Am I Falling In Love? Symptoms of Being In Love and How To Recognize if You Are Infatuated: Healthy Relationships Tips

It Just Feels Right!

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How Do You Know When You Are In Love?

You just met someone...you think he or she is very good looking and has qualities about them that give you a tingle in your stomach every time you see or think about them. Is this Real Love?

Love can get confused with other emotions and behaviors such as Infatuation and Codependency. True Love is when you want to be with someone because you really desire to be with them, not because you will be lonely without them or you "Need" them to complete you.

Have You Ever Been In Love?

Have You Ever Been In Love for Real?

  • I am not sure
  • Yes! I am in love with my partner!
  • No
  • What is Love?
  • I was in love once...
  • I have been in love several times in my life
  • I was in love with 2 people at the same time!
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Love Can Be Spotty...

There are Different Kinds of Love. We can love our parents and children, our pets, but most people are searching for "True Love". A lifetime to share with someone we are attracted to and compatible with.
There are Different Kinds of Love. We can love our parents and children, our pets, but most people are searching for "True Love". A lifetime to share with someone we are attracted to and compatible with. | Source

Infatuation:

The following definition of Infatuation was taken from Dictionary.com:

  1. to inspire or possess with a foolish or unreasoning passion, as of love.
  2. to affect with folly;make foolish or fatuous.

Is It Really Love?

Am I Really in Love? Are we on the Same Level?
Am I Really in Love? Are we on the Same Level? | Source

What is the Difference between Real Love and Infatuation?

How do you know when you are really in love and are not just infatuated with someone? What is Infatuation?

Infatuation is a relatively normal part of human emotion, but left unchecked, it can be disastrous!

Sometimes when people get so desperate with an infatuation it can control their thoughts and eventually, their behavior. So many young teens that think that they are in love, are really just infatuated with someone.

If infatuation continues to grow bad things can happen. Jealousy is often a side effect of infatuation and people can literally be driven crazy by their infatuation! Some people begin to stalk their subject and when they see this person talking with other people, the jealousy turns into rage.

Rage is dangerous because the chemicals in the enraged persons mind and body shut off their ability to think and act responsibly and appropriately. An infatuated person can spin into a vicious cycle and can eventually lead to aggression, including assault on innocent people, murder or even suicide. If you think this is you, Get Professional Help Immediately!


Have You Ever Been Infatuated With Someone?

Have You Ever Been Infatuated With Someone and Thought You Were in Love?

  • Yes!
  • No!
  • Maybe
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Signs of Codependency: Do You Need Someone to Love?

Codependency is a touchy issue. It can be very rewarding in some circumstances, but overall, codependency can be debilitating and destructive.

An example of a healthy codependent relationship would be that of a parent and a child. Children are codependent until they reach a certain age. They rely on parents for everything: food, shelter, advice, direction, etc. Parents become codependent in the sense that they need to take care of their children and they want them to be healthy and successful.

Once you become an adult, codependency can hurt your self esteem and prevent you from accomplishing life goals as an individual. If you feel like you can't live or do anything without your partner, you may be in a codependent relationship. Here are some things to watch out for:

  • You can't go anywhere without your partner
  • You need to know where your partner is at all times
  • If your partner doesn't answer their phone when you call, you get anxiety and call them every few minutes
  • You feel helpless without them
  • You obsessively think about them all day, every day
  • You monitor their emails and phone calls
  • You get jealous when they talk to other people
  • The relationship becomes Verbally or Physically Violent

There are many other related symptoms of codependency and if you find yourself in one of the positions above, you should reach out to someone like a Mental Health Councilor. They will listen to you and offer you advice. Professional Counseling is very therapeutic for people who suffer from different anxieties.


True Love?

There is no love greater than that of a parent!
There is no love greater than that of a parent! | Source

How To Spot True Love

Are there ways to spot and recognize True Love?

Of course there are! True love is simply wanting to be near someone, sharing experiences to create memories, and not Needing them for anything! Yes, they can be helpful to you (I appreciate that my wife makes me coffee every morning, but I don't Need her to do it; I can make coffee myself!)

True Love is limitless. You often find that although you may be total opposites on something, you can agree to disagree and will support the person regardless of their stance on a particular issue.

When you talk to a couple that is in love and has been married or together for a long time, one of the things you will find as a common denominator is that it is not about agreeing with each other, but it is about respecting and supporting each other, while finding a common meeting place somewhere in the middle.

Many times people say that they found love by chance, not when they are looking for love. Often times when we become desperate to get into a relationship, we tend to settle and the relationship doesn't work out in the long run. If you want to be happy with someone, don't rush into it! Love is not instant and a long-term loving relationship takes time and work!


10 Tips On Finding Love: Things to Consider...

These Tips will help you to recognize True Love:

  1. Don't Look for True Love; It will find you!
  2. Don't Rush It!
  3. Do you argue healthy? Arguments shouldn't escalate into fights!
  4. Do you feel happy when your partner comes to you?
  5. Do you have any doubts that your partner is faithful?
  6. Do you have similar interests that you can share?
  7. Can you take Pictures of this person and share them with your family?
  8. Do they avoid going in Public with you?
  9. Do your friends and family approve of this person?
  10. Do You Think You Are In Love?

You really need to keep your sense of self when getting into a relationship. Just look without looking and you will find what you are looking for. Maintain healthy communication, have fun, set goals together. You'll know when it is true love!


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snowdrops 4 years ago from The Second Star to the Right

Wow, great hub! and i love your pic.so sweet! :)

and yes, you'll just know if its true love..

xoxo,M.


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J.S.Matthew 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

Thanks snowdrops! I agree!

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jellygator 4 years ago from USA

Great hub! The difference between infatuation and love is immense, and I know from experience that infatuation can be disastrous.


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bac2basics 4 years ago from Spain

Hi JS. Great hub, and I love your dog and the caption that goes with him, it made me laugh. There is such a thing as love at first sight too. When I met my future husband I just knew immediately there was something special about this man. The time wasn´t right for us to be together right then, but he came back for me 6 years later.We had 18 great years together until I lost him.


Emer420 4 years ago

Great hub. The video at the end made it almost perfect. Voted up. :)


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J.S.Matthew 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

@jellygator: Hello! I can relate myself. When I was in high school I was infatuated with this girl I was dating and I got very jealous all the time. Ironically, she did end up cheating but I got over her pretty quick after that! Funny how things work out. Thanks for sharing your experience!

JSMatthew~


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J.S.Matthew 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

@bac2basics: Hello there! That photo was of my late dog, Sage. She was beautiful but crazy lol. That is the last picture I have of her because I took it before I had her put down because she was very sick. Anyway, this Hub is about love, so I'll stick to the topic! I agree about love at first sight. I knew my wife less than 2 months when we tied the knot. Neither of us had been legally married before and we are still happy approaching our fourth year this coming October. When I met her, I just knew! I don't generally recommend getting married that quick though, so I suppose I am a little bit of a hypocrite. I am sorry to hear about your loss but I am sure that you have fond memories of your love. He is always with you in spirit and I am sure he is watching over you. I appreciate you sharing your experience. Thanks for stopping by!

JSMatthew~


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J.S.Matthew 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

@Emer420: Thanks! Glad you liked the video too! I appreciate your comment.

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prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

Very inspiring hub. I get new spirit to find my true love and I hope I'll get married soon. Thanks for writing and share with us. Voted up and take care :-)

Prasetio


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J.S.Matthew 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

Hello prasetio30. I am happy that this inspired you and I wish you happiness and joy and a life full of love and peace. I appreciate your vote and comment. It is always nice to see you!

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flashmakeit 4 years ago from usa

You really know a lot about love and that is a blessing. Thank you for submitting this article!!


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J.S.Matthew 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

Hello flashmakeit! You are such a loyal follower! Every Hub I publish you always come by and leave a great comment! I really appreciate you! Thanks again.

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Daughter Of Maat 4 years ago from Rural Central Florida

Great Hub. Being in love is one of those things "you just know." There are no doubts, and you never have to ask "is this real?" At least this is my personal experience. I love just being in the same room with my hubby, although cuddling is much better. :D

I knew from the first minute we spoke (we didn't meet in person until about 6 months later) that he was the one. We just clicked. I wasn't looking, just like you said, he was just dropped in my lap so to speak. He drove 2000 miles to meet me, and took the risk of rejection by packing all his belongings in his van. I remember meeting him for the first time, it was like it was yesterday. And just like you said, we have differing opinions, but that makes the relationship interesting. We discuss our differing opinions in detail so that the other person can understand the opinion fully. I've learned so much just from these conversations alone.

Being in love is unlike any other feeling in the world. It's unmistakeable. Foolproof if you will. :D I highly recommend it! lol


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J.S.Matthew 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

Hello Daughter Of Maat! I appreciate you sharing your experience. I like to cuddle or "spoon" with my wife too. Funny thing is I have been in several long-term relationships but I was never one to cuddle. Me and my wife fit perfectly together and I often wake up to find that we wrap around each other like vines. I always wake up with a smile! If you are not really looking for love, it will find you. If we look too hard, we often get disappointed. At least that is my experience. Very insightful comment! Thank you for stopping by!

JSMatthew~


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TToombs08 4 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

What a great hub! I could have used this before I got married the first time. :) If I would have known then what I know now... Voted up and more and shared. :)


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J.S.Matthew 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

Hello TToombs08! I appreciate your comment, votes and for sharing! I hope this will be your last marriage! Thanks for stopping by!

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TToombs08 4 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

If it plays his cards right, it will be. :) Thank you, J.S.! :)


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J.S.Matthew 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

lol! Thank you for your comment!

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shruti sheshadri 4 years ago from Bangalore, India

A cool hub! a great choice of topic and I love the fact that all your hubs are so interactive and it makes us participate! Great writing.

Glad to meet you :) voted up and shared :)


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J.S.Matthew 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

Hello shruti sheshadri! Thank you for your comment and also for the follow! I appreciate your votes and for sharing!

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Karmallama 3 years ago from St. Paul, minnesota

Very good subject matter. I LOVE love! Thank you for sharing, it was very interesting an informative


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J.S.Matthew 3 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

Thank you Karmallama! I appreciate your kind words.

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rcorcutt 2 years ago from Seattle, Washington

It took me six months to figure out I loved the women I eventually married this past June after being together for 3 years. Love is awesome when you find it. Good luck to everyone out there who is still searching.


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J.S.Matthew 2 years ago from Massachusetts, USA Author

@rcorcutt: That's great! There is no timeline on love; whether you are a teenager or an old person looking to rekindle your love life, Love is there and it is always present. Best of love to you and yours, as well as all those who are searching for love!

JSMatthew~

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