Love and Marriage


More and more people are so skeptical when it comes to marriage. It is now at an all time low. There’s young girls having babies between the ages of 14 and 22 and 85% of them never end up marrying the father of their child/children. Those Children are then left either growing up with parents who don’t get along or with only one parent in their life! The few that do stick together, as friends so their children won’t suffer, end up suffering themselves. I hear more and more people saying they don’t want to get married or will never marry. Not to mention that the divorce rate is at its all time high!

Whatever happened to “For better or for worse”? I can understand getting out of a marriage if your spouse cheats or abuses you, but when you do marry someone you should weigh out all options and try to stay together as much as possible before you turn to divorce. The bible tells us all how important marriage is and when we are having children before marriage or not getting married at all, it messes up the way God intended love and relationships to work!

I, myself, won’t have sex before I am married for 3 reasons. One, it is a sin… Two, I don’t want to risk having children at such a young age with no financial stability… and Three, it messes up the “whole” of the relationship between a man and a woman. I am a sinner like everyone else and I have had sex before, but I thank God I know how important it is to wait now. There are so many young girls and boys that don’t even grasp the whole idea of life yet and they are having sex! I couldn’t imagine being a baby having a baby! I strongly encourage young women and men to wait to have sex until you are married! If you don’t have a spiritual way of life, such as being a Christian or believe in marriage, then I encourage you to wait until you are financially, physically and emotionally ready. All it takes is one time having sex, with or without a condom, to get pregnant. Don’t take that chance. If you already have, and say you or your girlfriend is pregnant, don’t turn to abortion, TURN TO GOD! No matter what you believe in, He is not biased and He will help you!

I wrote this to encourage people that are in love to get married, to wait for sex until you are married. Life is as hard as you make it, and if you are willing to go against the word of God, it will not be easy.

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Apostle Jack 6 years ago from Atlanta Ga

Sad but true.I think that if you want to eat you firt have to put something in the pot.


CJ Sledgehammer 4 years ago

Hi, Brittles:

You asked a very good question, "Whatever happened to “For better or for worse”?

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Well, that's simple. It's called no fault divorces. It's called the "starter husband". It's all about getting married for the "for better" part, but not having to stay around for the "or worse" part.

The average American cares more about what other people think than what God says. Since divorce is somewhat fashionable these days, there is no longer a negative social stigma attatched to divorces, so it becomes easy.

Too many people take the Burger King mentality into marriage, where one expects to get "Your way...right away" and if they don't get it, they just leave and seek satisfaction through another source.

Marriage is on its death bed, that's why the homosexuals are surrounding the wagon train. Like death beetles and vultures, they can smell death in the air from miles away. They circle...land...and then begin to gorge themselves on the carnage.

Good job, Brittles, I like what you had to say, except people should wait to have sex until they are properly married. Not being married but feeling one is "sincerely ready", as you say, is still fornication and sinful in God's Holy eyes.

Don't be afraid to take a stand, precious one. Draw the line in the sand and take your stand! When standing on the Rock of Ages, you don't need to compromise nothin!!!

May God wrap His loving arms around you and your boys like a warm blanket - C.J. Sledgehammer


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ii3rittles 4 years ago Author

Thanks C.J. -

I actually wrote this nearly 2 years ago when I was still worried about offending people. After reading it over I did change the last line. I am not worried about offended other people with my beliefs anymore. Jesus was hated, I probably am too! And it does make sense, when marriage was strong, if someone who was gay even came out and said they wanted marriage people would riot- now not many people seem to care. All the kids/young adults watch tv/listen to music that encourages homosexuality. So to them its normal and gay marriage is a good thing.


CJ Sledgehammer 4 years ago

Indeed. You are right, Brittles. I was outside a grocery store about one week ago and two older people were asking people to sign a petition to overturn gay marriage laws in this state.

Out of nowhere this little blue Volkswagon filled with teenaged girls pulled past us, as I was signing the petition, and these young women began flipping off the older married couple while yelling "Go gay marriage, YAHOOOOOO!!!"

About one minute later 3 more women came walking by and starting yelling at us all for promoting "hate". One of the women quipped, "I suppose you want me to hate my brother and 3 of my cousins". The gal next to her snarled, "Maybe the two of you shouldn't be married!", referring to the married older couple.

I turned to the two senior citizens who were collecting signatures and said, "Where does your sign say anything about hating these people?"

Well, it didn't, but that's what the indoctrinated and morally repugnant are brainwashed to believe...if you don't let homosexuals do whatever they want, you are a biggot and a hatemonger. They don't have a leg to stand on, but they know how to name call and throw tantrums.

Best wishes, behave, and be well - C.J. Sledgehammer

P.S. Keep fighting the good fight, Brittles...you are awesome!!!


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ii3rittles 4 years ago Author

Oh my! How... Umm... I can't even think of a word. They were attacking that poor elder couple like they were holding guns saying "Kill the gays!" I'm so sick of homosexuals saying because we don't think their sexual actions are morally right we hate them. PLEASE! What about the people out there who sleep with animals? I bet they think its morally wrong so heck! They must hate them people! I hate to say it, but people who go around doing this (saying its HATE crime) need to grow some new brain cells and wake up. Its moronic. God forgive me, but it is. I don't even go there with people anymore. They don't see anything wrong with them judging others but HOLY COW if we say we believe its not morally right... HATE CRIME! HATE CRIME! Thanks for your comment though. I'm glad you stuck up for them. I'm with ya!


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Hariom Singhal 3 years ago from INDIA (Haryana) SAMPLA

To wait for sex until you are married is very good. You justify it with correct argument.In India to have sex before marriage is not allowed.


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ii3rittles 3 years ago Author

Thanks for your comment Hariom! I wish it wasn't aloud in the US but the way people live their lives over here is with complete lack of concern for anyone but themselves. Its a shame.

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