It Hard To Believe That There Are SOME Men Who Still Believe That They Are SUPERIOR To Women
Yes, Virginia Dear, SUCH Men STILL Exist!
In this postmodern, computerized, and postindustrial era, there is more equality between men and women than ever before. Strict gender dichotomies are almost becoming a thing of the past. Women have high powered careers and are in charge of their lives socioeconomically, intellectually, and sexually. They can take care of themselves well, thank you very much. They also are no longer defined as to what relationship they are in but who they actually are as people.
More and more men are in caretaking roles. They do not see it unusual to be either house mates and/or stay at fathers, caring for their children. Even if a couple is working, the male, more than ever, is stepping up to the plate and assuming household and caretaking responsibilities and not leaving those responsibilities solely to the female.
Men and women realize that each gender is necessary to complete the whole so to speak. Smart and intelligent men have come to the realization that women are equal to them. They are different in ways from their fathers, grandfathers, and great grandfathers. Strict gender roles are becoming more blurred and are disappearing.
Thank God for this. Men are evidently becoming healthier and more mature regarding their gender roles. It is nothing for men in this postmodern era to show their vulnerabilities. They do not have to feel "on" all the time. This showing of vulnerabilities is psychologically healthy for men. They are truer to themselves and no longer feel that they have to exhibit a false bravado in order to be considered masculine.
Men who repress their more vulnerable side in the name of masculinity often suffer ill efforts emotionally, physically, and psychologically. Oftentimes, men who adhere to the dictum that boys and men do not show their so-called softer side displaced this emotion in often more destructive ways. This lead to some men exaggerating their masculine bravado.
However, in this postmodern era, there are men who believe in masculine privilege. They believe that masculine privilege is preordained from time immemorial. They refuse to understand the context of equal gender parity.
These men portend that being men is the ultimate be and end all. As men, they contend that they should have unmitigated gender privilege to dominate women whom they deem as the inferior and weaker gender. These men prefer that gender roles should become more dichotomized as it was in past eras.
These men are increasingly threatened by the prospect of female gender equality and prerogative in terms of socioeconomic and sexual parity. Such men take umbrage at this because their masculine role as protector and dominator is now quite uncertain. They prefer women in more submissive socioeconomic and sexual roles because such women can be more easily controlled and dominated. Clearly, these men are extremely uncomfortable regarding these ever evolving gender roles.
Welcome to future shock. These men are living and acting as if they are in a bygone era when male ruled women and considered them to be "lesser men" so to speak. They are clearly uncomfortable with the new assertive woman who are now on an equal gender parity with them. Oh no, this equal gender parity is clearly too much for these men to bear. The thought of this makes them go completely limp in more ways than one.
It completely unnerve such men that women really do not need them in order to feel like complete human beings. Women are now independent of men. If they want men, it will be in the role of women who can give as well as take, not the little girl who constantly needs to be rescued and taken care of.
Many men are totally nonplussed at the prospect that they are no longer needed to support women. They are also quite perplexed as to their masculine role at this point. They wonder what are they to do. It is quite apparent that they do not want to judge. No, this is not it at all! They are quite afraid-very, very, very afraid indeed!
What are they afraid of you wonder? These men are so comfortable in their extreme masculine roles that they refuse to consider that women are equal partners and confidants in their relationship. They portend that as men, that they should be the head and CEO in their relationships. They contend that this is and will always be a given. They assert that any change in the male-female relationship to equal parity is unnatural and a mortal transgression.
Such men want to rule their relationships. They assert that as men, they know more than any female. They further believe that they are mightier because of their so-called physical strength. In their purview, might equals power and therefore equals right. They are clearly undemocratic and authoritarian to say the least.
Gender parity equality is a four letter word to such men. They have an quite infantile obsession to rule those who they deem to be inferior, especially women and children. According to them, women and children are lesser people than they are. They further portend that women and children are not as proficient thinkers and valuable people as they are. Their assertion is that they know therefore they should rule.
Such men believe that power is the main important component in any relationship. To them, power is akin to a drug. Power gives these men a visceral high and rush. Power is emotional and psychological adrenalin to such men. Nothing gives these men more pleasure than to subdue and totally dominate the women in their lives.
In fact, these men are drawn to women who exhibit extreme acquiescence. Such women are more submissive and diffident than the modern, self-assured women. The former women have little or no sense of self. They believe that they are totally nonentities. Remember the adage that others treat us the way we let them. Well, because some women have little or no sense of self, they often attract men who are quite dominant and forceful to say the least. Such men are drawn to the less self confident women the way vampires are attracted to blood. These men actually sense and smell her vulnerability, going for the kill metaphorically.
Subconsciously, such men are immature and insecure. They need to be dominant over women to assuage their low sense of self-esteem. They must make others inferior in order to build up their uncertain male ego. These are the men who become quite unhinged if their female partner elect to evolve into a stronger, more assertive women. This idea on the part of the female partner is viewed as a disturbance to his male status quo. This man does not wish for a woman who is on equal parity with him. He wants a woman who he can utterly dominate.
Because these men view male dominance is a de rigueur part of being a male, he will use any means necessary to subdue a women, even if it is physical abuse. He actually believes that it is his male prerogative to abuse women. A subset of such men portend that women "need to be put in their 'respective' places" now and then. This is the man who contends that it is the woman's fault if she is abused for she brought it on.
Clearly, this is not the type of men that any right-thinking, progressive, evolved, and intelligent person would associate with. These men are actually insecure because they incessantly need to denigrate others who they deem weaker in order to elevate their shaky egos. They are also quite uncomfortable with anyone, particularly women who are self-assured and accomplished. Such men clearly cannot and/or refuse to adopt to postmodern gender roles. A lesson from our science class in evolution teaches us what happens when a species fails to constantly adapt and evolve to a newer ecosystem- that species becomes extinct. Well, let us apply this lesson to this human counterpart, this atavistic man will hopefully become extinct as he will never adopt to the postmodern era of equal gender parity.
In summation, gender roles are becoming more equal with men and women interchanging roles which were once traditionally male or female. Strict dichotomized gender roles are viewed as relics of an earlier era. Men are becoming more vulnerability while women are becoming stronger. The postmodern man and woman are simply not into strict gender roles. To the postmodern man, the idea of male superiority and female inferiority is quite ludicrously laughable to say the least.
However, there are some men around who believe that because they are men, they have the right to assert their male privilege and contend on the basis of that privilege alone, they are indeed superior to women. To these men, such power is preordained and is natural law. They do not realize that they are quite insecure and actually they are fearful little boys underneath that masculine facade. They are quite out of place in the 21st century!
© 2012 Grace Marguerite Williams
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