Love Marriage Vs Arranged Marriage

typical Indian Marriage
typical Indian Marriage

Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage, which one is better ? This is a question asked by billions of people Still the debate is going on and both have its own advantages and disadvantages. This question is a hot topic which is often discussed in group discussions. .

The merits of Love Marriage

The merits of Love Marriage is that

  • both husband and wife will get enough time to know each other. Both will know the positives and negatives of each other.
  • Their will be a strong bond between them before the marriage itself. 
  • From a simple expression itself one will be able to read others feelings, thoughts, views and desire.

The merits of Arranged Marriage

 On the other hand Arranged Marriage also has its own merits.

  • In this couple will get full support from both the families as they proposed and made this marriage. 
  • There will be a union of two families in arranged marriage so the couple will have only less tension when compared to the Love Marriage.

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The demerits of Love Marriage

The demerits of Love Marriage is that

  • there will not be any support from families so any failure in the relationship between them will lead to insecurity.
  •  Each of them will have lots of tension and emptiness as they lose the support, love and belongingness from their parents and relatives. 

The demerits of arranged Marriage 

The demerits of arranged marriage is that

  • there won’t be a chance to know each other. 
  • The other problem is that they will take time to know each other and so the chemistry will work only after some time. 
  • This may lead to problems in the initial stages and they may behave like strangers as one doesn’t know the other. 
  • The two individuals brought up in two different situations when join together, habits, desires, decisions and practices of one may not be acceptable to the other partner and this may result in problems.

Love Marriage or Arrange Marriage, whatever may be, adjustment is the only solution for the problems in life. So the Big secret of a successful married life is adjusting, caring, understanding and loving each other.

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formerbronxboy 6 years ago from NOT THE BRONX

Lensman, There is no comparison; I would never marry a stranger. You also need to understand what you call a "love marriage" more.


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ALL4JESUS 6 years ago from USA

Marriage should always be about love. The world has changed - arranged marriages are not needed by most societies.


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dianalee 6 years ago

This made me think about the movie The Fiddler on the Roof. Have you seen it? My favorite movie of all time. The husband and wive had an arranged marriage, as was the custom. His daughters wanted to marry for love. So he sings the song to his wife, "Do you love me?" If you have seen the movie you know what I am talking about. If not, you really must see it.


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H P Roychoudhury 6 years ago from Guwahati, India

A marriage is said to be perfect and happy provided there is no divorce. Now from the statistics that we know there is less number of divorces in India than that of US. Both the countries are democratic in nature but in India most of the marriages are held by negotiation while in USA the marriages are completed by direct contact of love. This argument tells in totality negotiation marriage is better for long lasting peace of marriage life.


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LensMan999 6 years ago from Trans-Neptunian region Author

@formerbronxboy -it depends up on your society and culture ,it is different in different places .commonly divorce rate is more in love marriages.

@ALL4JESUS -But still arranged marriage exists !!!!


Krishna Kumar 6 years ago

Parents are experienced and always think best for their children. Without acceptance of parents marriages are insecure and later these type of love marriages are failure. In love both boy and girls are blind they don't know what they are doing is correct or incorrect. They don't care of their future, family, society and respect of their parents. When the fire of love is cool all have done and result is nothing only sufferings and sorrows.


fafas 6 years ago

the better is arranged marriage.arranged marriage successful our life.love marriage is cheat by our life


shahana 6 years ago

love marriage is good,.........


Usman Mughal 6 years ago

In our opinion,love marriage is best because after love marriage we don't see here and there (but who are true lover)& we can do their work with interest.The reason is that our desire have completed.


saqib 5 years ago

its all about sex on the name of love or arrange marriage


srihari 5 years ago

arranged marriage is great.parents choose right decision for our childrens.


Sopna hamsathvani 4 years ago

Marriage must be understanding but not tolerating i am a right?


divya 4 years ago

yes you are absolutely right.....


charanjeet 4 years ago

love marriage is a better because i am choose the boy


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LensMan999 3 years ago from Trans-Neptunian region Author

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