Remembering Someone Who Died

Let's talk about remembering someone special..

We all know somebody who was once cherished but is now gone. Or, perhaps, they passed away suddenly. Your friend may have left or moved away and you never saw them again. Maybe it was a good buddy, male or female, or perhaps a potential love interest. Special friends may stay for a while, then leave; some die or disappear into the world, our lives going different directions, nothing changing inside, but everything changing outside.

How many times do you catch yourself wondering what happened? Do you want to find them but can’t gain the courage to make the first step because you’re afraid of what you might find out? Do you hesitate because you feel your special person is, or was, angry at you, or maybe you’re angry at them? Perhaps you left the friendship/relationship on a bad note with negative feelings . Maybe your special friend died and you've never acknowledged your feelings for them.

In Special Memory of Lynda

I miss you Lynda. Here she is in 1976.
I miss you Lynda. Here she is in 1976.
Lynda on her wedding day, 1978. I'm on the far left.
Lynda on her wedding day, 1978. I'm on the far left.

My Old Running Buddies

I had a friend, Lynda, who was my running buddy for years. We shared the birth of our children together, life, loves and sorrow. Our lives went different directions and we didn't see each other very much. Lynda had a disabling disease that took her through many struggles for years. Between us, nothing changed within, though everything changed outside. I felt a wall separated us, but knew in my heart nothing was changed within. We saw each other periodically during the course of her illness. I received a long letter from her. It meant so much....I called her and we had a long talk. Then she died. I thank God we had that talk.

Pat was a male friend of mine for years. He was a true comedian, yet my feelings were never more than friendly. When I got married, it changed everything. I told him once "Dang Pat, now that I'm gettin' married we can't hang out together anymore...!" We still talked to each other a lot, but never in the same sense of comradeship. He died on Christmas Eve, 2006. I never got to tell him how much I appreciated him and never got to tell him goodbye except in my heart.

With These Words, I Dedicate Memories To Those From The Past.

 

Mom and Aunt Kathryn: I miss you both.
Mom and Aunt Kathryn: I miss you both.
Thelma K, Aunt Evelyn, deceased.
Thelma K, Aunt Evelyn, deceased.

This is for that special friend,

Someone I knew before.

The friend I said goodbye to

Or maybe shut the door….

The friend I laughed and cried with

as our lives entwined just right….

The ally in my battles

And the helper in my plight.

I think about the crazy times

We both felt bold and free.

Talking late into the night…

laughing, just you and me.

You had a purpose in my life

To show me several things.

My memory proves your image stayed

Although your leaving stings.

I think about you every day

And wonder where you are

Could you be closer than I think?

My heart tells me you’re far.

So with these words I throw my thoughts

Into a well of love

And wish you all the best in life

And grace from God above.

I hope that wherever your special friend, lover, relative, helper, co-worker, childhood buddy or any other cherished person is today, you will think of them and be comforted. If it's someone who died, I pray you have peace as you think about the happy moments spent, with the thought that for a season in your life you were blessed to be a part in the creation of amazing memories. Remember your special ones with fondness, cherish it and pray for the best. If your paths cross again….wonderful! If not, then what a pleasant memory.

 

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Comments 15 comments

Sarah H 6 years ago

This reminds me of a long lost friend of mine. Makes me wonder where he is now....thanks.


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breakfastpop 6 years ago

What a thoughtful and beautiful piece. Thank you.


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donotfear 6 years ago from The Boondocks Author

Thank you Sarah H. Hope you find comfort in the memory of your friend.

Appreciate you, breakfastpop. Thanks!

I kinda wondered if maybe this hub was too sappy and drippy, but I wrote it from my heart, so it works for me.


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Art 4 Life 6 years ago from in the middle of nowhere....

Hey friend...this isn't sappy or drippy! Good job...I can tell it was from the heart, ... it works for me!

hugssss :)


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donotfear 6 years ago from The Boondocks Author

Thanks Art...I can always count on you to keep me in line!


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sheila b. 6 years ago

How true, we lose track of people and time passes and it seems too much time has passed...


4hope 6 years ago

You have talent and sensibiility - you are a special

Blessings

xx


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donotfear 6 years ago from The Boondocks Author

Sigh...................

How true it is.


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susanlang 6 years ago

Kleenex alert! Ok..Something for you. Every once in awhile I'm blessed with an uplifting touch from a person I never knew. I'm talking about you my friend. We never met, you never touched me..and yet...you did! Annette, thank you. I enjoyed reading this very much.


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donotfear 6 years ago from The Boondocks Author

You're a great friend Susan! Thanks for your encouragement!


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heart4theword 6 years ago from hub

Amazing memories, I was just thinking of a close friend I had for years, I've lost touch with. Like your were sharing, it is sad, we have friends we used to be so close to, and now they seem so far. Loved your poem. Thanks for the pictures too:) Great Hub!


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donotfear 6 years ago from The Boondocks Author

heart4theword: Thanks!! Today my poem made me think about someone very special to my heart that I never really got over. So it's got a purpose, both fondly and .....


sophs 6 years ago

This is beautiful, I really enjoyed this :)


alice 6 years ago

I miss him even he left me 6 years ago


heart2heart 4 years ago

My great grandfather had just passed away about 3 hours ago. So thanks for the memorial.Its realy heartwarming...

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