreme Court decision Loving vs. Virginia. The fact that America went for over 82% or 191 years of its existence with laws prohibiting such marriage may cause some to suggest it validates their claims that these marriages don’t work.

On the contrary when you take a closer look at this landmark decision you find a resounding 9-0 ruling in favor of it! It is rare for such a reversal of the law and in particular without one opinion of opposition.

Things have certainly changed since that time. According to the 2010 U.S. census, there are now 24.8 million interracial marriages in the country. In addition there are 6.8 million children as a result of these unions.

I submit that marriage as a fundamental construct supercedes the limitation of race as its primary force of destruction. So, what does that mean anyway :-)

Well, simply put you can’t blame race entirely as the reason that a marriage doesn’t work. Regardless of race, marriage in America, as well as around the world has a multitude of equal opportunity destroyers.

Every marriage faces challenges from its very inception. When a man and woman come together in marriage they face a multitude of challenges that may prevent it from working, the least of which is race.

As we explore the intricacy of a successful marriage the character values that reside on the inside of the heart and mind of the couple become far greater in importance.

For example, how would race (as we describe) have a bearing on the understanding of what is necessary for a lifetime commitment? Would it be rational to say that a Hispanic person understands this but a Black person does not because of the color of their skin? Does one race have a monopoly on the intrinsic values of a faith, hope and love?

Depending on what source you are quoting the institution of marriage is under increasing scrutiny; mounting pressure and some would even say vicious attack. There is much being said about the significant percentages of marriages that are falling by the way side.

Given that somewhat sobering reality would it not be more credible to focus on why as some would argue, that marriage, as a whole is not working regardless of race? A successful marriage of course is the opposite of one that doesn’t work. The same applies to an interracial one.

I contend that as committed couples share in the sanctity, honor and blessing of marriage the true characteristics of a successful marriage trump over any limitations that race may present.

The idea of marriage is an amazing and beautiful vision. At it’s greatest expression there is unconditional love and acceptance. It’s a place where honor, courage and commitment live and abide. It is a connection point where two become as one. I submit that this kind of relationship cannot be limited or defeated solely by the color of a persons skin.

I hope you've been inspired to agree with me.

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Urban Blink 5 years ago from New York. NY

I am inspired and I do agree. Thanks for the lovely article.


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK

Great article. I am glad you disagree with the statement too. Love conquers a lot. I have seen many happy interracial marriages last long and I actually encourage it.


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StayPos 5 years ago from Florida, USA Author

Thanks Urban Blink, I'm glad you agree :-)


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StayPos 5 years ago from Florida, USA Author

Lady_E thanks for the compliment and yes LOVE does CONQUER all!


HSchneider 5 years ago from Parsippany, New Jersey

Great Hub. Interracial marriages rise and fall on their own merits. Our society has become much more tolerant and these marriages no longer face the societal obstacles that they once did. More of them may fail but more marriages are failing which is a whole different discussion. If a couple loves each other, they will make it work no matter the racial makeup. I am in an interracial relationship and it is a great one. It has all the ups and downs of any other.


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StayPos 5 years ago from Florida, USA Author

Thanks for sharing HSchneider!

You're exactly right.

Our society is making great strides in comprehending that it's not about skin color but rather character in any marriage or relationship!


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Paradise7 5 years ago from Upstate New York

I agree with you. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't when one marries a person of a different color than your own. The reasons it doesn't work aren't that often related to being different colors. You and they wouldn't have minded being different colors from each other or neither of you would have married the other person.


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StayPos 5 years ago from Florida, USA Author

Paradise7,

Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the discussion :-)

In my humble opinion what's most important is that the marriage be based on true love and respect between the usband and wife.

If that is the case, the couples race has no negative impact on the marriage, rather actually is a positive characteristic showcasing the contrasting beauty of each person.

All the Best


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ournote2self 5 years ago

I agree with you 100%. God says that it's important to be 'equally yoked' which referrs to religion. When it comes to raising children it's important for these 2 people to have the same morals and beliefs.


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StayPos 5 years ago from Florida, USA Author

ournote2self,

You have it down precisely :-)

A husband and wifes faith in God through Jesus Christ makes them entirely equally yoked and therefore neutralizes any external racial difference.

Thanks for stopping by and adding to the conversation :-)

Cheers!


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.josh. 5 years ago

I wholeheartedly agree, StayPos. I have to admit though, when I saw your title, I was a bit concerned what you were going to say here :)

Excellent hub - incredible that interracial marriage was only legalized 40 some-odd years ago...


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ubanichijioke 5 years ago from Lagos

Great hub. I believe that race, color, culture & background shouldn't be considered as reasons for the failure of any marriage [especially when it involves intermarriage] thanks for making that point clear.


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StayPos 5 years ago from Florida, USA Author

.josh.

Glad you liked the hub and that the title grabbed your attention :-)

Yes, 40 years is basically one generation, not a long time for this particular context.

Thanks for stopping by!


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StayPos 5 years ago from Florida, USA Author

ubanichijioke,

Thanks for the compliment and contributing to the discussion :-)


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DynamicS 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

I agree marriage or any relationship for that matter has to be constantly tended. Interracial marriage I suspect would be the same. In today's world, we have become more accepting of inter-racial marriage as well as samesex marriage. We have certainly come a long way.


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StayPos 5 years ago from Florida, USA Author

DynamicS,

Thanks for your contribution to the conversation :-)

All the Best


gsweets 5 years ago

Love the article and completely agree. I'm happy to see all the positive comments.


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StayPos 5 years ago from Florida, USA Author

gsweets,

Thanks for stopping by and I'm glad you agree :-)

All the Best


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pelt545 5 years ago from Hampton Roads, VA

Interracial couples are no different from same race couples. Some break up, others stay together, and the ones who break up may end up reconnecting.

If I happen to hear someone saying that interracial couples don't belong together, then I would ask him facts of couples who are still married and those who divorced.

In my opinion, I think that same race couples break up or divorce more than interracial couples.


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StayPos 5 years ago from Florida, USA Author

pelt545,

Thanks for stoping by and sharing on the topic! You make a very good point :-)

All the Best


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sheila b. 5 years ago

I agree with your sentiments. One thing I'd like to add is while there was opposition to interracial marriages 50 years ago, that included Catholics marrying Protestants, Jews marrying either, etc.


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eliserenee 4 years ago from Chicago

When I initially saw the title to your Hub, I came here to immediate protest that interracial marriages do work! But then I read your Hub :) I wholeheartedly agree. I am white and I fell in love with, and later married, my Puerto Rican fiancée. Our different backgrounds has never been a problem for us. If anything, I love the aspects of different cultures that are brought to my marriage. I'm glad you posted this Hub!


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StayPos 4 years ago from Florida, USA Author

eliserenee,

I'm thrilled you came across my hub and that you were pleasantly surrpised at its perspective! My wife is German and we throughly enjoy our different cultures and nationality :-)

Best wishes to you and your husband!

Happy Holidays!


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David Warren 4 years ago from Nevada

LOL, I came here to SLAM this hub after seeing the title. Voted up and awesome!


Pearl 4 years ago

I am happy that you do not agree with the statement. I have been with my partner (now husband) for over 10 years and our relationship is still going strong. Also, being that I work as a wedding planner, I am so happy to see that recently the number of interracial marriages have increased a lot.

http://www.yourmaltaweddingplanner.com/


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StayPos 4 years ago from Florida, USA Author

Pearl,

Thanks for contributing to the conversation and congratulations on 10 plus years of happy marriage!

I appreciate you sharing your insights as a wedding planner in regards to interracial marriages :-)

Great website by the way!

All the Best


KDK 4 years ago

My marriage to my ex-wife was more an intercultural one than an interracial one etc.I am white american and she was an arab muslim woman from Tunisia north africa.My parents especially my mother(she has always been very anti-islamic in view and opinion!)were not very happy that I was going to be with her as my wife.Our marriage lasted three years but basically I backed-out and intiated the divorce myself because of the religious differences between us(she started to become more and more religious where I was not that much into her religion even though I accepted it in order to marry her)yet I don't regret being with her because I learned a tremendous amount about the arab islamic culture/society.


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StayPos 4 years ago from Florida, USA Author

Thanks for sharing your very compelling story. Your point regarding the intercultural aspect of interracial couples is an important one.

To a certain degree, differences in culture are always a component in interracial relationships even between couples of the same nationality or religious background.

It’s one of the wonderful layers of diversity that often makes it so attractive.

It’s unfortunate to hear that things didn’t continue to work out for you and your wife.

Nevertheless, as you said, it was a non-regrettable period of time that you enjoyed and a tremendous occasion to learn and awaken regarding the Arab Islamic culture/society.

All the Best


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Ann1Az2 4 years ago from Orange, Texas

I've often wondered what the difference is between a white and black marriage vs. a white and Asian marriage or a Black and Spanish marriage. There really isn't any difference except as you say, the color of the skin. I think when people get to the point of realizing that we are all God's people and it doesn't matter what color our skin is, we'll come to the realization that marriage is based on trust, love and commitment, not skin color.

Thanks for making me think on this one. Voted up and well done.


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StayPos 4 years ago from Florida, USA Author

Ann1Az2,

Thanks so much for stoping by and sharing :-) I appreciate the compliment and definitely agree with you. When it comes right down to it marriage is all about trust, love, commitment and character not about our differences in skin pigmentation. All the Best


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Motherbynature 18 months ago from Los Angeles, CA

Great article. I'm in an interracial marriage myself. It's a wonderful thing but there are challenges sometimes, like how I gave him the stank eye after Darren Wilson was not indicted for killing Mike Brown...lol. The differences are more cultural than anything else if you really think about it. We were both raised with the same family values and our mothers are quite similar in personality. It's a trip.

By the way, there is a documentary on Netflix about the Loving family called "The Loving Story". It shows real footage and interviews with the Lovings. Their story is very touching.


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StayPos 18 months ago from Florida, USA Author

MotherbyNature,

Glad you enjoyed my hub :-) There is an added richness when sharing marriage from the perspective of two difference racial backgrounds, in particular when you know God has chosen the right partner for you!

My wife and I have the privilege of volunteering service to other perspective spouses in a multi-week pre-marital course at our non-denominational multi-ethnic church.

Time and again your point about culture and family values prove to be truly more significant than the color of ones skin in relationship to having a successful marriage.

Thanks for your thoughts and insight on the Netflix documentary about the Lovings.

I’ll see if I can find a link and share it :-)

All the Best

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