A Bond Of Friendship

No Words


As I walk thru life, I have been lucky to make a few very good friends. I have made the aquaintance of many,there are a lot of people that I care about. There are a few that have touched my heart,some shook my soul and some have enriched if not my life at least my mind.

Today I get the news my dearest friend has a lung disease,this one is quite uncommon. What should I say? For I am truly at a loss.

This is a person with whom I have shared the secrets of love, and life,the joy, and pain of living, and the great honor to be called her best friend. What words could I possibly say to someone that holds such a position in my life?

She is looking for me to comfort her, and possibly, to make her laugh as we both have the ability to bring the other to tears. Once we chatted several times a day,then we went in separate directions, and settled into a distant friendship,though the bond was never broken.

Her husband is a bit older, and has had health issues on, and off, for sometime...now the rock of Gibraltar is weakening. We find strength in one another, and truly that is what friends are for. We take the good with the bad. I so wanted to say to her the perfect thing to ease her pain,but my pain is so great for her I cannot find the words that will explain this.

There are times in life when silence is the most profound statement you can make, I took this as one of those moments in time.

Because of the friendship we share I felt words were not what she needed,to feel the bond, and feel the love,respect, and admiration we shall have to the end was what she was really after.Words are just words at times no matter how comforting.The feeling you have when you are in the presence of true friendship,love, and acceptance is sometimes more than one can say. I will surely miss this bond of forty plus years that at times requires no words..


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Ashantina 5 years ago

..and thats'all you can do jorja... to just 'be' and be there for her...


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ketchup101 5 years ago from Philippines

Your hub made my heart cry. Me too, I only treasure and keep few friends, because few are only real.

It's really sad when your best friend is in this situation. Sometimes, you really don't know what to do or even say.

I just want to tell you that always be there for her. And always make her happy. Do things that you enjoy doing together. And make every tick of the clock precious, because every moment counts. Prayers for both of you :)


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jorja kick 5 years ago from southeast georgia Author

Bless your heart...It sounds as if you have been there..It is hard..and I appreciate your comment and your prayers..

jorja


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jorja kick 5 years ago from southeast georgia Author

Ashantina It seems we are once again on the same thought wave..as usual..Thanks for you being there too..

jorja


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JayeWisdom 5 years ago from Deep South, USA

jorja...This is one of the truly heart-rending events that happen to us more and more as we tack on years. I assume from what you wrote (and didn't write) that this may be a terminal illness.

Last year I lost a very dear friend (who was younger than me) to a virulent cancer that took his life so quickly. However, I had the opportunity to say goodbye over the phone and let him know how much he meant to me.

Not everyone gets that chance, and it shouldn't be missed even if one isn't sure the right words will come. If you do miss out on it, you will surely wish later on that you'd talked to your dear friend.

It's most important, I think, to let tell the person that you care and are there. Very few people can find the "perfect" words to say at a time like this, but our friends don't expect us to be perfect...just caring.

If time permits, talking about memories the two of you share can be helpful to someone who may be facing mortality. I feel sure I will want to recall the good times when I am facing the end (if I'm afforded that chance).

I don't pretend to know all (or even a lot) of the answers for this situation. I'm only sure that true friendship endures to the end. Your friend will understand that you, too, are in pain for her. She will only want to know that you care for her. In the end, that's all we can do for any loved one.

JAYE


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jorja kick 5 years ago from southeast georgia Author

Jaye you have a way of saying what is in my heart...even when I cannot..

I know you are right,as you are correct in your assessment of the illness.

thanks for reading and your advice..

jorja


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dallaswriter 4 years ago from North Carolina

Jorja kick,

I have been away for sometime, occasionally when I can get on line or for that matter, borrow my daughters lap top, I try to peak in on everyone quietly.... I am sorry for the sad news about your precious friend!!! I had a very, very dear friend that walked through all of my child hood with me and then died the morning of my birthday. I suppose we were sealed in some way. I know your life has been a tough one and I can only imagine how precious this person is to you. My prayer is one of healing but if that is not Gods will, then it will be one of little pain and suffering. As much as she means to you, I am sure you mean just as much to her. May these past few months and the months ahead be enough to keep you going until you are both together again.... love to you always Strong and Amazing woman!!!


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jorja kick 4 years ago from southeast georgia Author

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers,hopefully when all the pain and sorrow is behind us our bond of friendship will see us thru eternity...where there is no pain and suffering...your kind thoughts just happen to come at a time they were needed most..so thanks ever so much for sharing..

Jorja

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