Is Fidelity A Thing Of The Past?

It almost never starts off with bad intentions. Something as simple as a good conversation with a co-worker can amazingly lead to something that is not so innocent. A few talks at work while on your break and the next thing you know you've exchanged numbers and it goes from there. A few phone calls here and there, a lot of text messages. The next thing you know a group of co-workers are all going out to a bar one Friday night. It's just co-workers out together having a good time right? Well, at least that's how it started; now Lisa and Chris are at the table doing a bit more flirting than they should. His hand is on her leg and she is giggling and twirling her hair. It would be all fun and good times only Lisa has a boyfriend...


     The year is 2011 and it seems as if we have reached a point where staying true to our partner is becoming a dream or a fantasy. A number of celebrities have fallen victim to this cheating frenzy; however they are not the only ones that take the bait in this type of situation. What is the reason people cheat? Is it a sexual thing, the need for a more spontaneous sex life? Maybe it’s that you are no longer attracted to your partner like you once were. Maybe they are not paying you as much attention as you would like. But is that really a good reason to break the commitment that you have to one another? People tend to think that in a relationship your partner should meet all of your physical and emotional needs and when they don't it creates a reason to step outside of that relationship and look to others to feel the void. 


     The opportunity for cheating gets greater with the use of alcohol. The access is also a lot easier with it being literally at your fingertips. Sites such as Twitter, Facebook or even Myspace make it to where a person can pursuit a stranger or even someone they know by simply opening their laptop and logging on. These sites that were originally intended for networking purposes are now ALSO commonly used as a dating tool. It is a lot easier to TYPE a flirty comment and approach the opposite sex in that way. The rejection factor is still there however, the fact that you don't have to see the look the person they give when they reject you helps. They cannot see the look of hurt and embarrassment on your face as they shoot you down; on line you are able to save face. People tend to have tons of courage when they are typing on the keyboard and rarely if ever see you face to face.


You're an attractive male. You've got nice pictures of yourself up and you get approached constantly by females. Before you know it your inbox has 80 messages from women who are sending you their pussy via email. They send you phone numbers, naked pictures you name it. The opportunity is there and it’s so tempting, but you are not a single man so what do you do? The more opportunity you create the greater your risk for cheating becomes.


     To me if you are going to cheat there is no point in being in a relationship. It breaks trust and it diminishes you as a person. Be single, that way you can screw whoever you want cause u have no commitment (if that's what you want to do). Your word means a lot. If you agree to a monogamous relationship then be prepared to only be with that.

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Jangaplanet 5 years ago

Well written thanks for sharing this. Giving it a vote up!

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J.S.Matthew 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

NikiDiva, Great Hub!

I have been married for almost 3 years now. Some of the changes I made to my life were to stop going to bars and I don't do the chat thing on the internet. I do talk to many people on HubPages through comments and forums, but I feel that this is a safe, monitored, and professional environment. There is a lot of "easy" hooking up out there. I choose to ignore and distance myself from it. Very well written!


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dashingscorpio 5 years ago

I honestly do not believe everyone who ends up cheating enters a relationship or marriage "planning" to cheat.

In fact most people don't get married thinking they are going to get a divorce! And yet according to statistics the divorce rate is hovering around 52%! So much for "planning".

The point I'm making is very few people "know" what they are going to do under any and (all) circumstances. There is a major difference between life and hypothetical. In fact I suspect the longer one lives the more they realize just how unpredictable life can be.

Having said that I do think it's wise if you are on a "diet" to avoid hanging out at the bakery. :-)

Temptation can lead to "impulsive" decisions!

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NikiDiva 5 years ago from Atlanta, Ga Author

@dashingscorpio very well put and I totally agree

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Angela Brummer 4 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

I agree with this!

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NikiDiva 4 years ago from Atlanta, Ga Author

Thank you for reading Angela

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Astra Nomik 4 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

The person who loves you has to put you first. They have to put you above everyone else on their list. There are loves and then friendships. Loves come first.

I have been on Facebook and people sometimes wish to chat. And I am not always wanting to respond, as I spend 99.9% of my chat time with the person of my dreams, and we love chatting fact we are inseperable. LOL.

The person has to be realistic and not be tempted by things that are not real, but just distractions.

When love is in your heart, there is not room for much else. That is my experience.

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word55 3 years ago from Chicago

Very good observation and reading Niki. However, your knight in shinning armor awaits you unless he's found you already (-:)

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