Is He Still In Love With His Ex Wife?

Is He Still In Love With His Ex Wife?

Your relationship has seen better days from the first day you married your husband until now. He seems to be distant and not communicating with you as much as he did in the beginning. His ex wife has been a damsel in distress, needing him for every little thing that is happening in her life, if she has a busted pipe under her kitchen sink, your husband runs over to her place in the middle of the night to fix it and he can't even help you bring the groceries in the house.

You want to expand you family and have children of your own. However, when you try to discuss it with him, he tells you that he has children already with his ex and he doesn't want anymore children. There were nights when you spent evenings alone while he was on the telephone with his ex for hours, and you could'nt help but cry yourself to sleep at night. Clues are important to listen to when you want to know if someone is cheating on you. Although, your husband may have children with his ex, his number one priority should be with you, not the ex wife. There is a reason she is an ex.

Another clue you should have noticed is when you tried to share a romantic evening with him and he makes an excuse to get out of it, making love is not a part of the equation anymore in your marriage and you're still giving this man the benefit of the doubt. Living in denial is not going to be a solution to your problem with your husband smiling every time his kids visit and tells him that their mother told them to say hello to their dad for her.. Obviously that love bug that bit him when he first met his ex for the first time has now become an infestation, and it will take more than pest control to get rid of this homewrecking bug.

When his ex wife was short on cash he did not have a problem going into the joint acount he shares with you to get cash for her, Come on, there has to be a line you should draw or a foot you should put down so hard that it goes through the floor. There is no logical explanation you can get from a man who is still running behind his ex wife or grilfriend, so sitting around scratching your head waiting for is buying him more free time to run behind her.

Is he worth you waiting up late at night for him to come home? or for him scolding you like a child whenever you say something bad about his ex and somethng in defense of your relationship? Face the facts. he's in love with his ex; don't fool yourself any longer. You can come right out and ask him, but I bet he will deny it because he may not want his marriage to end with you. He likes the thought of having his cake and eating it too.

If the two of you want the marriage to workout, you both have to put some effort in it to see that it happens. Seeking a relationship therapist might be ideal for your marriage, but if your husband decides that he doesn't want to seek any help and he see's nothing wrong with remaining friends with his ex, you should let him know how you feel when he puts her first before you.

Anyone who decides to move on with their lives and start new relationships should not start relatioships with someone new until the ex is completely out of their system. Remaining in contact with an ex because you share children with them is understandable. Needless to say, feelings of unresolved love or lust for an ex will become a problem for your new relationship whether you believe it or not.

If you know you can't control your feelings for an ex, but you want your new relationship to workout; make up in your mind what is more valuable to you, your new relationship or an old relationship that had problems that created the break up in the first place. If you're know longer in love with the new person, it's best to be honest and let them know so that they can have a chance to move on and find someone else who truly will love them.

Is he still in love with his ex wife? If you have to ask he must have shown you some of those clues, so get out while you can. Run baby, run.

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soneblom 6 years ago from South Africa

That's a sad situation! Prayer helps.


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W. K. Hayes 5 years ago from Bryson City, North Carolina

Awesome advice...trying to maintain one relationship while having another, even if it is only in the heart, could very cost the person their past and their future.


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Affinity2010 5 years ago from New Orleans, La Author

Thank You, W.K Hayes. No one should ever consider trying to juggle two relationships or let pining over an ex destroy what they have with a new relationship.


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Shyla's Nana 5 years ago

Why would someone want to start a relationship with someone if they still love their ex? That isn't fair and very selfish to the new person in their life. It leaves the new person with a lot of self-doubt when there should not be any. Do not start another relationship until you are completely over your ex. Is it the memories you shared with your ex? Well, dig a little deeper and you will find a memory or three that will remind you why you aren't with that person now. By still having feelings for an ex and being at their beck and call, you are cheating yourself and the new person you are with out of something that could be beautiful. So, one should ask themselves, why would you want to walk down an already well-beaten path when you could take a road less traveled? Thank you for the article.


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Affinity2010 5 years ago from New Orleans, La Author

Shyla Nana, Thank you for agreeing with me over this hub. It sickens me when someone chooses to destroy something they've developed with someone new by putting them on the back burner, spending time or being there to emotionally benefit an ex. In most cases it will turn back into a romantic relationship because the two could possibly still have feelings for one another.


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jolinabalcruz 4 years ago from Metro Manila Philippines

an EX is an EX, why do they have to come back?


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Affinity2010 4 years ago from New Orleans, La Author

Exactly!!!


maryann 4 years ago

hello

Am Maryann Apollo i want to give testimony of how Dr.Emmauel brought back my divorce husband back to me,were married for 9 years then we break up, due to the fact that he never love me again.

i have many felling for this my ex because we have gotten 2 kids together and i will want us to come back again. but all way i tried for us to come back all went in vain. i was confused and sad because i needed him back into my life, so i decided to contact Dr.Emmauel,i never believe in spell casting i just decide to make an effort and see if something can come out of it. i contacted them and they told me that they needed to cast return back of love to him, they did the spell and after 2 days my ex called that he still love me and wanted us to be together again,what surprise me most was that he was married to another woman, and after the spell casting he divorce the woman for me that same week. it was the spell i cast on him that brought him back again. we later got married again and now the kids are happy that their father is back to their mother again, i really thank this Dr Dr.Emmauel for bringing back my ex husband to me. i want you act there who want back their EX LOVERS to contact Dr Emmauel for his return, do not lose hope you can make this great step as i did then your ex husband will come back to you. and also your ex wife too okay,

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Affinity2010 4 years ago from New Orleans, La Author

I'm happy that you won your ex back. However, I strongly believe that no one should be tricked or have spells cast on them... it sort of goes against the person's will and their true feelings for you will always be hidden in their hearts. Sometimes things can backfire on us especially when it isn't a gift from God. Let his will be done not ours and it will be a match made in Heaven when it comes to finding a soulmate. I'm still happy you have what you wanted." I'll pray for the best for you."


Nicki minaje 4 years ago

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I had to write to you even though I am now at work…a beautiful vase of red roses was just delivered to my office….from the man of my dreams…the man I contacted you about…and through your magic, he returned to me….all differences worked out, no more mistrust, no more lies…because Dr.dodogods realizes we are spiritual Beings first, you can contact and help our spirits and those we love….my red roses are proof of that! Thank you. he can still do it for you contact him now email dodogodssolution@yahoo.com posted by miss Nicki minaje


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Affinity2010 4 years ago from New Orleans, La Author

I am not into black magic or anything.... I believe in the Blood of Jesus Christ, prayer and faith. I believe it is the Lord's plan for us and if it doesn't work out with one man it will work out with the man God has in store for me. Not the man I want because it will not be good enough. God has the man for me and I will never force a person in my life against their will... that isn't love that is manipulation and withccraft.

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