Love That Sees Around Corners
"Wedded bliss" the oxymoron of the year?
Treat her as a queen, and remember she is always right."
Can you remember all (or any) of the advice you heard given by friends and family just before a wedding?
From a groom's standpoint, the advice to "Treat her as a Queen, and remember she is always right" is a 2 for 1 not likely to lead to Wedded Bliss. The first half of that equation is good advice. The second half is nonsensical. No one is "always right" though some people like to think they are.
A better piece of advice would be "Communicate, communicate, communicate."
Neither the groom, nor the bride will always be right, and sometimes they will even both be wrong! What communication does is also a 2 for 1. If the groom and bride of a few or many years share in each final decision, they can both enjoy the thrill of victory or the agony of defeat, but they share equally. There is no blame to go around and stop at him or at her.
If, however, there is no agreement on a particular decision, it means that something is missing; the decision is not yet clear enough.
In those cases don't let impulse take over. Keep communicating, discussing, and thinking toward "a eureka moment" when the mutual decision can be agreed upon. The chances of making the right decision are greatly improved in your mutual favor.
This advice works for almost any future decisions unless one partner is incapacitated. But, if there has been good communication and problem solving in the past, the incapacitated partner can be more confident that the other partner will search for the best decision in light of their past decision making process and come up with a good answer to the new concern.
Love is just around the corner because future problems are just around the corner and out of sight, but a loving couple can foresee some of them, anticipate others, and have a winning strategy for handling anything else that comes their way.
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