Living Life As a Purist

Just give me a hotdog with no fixings . . .

and I am one happy camper.
and I am one happy camper.

That's right

call me a purist. No fanfare, glitter or awe. I like what I like and there's no turning back or changing me from this life that I love.

A purist. I cannot truly define what a "purist," really means, but I do know that "purist" is not to be confused with the overly-religious group, "puritans," who once had a foot-hold in our early beginnings.

I can tell you that living life as a purist does have its pitfalls, snags, and controversies. Of which none are self-designed. It just happens to you if you choose to be a purist.

Mainly, a purist such as myself, doesn't require to be "in the spotlight," in order to say that I am really living. In factual terms, the less spotlight on me the better. Let someone else dance and sing their life away for the amusement of others. I respect that choice.

A purist. Glad to be a purist. Love to be called a purist and will probably leave this life as a purist.

Does being a purist mean that all of my thoughts, words, and heart's desires are pure? What do you think? I, like all of mankind, are sinners in God's eyes and being a purist has an accompanying segment called "self-evaluation," that comes into play most every week. Am I higher up on the food chain than others? Again,what do you think? I live and breathe and make my share of mistakes each day that comes. Nowhere in this piece will you find me insinuating that being a purist is ever an easy job.

Being a purist requires someone who is ready to make a stand. Not really against anyone or any cause, but for themselves. And their own brand of happiness. Don't kid yourself. There is a lot of happiness (although sometimes quiet in tone) that goes with being a purist.

I like what I like. No parades, snapshots, pats on the back or muscular handshakes. Just a personal accomplishment that says, "I take life as it is and will not ask for any trimmings," for I personally do not require them.

Please allow me to share with you, some very-sensitive items that I have compiled from my own "Purist List of Likes and Dislikes," and hope that you understand that I am not being a snob, but if anything, a "lone wolf," in my stance as a purist.

LIVING LIFE AS A PURIST MEANS . . .

  1. I take my hot dogs by themselves staight from the grill and onto a fresh bun. No mustard, relish or catsup for me. Strange? You bet it is. But that is what makes me, and those like me, a purist.
  2. I like my coffee black as coal. In restaurants I tell my waiters and waitresses, "please, no cream, sugar or lo-cal sugar knock-off's. Just bring me lots of black coffee." Do they stare at me with a puzzled-look? Sure, but us purists are up-front. To-the-point.
  3. If a friend or stranger asks a favor of me, I strive to always reply, "yes, no problem. I will do that for you," and not speak the overly-used, "you got it," because I have heard this term so much that it makes my stomach tie-up in knots. What does saying "you got it" do for people who say this outdated term from the 80's, make them cooler? Wiser? More popular? I don't know. But I refuse to use it anymore.
  4. That also applies to the terms . . ."man," "cool," "check it," "look," "dog," "down with so and so," and "word." Need I explain?
  5. I wear only clothes, (although sometimes out of style), that are only comfortable on my back. I do not spend money on glitzy, fritzy, frills on the sleeves and unwanted messages on tee-shirts. Am I considered "plain"? Of course, but do I care? Nope.
  6. I do not require my television to cost more than my house. Or be of high-definition. If my two eyes can see whom is talking in a show, I am happy. If the picture is clear, great. So have I lost friends due to my television not being a high-definition set? I don't really know. If I have, that's fine by me. I never forced them to watch television at my home in the first place.
  7. My food doesn't have to be perfect in looks, texture or even taste. If the food is not unhealthy, bring it on. I couldn't care less how "ragged" my wife's German chocolate cake looks. It's delicious and that's all I really care about. Purists, as you have already discovered, are not that picky. Or choosy.
  8. Speaking of being picky and choosy. My friends do not have to be purists. They are required though, to be themselves. No two-faced, secret-agenda's, manipulative, under-handed behavior around me or to my back. My friends must accept me for what I am. A purist. And I in turn, accept them for what and whom they are. I think this is fair.
  9. I do not have to be defined by the music I listen to. I still enjoy the classic, early-releases by the Beatles, Led Zeppelin, and Jimi Hendrix. So if you are into the techo-sound of 2012, club music to be exact, and are tempted to say, "Ken, you are soooooooooo out-of-touch," don't. I know already that I'm out of touch. I love that about being a purist.
  10. And when using the word '"so," I will always refuse, even in a mild tone of anger, to purposely-extend the "O" making the word sound like, "sooooooooooooooooooooo." Hey, I get it. So out of touch. So old-fashioned. And I even used one "O" on the word "so."

To "cover my bases," I said earlier that being a purist had its share of pitfalls, snags and controversies, and I am going to talk about a few of those at this point.

A purist's life is not always happy. No, it can be down-right lonely. When all those around you are being lulled and sucked into whatever shiny fad or phrase is current in "Coolville," you are stuck in a solitary place with your own choices you have made to be a purist. It does take self-discipline. And work. But the benefits are outstanding.

Sometimes as a purist your opinion, when stated in a civil manner, is not readily-accepted or appreciated by the "crowd-pleasers," surrounding you. For instance. A person asks you and those near you, "do you favor gun control?" Suddenly the air is filled with loud "no's," and "are you serious?" Then you reply, "yes. Very much. Because it can save innocent lives." Then the cold-shouldering begins. The shunning. The glaring at you. The making you feel less of a person for not sharing their opinion. It hurts. Sometimes deeply. But you can cut it. If you want to eventually gain the respect of these same people when given time to think about why you answered in such a way. I've seen this work.

A FEW FAMOUS PURISTS . . .

Harry Chaplin, humanitarian, famous for "Cat's In The Cradle," and "Taxi."



Mahatma Gandhi, the "father of passive resistance.



Vincent van Gogh, master painter.





Woody Guthrie, (Arlo's dad), a self-made songwriter and American icon.



Amelia Earhart, famous female aviator.



Marlon Brando, actor who actively-supported the plight of American Indians.



George C. Scott, actor, who refused an Oscar due to his personal political views.



Charlie Chaplin, actor, comic genius responsible for some of today's creative use of the movie camera when filming scenes to a movie.



to name only a few men and women who were the purists of their own era and had their own minds. I have to respect these, and the many more of our lives who are "purists."

My final question would be, "do you find that his hub fits my description of a purist - - -no frills, spills, chills, bells and whistles?"

If so, "thank you." If not, I respect that.




Black coffee, no cream, sugar or spoon . . .

and I will smile all the way to the moon.
and I will smile all the way to the moon.

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Starmom41 4 years ago

Great hub! and I'm exactly the same way on all of it except the classic rock!!


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Great hub Ken and I can totally agree with you especially on the classic rock part, you named all my favorites there. Voted up and shared too.


Debra Emerson 4 years ago

In some ways I am exactly the same, but in others ways no.


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jellygator 4 years ago from USA

Sign me up.


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Curiad 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

Interesting, and well written, I have some of those traits I think.


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bac2basics 4 years ago from Spain

Hi Ken.

Can´t take my coffee without milk and sugar, but I do support what you are saying. I think those of us ( me included) who are of a certain age and were brought up when money was tight and trends didn´t really exist, or if they did weren´t that important, are all purists to an extent. It´s only today's consumerist society that wants the whole shebang whether they can afford it or not. I know the likes of you and I are considered " Old fashioned" by many, but do I give a damn..do I heck ( Yorkshire for -no I don´t !) Great Hub once again Ken...Thanks, Anne.


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GoForTheJuggler 4 years ago from Texas

In some things I consider myself a purist, and some I'm not so sure anymore - great read that got me thinking!


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catgypsy 4 years ago from the South

I have to say that I'm somewhat of a purist too. But I think it has a lot to do with age...as I'm getting older, I require less and less to make me happy. Maybe it's a case of "growing up?" Great hub, Kenneth!


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Trinity M 4 years ago

Ken you’re my kinda people; home-grown, salt of the earth, regular nice guy who says it like it is! Great hub!


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Starmom,

Thank you sincerely for your kind comment. I respect your views as I do all of my cherished-followers. I "do" like a few of today's alternative Christian music, but as far as the music where I cannot understand the lyrics, I just have to turn the dial. NO reflection on you or your opinon, just the feelings of a sick-in-body 58-year-old guy: ME.

Come back and visit anytime.

KENNETH


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hey, Janine,

your comments are always so perky and nice. I mean that too. Let me take a wild guess here . . .do you talk like you write? I am thinking yes, and I love that. And LOVE your comments. I hope you and yours are having a terrific day. I VALUE you and your friendship, comments and your following.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello there, Debra,

I like that. Honest and clear-to-the-point. That's why you have so many friends simply because you are always Debra no matter where you are.

Kenneth


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Kenneth, that is too funny. I do talk a lot the Italian in me talks with her hands too. Seriously my husband says I probably wouldn't be able to talk if you tied my hands up! But thank you so much for your friendship too. It is extremely valued on this end too!!! Janine


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

LOL, sure thing, Jellygator. Consider yourself signed-up and part of "our" alliance, "Purists Of Hubville." And welcome, by the way.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

@ Janine . . .Oh wow! Italian??? Love it! And Im that way also . . .expressive in my hand gestures . . .small hub world, eh? Thanks for YOUR valued-friendship as well.

KENNETH


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Very small hub world indeed, lol!! Seriously love that I am not alone in being expressive. Also value our friendship too!! Janine


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Greetings, Curiad,

that is good to know that you might possess a few of these traits. FYI: If you do possess these, or some of them, be proud and live life to the fullest without any regrets, frills or unneeded apologies from YOURSELF as to why you live as a purist.

If you need any further advice on purists, just inbox me.

KENNETH


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

@ Janine . . .LOL and you are not wrong. I wish I could express with my hands while I type, but haven't designed a way to do that. Yet. But give me time.

KENNETH


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Amen, girl, back2basics . . .what a great comment you left. You spoke directly to my background of poverty, as society in 1953 through 1962, set the standard for poverty. I was glad of what I had and learned to NOT want more than I needed. Some laughed. Some sneered, but you and I are still here living life, so what does that say about being purists?

KENNETH


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, GoForTheJuggler . . .that's fine. The first step to being a purist is thinking your own thoughts. And soon you will know whether or not you are a purist. One acid test is when you order a steak dinner, if you HAVE to have a baked potato, then you are not a purist. I can eat any cut of steak all day long (I wish!) without the baked potato. Yes, this is a simple evaluation, but it works.

KENNETH


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, Dear Catgypsy :) Ahhh, yes. "Growing up." That has to be considered into the purist lifestyle because it's from a wise lady, YOU. Thanks so much!

KENNETH


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

A Warm Hello, Trinity M,

And a Sincere Thank YOU for your kind, warm comments. I appreciate you're reading this hub and your heartfelt remarks. Please come back anytime you like and visit with me.

I would like that.

And THANKS TO ALL OF MY FOLLOWERS to help to make MY life a bit brighter with YOUR presence in my works.

KENNETH


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bac2basics 4 years ago from Spain

Thank you Kenneth. I have just been through and am still recovering from the shock and aftermath of a really devastating ordeal which I am in the process of writing a hub on. When it´s finally done and published, I am sure you will read it and then you will see exactly what is important in my life...when push really did come to shove and I had only moments to gather together my most precious possessions when an out of control wildfire was heading directly towards my house. I´m sure had the fire burned me out there would have been a ton of stuff I missed, but at least I still had the treasured memories of my wonderful late husband, our photo´s and love letters and his voice telling me how much he loved me on an old tape, they were the first things I put in the back of my old car when the police arrived to evacuate me from my home. Had I lost any of those things, my world really would have collapsed. Purist..I´ll say, some things are just priceless.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear bac2basics, MY DEAR FRIEND, I am so sorry for your dealing with this dilemma that obviously can caused you some grief. I am here for you if you need to talk. I support you in all that you do. And I am also GLAD that you are still here with me. Glad is the best way I can express my feelings now. Purist, you bet. Priceless can describe memories, keepsakes and even YOU . . .that was okay to say, right? That was how I feel.

KENNETH//////////write me if you need me.


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ImKarn23 4 years ago

hmmmm...i must be a purist in that i only wear 5 inch heels?

LOL...i am sooooooo kidding! omg - somebody stop me! now seriously - i am a purist in many areas - and in many others - not so much


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear ImKarn,

I simply love your comments. Hey, nothing wrong withi 5-inch heels. And I admire your honesty. Visit with me anytime. I will save you the best table in my club.

Kenneth


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bac2basics 4 years ago from Spain

Dear kenneth. Thank you so much for your support, I really do appreciate everything I have had from my friends on hub pages, it means such a lot right now. Everything you said was alright..I´m not into this political correctness crap, and like you , I speak from the heart.

Please don´t be worrying about me, I am getting through this bit by bit...there are still the odd jolts, like when I visited what was once a truly beautiful lake just down the road from where I live. I used to walk my dogs there in cooler months and it really was like paradise , now it looks like hell. It was so awful seeing that, and thinking about the helicopter pilot who ditched into the lake whilst dipping for water to save our homes and lost his life I cried for it all. But I am a fighter, and one way or another I will survive this. I really do appreciate your kindness though, so thank you once again. Keep well. Anne


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brittvan22 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Excellent, hub! 2 votes up! I am personally a Gandhi fan! You got me thinking, should I be a purist, dare say?


Starmom41 4 years ago

@Imkarn: I hate shoes, & never wear them unless I'm going someplace where they're required or the weather is bad.


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April Reynolds 4 years ago from Arizona

looks like I'm not the only one who loved this one Kenneth! Good job :)


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Anne,

you are a strong-hearted woman and I admire you courage, but never overlook the fact that "we"all at somtime or the other, need each other to lean on. Sure that sounds old fashioned, but as a purist, do I care about how my truth sounds? No.

Contact me if YOU need my help.

KENNETH


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

brittvan . . .why not? I never said that the purist life was easy. Nor was Ghandi's, but look at what he accomplished. I say, "go for it, britt," and give this a test drive. You might like it.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

at Starmom, I agree with your thinking on shoes. I never wear shoes in the house. Im not in shoes now. If I go out later, flip-flops. Not uppity and frilled shoes. I am not into those. Just comfort.

Your friend, KENNETH


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Dear April,

"Thank you, sincerely, for your sweet comment. I appreciate YOU so much."

KENNETH


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bac2basics 4 years ago from Spain

Dear kenneth. Once again I send you my thanks for caring. I have just published the hub about the fire. leaning on people is something I have gotten better at over the years..with so many hard knocks it´s a case of having to. Keep well my dear, and I will keep in mind your words, and know there is someone else in this world who cares. Anne.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

bac2basics . . .I do. A lot. Care about you, that is. Not just today, but everyday from this moment forward.

Kenneth


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vespawoolf 4 years ago from Peru, South America

I love it! You express yourself well and I enjoy your writing. My husband is a bit like you, and I always say he's genuine and not pretentious. That's a great way to be! Voted up. I'm glad Suzie HQ intoduced us. : )


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Kenneth,

You like hot dogs without the fixings. I like apple pie without ice cream.

Reading your hubs is pure enjoyment for me.

Voted up up and away

Have a good weekend my friend. :)


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, vespawoolf,

Thank you, and Susie HQ, (a great rhyme), for the intro and YOUR kind remarks. I appreciate it so much. Hearing from my followers, who are THE BEST on Hubs, makes my day.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dearest Susan,

You are too kind. Thank you, dear friend. Dear loyal ally, for all of your comments that build me up. I appreciate your comments, and that line about apple pie makes me famished. I wish I had a slice right now.

Thanks for the votes as well. You have a great day, Susan.

KENNETH, "personal friends with many Yellow Cab drivers." Hint, hint.


Sueswan 4 years ago

Dearest Kenneth,

You are a sweetheart my friend. ROFL on the Yellow Cab drivers comment. :)

Have a great day!


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dearest Susan,

Thank you, Dear Friend, for YOUR sweet compliment. You have a great day too, and . . .excuse me, Susan - - -"hi, yeah, doing fine, and you?///okay. Will do., ///Susan that was "Gino," a buddy of "Harry," a Yellow Cab driver in Queens, N.Y., he has heard of you and wanted ME to say "HI" to you for him.

Kennth

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