Questions A Man Must Answer For Himself

1) Who Am I

One of the very elementary things we so easily forget about ourselves is that above all we are humans and we live on planet earth. This fact is easily and often taken for granted because life is so busy. Other than choosing to check out early or temporarily flying to the moon, should one be so inclined, we are bound here on planet earth, inextricably connected in one form or fashion to every other creature, including other earthlings.

Our ego's would love for us to separate from the other forms so as to distinguish itself, somehow making it and us unique, you know, special, somehow built differently. We begin to identify only with those of similar interests and all too soon we forget we are a diverse population of the same basic form that unites us more than any other trait. We are still human. Sorry folks, we can delude ourselves all we want, but until proven otherwise, we're just humans tied to mother earth physically and energetically. I ask that you dwell on this fact and see how it influences your ego: Before you can call yourself anything else, before you can identify with other traits, characteristics or elements, you must not forget you are first a human being . You are not first man or woman, genetically pigmented into a certain culture, not divided by a language or socioeconomic habitat, you are, I am, we are Homo Sapiens. Again, let that sink in and then feel free to share it with everyone you know.

My point is; we are here together, like it or not, and we therefore have an obligation to each other to preserve this place we all call home. We may differ on how we believe we should execute that obligation and that's what we have to work out. Make no mistake though, we must, at some point, find out how to live together in peace and harmony if we expect to inhabit this place long term. So, can we dispense with the murder and mayhem, armed conflicts of global proportions and the philosophical and political phobias that all too soon tend to separate us from our most important mission...that of human being , living...in peace.

Before this becomes a global solution it must first be answered by each man about and within himself. A man must ask himself "Who am I" because once I begin to say I Am... , I begin to define and identify myself in that way. Sounds like a great time to look into a mirror and take a good, long, hard look into our soul, the place where some say our humanity meets our creative life force or God. Also, once I say this is what I Am , this is what I believe, my actions spring forth based on those beliefs. Then the only thing left is the consequence and the whole process, in my humble opinion, all of that which makes me what I am, beyond my childhood conditioning, is my choice!

I believe a man must ask this question often and he must also answer it for himself, adopting only his own belief upon which he will act. That is his character and it belongs to him even in the darkness and silence of solitude. This is where he meets and lives with himself. If he can do that, a man can live with anyone else in peace.

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2) What will my epitaph say about my life?

No one is guaranteed tomorrow, or even later on today for that matter. That being said, why not live now as if there is nothing more? If the series of moments that we call now are lived without remorse, but invested and enjoyed to the fullest; if they are a progressive series of choices through which we learn about ourselves and ultimately lead to fulfillment, then the epitaph can say anything you choose.

The question then becomes what do I choose my epitaph to say? For me, I continually ask not what have I accomplished, but what remains for me to do now while I still live and how do I achieve it so effortlessly that no one knows it's work for me?

The answer for me is in the photo above. The answer is analogous to jumping off a cliff into the murky water below, all the while trusting my fellow man (or woman) to let me know if the water is too shallow or not! It doesn't matter how much safety equipment one possesses if there is no trust or the fear of jumping is too great. The answer is: ask questions, seek trust, then JUMP, or in the words of the famous Nike brand "Just Do It'."

My epitaph will read what and how have I lived. There are three points to this life and I have control over very little and everything at the same time. Though some would say we choose to come into this life, I am not sure. So there is birth, over which I can only accept the outcome. Though some would say there is life after death, I am not sure, so I can only accept the outcome. However, there is a full, full, victorious life in between of which I am certain and I know I have control over one element and that is what I think. What I choose and what I accept are enough for me because I know who I am and what I want out of life.

I get to choose how I view life, in spite of any circumstance. I get to choose how I behave because I can choose what I believe, which is what my actions are based upon. Nothing is forced upon me. I get to choose whether or not I will accept responsibility for my actions and I get to choose if I want to build a life that matters or just accept whatever circumstances the world throws at me. In other words, I get to choose how I want to live in between the unknowns of birth and death. To me, when I understand the many alternatives and when I am certain I make the choice, I know I am free and if I am free I can certainly write the epitaph of my dreams which is to help another human being live a life of joy by showing them they too, can choose who they are and what they are to do here on this planet.

In her "Rules of Life: Ten Rules For Being Human, Author Cherie Carter-Scott said, "There are no mistakes, only lessons!" Happy learning my friends.

Peace be with you always!

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This is a Hub of Life! The Comments you leave should speak about how you are living it! And of course, they are welcome! Peace be with you always. 22 comments

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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Born...........Powerful stuff! This is done so beautifully. It's clear to me you have done much seriously deep thinking.

Yes, you know, it is a curiosity for us to consider....what will our epitaph be?...what will it say about our life? Perhaps we should realize that we may want to "change" some things about our self, after we take a really close look....or maybe just improve on who and what we already are. There's always room to improve...right?

I appreciate this hub. It makes us stop and think and really focus on our choices.........I vote this up and useful, awesome & interesting.....and sharing!


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Thanks Paula,

There is enough fluff in the world, isn't there? Yes, I do think quite seriously about my contribution to my community and because I wasn't always so conscious in my younger years perhaps I'm trying to make up for lost time. Or...perhaps I'm trying to encourage others to begin where they are because I know whenever a person begins to know who they are and believe in themselves, fireworks happen!!

Who doesn't like a great celebration? Imagine what 6 or 7 billion fireworks displays might look like in the hollers of the world?

I so appreciate your support and coming from someone whom I believe to be real and one heck of a writer...I say Thanks

Sincerely,

Bruce


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

Men with integrity seem to be a dying breed these days. It is good that not all are like this. This is an excellent hub with a great message for men.. and women!


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Mighty Mom 4 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

You really got me thinking here -- and I'm not even a man (LOL). Really good reminder that we are all connected and whatever we do and make of ourselves here during our time on earth is how we will be remembered.

Loved the poll (wasn't expecting that!) and the quote. Not long ago I would not have agreed with the "there are no mistakes" outlook. I believe it now, though!

Thanks for the spirtual nudge.

Peace and blessings, MM


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Great, awesome write. Come to think of it most of it live for tommorrow.

And does tommorrow ever come. NO. We need to be introspective of ourselves and you give very valid reasons for it. Really enjoyed reading this usefu lhub.

Voted up, useful & interesting.


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Mellonyy 4 years ago

Great hub! Yes, we make our choices and live according to them, but sometimes we have to accept coming circumstances, because it's the only choice we have.


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Perry the Cat 4 years ago from Mouskin, Texas

Well, I'm not a man, but my two questions today are: Am I doing what I should be with my life? And should I start licking my tail at the base or the tip?


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hi Tammy!

I'm not sure we're a dying breed, perhaps sleeping with a side of snoring would be more apropos. Cutting the corners is so prevalent today that it is almost taught in the guise of productive. But as we know that doesn't work when we are looking ourselves in the mirror. I'm no angel, just a guy who thinks now is the time to begin to make it right...at least with ourselves!

Let me take this opportunity to say thank you for all you have done for out hubpages community. You are a stalwart here and I am very grateful for all you do in sharing the work of those who are trying to express themselves! Keep it up and BTW, The new profile photo is the bomb!

Bruce


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hey Mighty Mom!

Thank you for reading and commenting. I didn't agree with me either until I experienced the compassionate wisdom of self love. It changed me and I think we need more of that. It helps us with non-judgment and non-attachment.

The response to the poll surprised me too! It does confirm my thoughts that Hubbers are really conscious people and that makes me smile.

Thank you thinking, even for a moment, about this hub and thanks again for your considerate comments!

Peace be with you,

Bruce


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hi rajan jolly,

Thank you for coming halfway around the world to read my hub. I am fascinated that the communications of today permits us share each others culture, in a way. Yet, I can see we are really not that far apart. May I say how grateful I am that you speak and write in English. You have my respect for taking on the challenge of learning the language.

It is my privilege to share the same earth with you and I hope one day that we all will share it in peace, no matter the culture.

Let it be know that at least two men, you and I, are standing on the bridge of thought with the idea that the first step is sharing a common goal...even if that goal is writing. Who knows what the next step will be?

Peace be with you my friend,

Bruce


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hello Mellonyy,

Thank for the read and the comment. My gratitude to you for recognizing the value of acceptance. Though I would agree that acceptance is the logical choice, many choose to resist accepting their circumstances and seeing them for what they really are ie, a condition which exists today rife with the opportunity for a new way of seeing ourselves now!

I am thankful for your time,

Bruce


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Great questions Perry the Cat!

After a bit of analysis, I would say start licking the tail at the most convenient place now and observe the results for future consideration, but by all means get started. How else will you get to know if tail licking is right for you.

Gosh, I hope that was an appropriate response in exchange for your gracious comments!

Peace be with you!

Bruce


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hey ElSeductor,

Thanks R, for you encouraging comments. You had a very wise uncle.

You are so right! Live is for the living and we live and learn. You obviously found that out already! Keep it up. I/we need the positive energy!

Please come again!

Bruce


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Perry the Cat 4 years ago from Mouskin, Texas

Great guidance, Bruce. My tail thanks you and I thank you.


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Happyboomernurse 4 years ago from South Carolina

You have asked some important questions that are important to ponder.

To me, the power of choice is vital to freedom and the development of our individual character and I agree with what you said here: "I get to choose how I view life, in spite of any circumstance. I get to choose how I behave because I can choose what I believe, which is what my actions are based upon and I get to choose if I want to build a life that matters or just accept whatever circumstances the world throws at me."

Voted up, useful and interesting.


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hi Happyboomernurse and Thank You!

It's not about right and wrong is it? It's about self knowledge and empowerment. I coach this into my clients as an elemental function of joy because it's way too easy to forget. When we recognize we actually have a choice (always) and know the consequences (or possibilities) we empower ourselves towards happiness.

Don't ya just love the sound of that? Me too!

Thanks for your continued readership and support!

Sincerely,

Bruce


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ginjill ashberry 4 years ago

Hey there, Born2care.

I'm glad to read this hub of yours. I am trying to publish my books at the moment and one of it is on the subject of Identity. The 'who am I?' is a question I often ask myself as I was growing. Thank God, the insecurities, inferiority that follows me in the past does not haunt my thoughts any longer. It is ironic that we are stranger to ourselves yet we hold on to our perceived intrinsic worth; which we are unable to give to self. I know I will enjoy reading more of your hubs.

Thank you Born2care2001 and God be with you.

Warm Regards;

GJAB


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Thank you ginjull!

God speed be with you in the publishing of your work. I so look forward to reading what comes from your life lessons.

Each of us has something very valuable to offer yet so often we hold it back for fear that the outside world will not appreciate it. Well, in my opinion that is actually our ego's way of preserving itself and telling us we're not worthy until we do this or that.

I came to Hubpages and I'm on my personal journey to rise above that fear and I am so grateful that you and other hubbers have joined me here.

Thanks for the read and the comment and I will stay in touch and look forward to reading you here and on the bookshelves!

Sincerely,

Bruce


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EuroNinila 4 years ago from NYC BABY

Great hub! Life must be lived for the moment, we all are too busy worrying about the future that we forget to live in the moment! Thanks for writing this, it's awesome! :)


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Thank you EuroNinila!

You're right...way to busy. The crazy part is that if we know who we are and what we want no matter how busy we get it seems like play and we get so much more done in much less time, leaving more time to be conscious or real life!

Thank you for reading and commenting. I am very grateful!


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John-Rose 4 years ago from USA

Bruce,

That was a deep hub. This was the first hub of yours that I have read and I look forward to reading the others. I don't even know what to write here. Wonderful...what else can I say.

John


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Thank you John-Rose!

I appreciate the time you invested in reading it! If it made you think at all about you, then I was successful.

Come back again and keep on writing!

Bruce

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