Looking For Love, Men Who Wear Lingerie? It Might Be Time To Quit Whining
This article might not win a great deal
of friends, and is only aimed at one particular segment of the
lingerie wearing male population. See, there are some men who wear
lingerie, enjoy it for its sensuality and femininity and whatever else
they get out of it. They wear it about the place as they see fit and
they share it (or don't) with loved ones. There are a great deal of
perfectly well adjusted men who wear lingerie and other items of
women's clothing and I feel privileged to call many of them my
Then there are the other men who wear lingerie. The victims. The ones who are so afraid of the world and of their lingerie that instead of handling it in an adult manner, they turn others into monsters. They think that it is the world's fault for not supporting their clothing choices, and whilst I understand, sympathize and agree on many fronts, there are some circumstances in which your choice of attire can and will affect someone personally, and that is in the case of relationships.
If you married a woman after dating her for several years, knowing full well what her expectations and comfort zones were, and then you spring your sissy ways on her one day, or worse, she catches you out, don't demonize her and all other women if she should happen to leave you. You were dishonest to her, you were dishonest to yourself and you created a situation that could only end in disaster.
The same applies if you choose to date women who are looking for hyper masculine men. Not all women are looking for this type of Alpha male, submissive female relationship, but some are, and if she is, then don't waste her time by pretending to be one thing when you know in your heart of hearts that you are not. You will set yourself up for disappointment and you will hurt her. Everyone has a right to be fulfilled in their relationship. You have the right to be accepted and loved for who you are, and you have the right to have your desires met (within reason.) She does as well.
A great deal of men who wear lingerie develop female alter egos. There's nothing wrong with that, but once again, don't get upset because hyper conservative Susie Cheerleader doesn't want to get down with Mandy when she married Mark.
You have a right to wear panties and lingerie and whatever else you like, but you don't have the right to demand that other people like it. There are women, such as myself, that do like it, find one of them, instead of chasing the unattainable women who have no interest in such things.
Here's the important part: it takes all types to make a world, and not all those types get along. You're better served by finding those who will love and support you for who you are than trying to deceive those who never will. The movement of fashion equality is growing, and in time, this may become a total non issue. There truly are so many open minded women out there (and by and large, if a woman really likes you, there is a lot she will allow, including panties.) Don't waste your time on the ice queens, bobble heads and succubi who won't let you be who you are. There really are plenty of fish in the sea.
Oh, and one last caveat, it might not always be the lingerie that's the problem, but it is probably always going to be a convenient excuse. If you're constantly having troubles with women who seemed open to lingerie at first, then back away later on, you might want to take a look at other aspects of the way you behave towards them. Just a hint.
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