Love's Attributes #2

TRUTH IS...

The second of Love's attributes I'd like to share is "Honesty".

So often in any relationship there comes those times of disagreement; with that comes the truth of our 'human-ness"...

It is when we disagree with our mate that we find ourselves confronted with the reality that we can't make them see what we feel for them and why, nor can we make them respond to what we do or say to convey this. That leaves us to have to make a choice: do we continue to pressure and press them to accept our viewpoint? or do we realize to do so could only add to the problem as they are doing the exact same thing. If this is the course that we choose, it is a must that we be realistic with ourselves as well as willing to accept the consequences that may result. We must be honest with ourselves...

If you are in fact with the person that gives you the feeling of being the "ONE" for you; then it is YOU that needs to keep that thought ever-present in your mind because in truth you have already conveyed that to them and they know it very well. That is why they feel free to express whatever they feel is a detriment to your relationship that comes from you! You cannot and should not deny them that right as no successful relationship is one-sided...you DO want your relationship to succeed do you not?If so, you need to hear more than YOU because you are not in a relationship with yourself...Truth is...

What is needed is either the ability to be patient and wait on GOD to deal with it which means you have to consult with him in the first place; who better to instruct you than HE who created the institution of marriage? You also need the ability to STOP YOURSELF AND YOUR MOUTH!!! Go somewhere and pray, then ask for the patience as well as the ability and faith in GOD to handle it. The point is that by giving it to GOD you give your relationship a real chance...Truth Is....

The ONLY way that you can trust GOD is to be honest with GOD and that means being honest with and about yourself. ..."I love him/her and really don't want to lose them", "they get on my nerves, or are so rude, unloving, uncaring, insensitive"; whatever you are feeling at that given moment, they are most likely feeling the very same thing about you or something similar. Being honest with yourself often will diffuse the explosive element and allow you to earnestly seek the true "Specialist":.. GOD.

At the same time, it is ok to tell your mate your honest feelings and thoughts as long as they include the positive truth that you don't want to lose the relationship, do it with love, and establish that you both should be able to express without anger where you are at in times of disagreement. You should be able to see and say that if in fact what you are feeling is not exactly correct pr productive to the relationship you are willing to adjust as you are truly seeking answers from GOD who WILL let you know what's right. That is when again humility comes into play because it's very difficult to accept being wrong even when we admit to it!

pride is not only before the fall, it is the cause of it!!!!

so much more can be accomplished in a relationship, be it wiith your romantic iinterest or a family member. love is multi-faceted, but in the end love is love...

TRUTH IS...