Marriage And The Garden Hose

(Photo #1)  The new hose.
(Photo #1) The new hose. | Source
(Photo #2)  The kinked hose.
(Photo #2) The kinked hose. | Source
(Photo #3)  The weakened hose.
(Photo #3) The weakened hose. | Source
(Photo #4)  The repaired hose.
(Photo #4) The repaired hose. | Source
(Photo #5)  The joined hoses.
(Photo #5) The joined hoses. | Source

What can we learn from a garden hose?

A garden hose can have a long life, too.
A garden hose can have a long life, too. | Source

Trickle-down Marriage Theory

As you roll up the garden hose for another year, and again when you unroll it for the first waterings of a new season, take a good look at the hose and realize it can teach us about the various stages of marriages.

Obviously a brand new garden hose (Photo #1) is functional in every way, just as new marriages can (and should be) functional, once the initial kinks are straightened out.

Over time, however, the flow of water in the garden hose, can resemble the flow of communication in a marriage. A severe bend (Photo #2) in the garden hose practically shuts off the flow, and when communication in a marriage is disrupted, the easy flows that exist in a fully functional marriage can be reduced to a painful trickle.

Enough of those disruptions can cause a severe weakening of the garden hose (Photo #3), and even cut off the flow of the nourishing water coming from the garden hose. So also, ignoring the repeated disruptions in communication in a marriage can begin to starve a marriage of the mutual understandings needed for a healthy marriage.

Sometimes repair and strengthening is needed to restore the flow of water in a garden hose (Photo #4.) So also, counseling is sometimes needed to show a clearer path forward in a marriage, and restore the good communication which is so essential.

When every effort has been made to fix a damaged garden hose, but the hose is so irreparably damaged that there is absolutely no hope of restoring it to its proper function and service, it could be time to realize what happened to shorten its life, and resolve to be more careful with the next, perhaps better quality choice of garden hose.

With nearly 50% of America's marriages ending at some point in divorce, and many couples deciding to never marry in the first place, what can a garden hose teach us about two people marrying in this day and age?

Marriage is the joining together of two individuals with the intent to establish a working partnership which benefits both parties to the marriage in ways neither could achieve on their own. Joining two good garden hoses together (Photo #5) allows for providing nourishing water to parts of the garden, which neither hose could reach by itself. The more solid the link, the more likely it is that the two joined together will fully deliver what neither could have delivered alone.

Marrying again? Well, if a new garden hose of similar quality is treated the same way a failed garden hose was treated, the chances are high that the new garden hose will fail in the same way.

If the lessons learned from the failure of the first garden hose are taken to heart , and are applied to providing better care for the second garden hose, there is a much greater chance the second garden hose will benefit from the lessons learned.

Remember that the function of the garden hose is to deliver a precious flow of water to areas of the garden where it is needed. The function of communication in a marriage is to deliver the love and understanding, the compromises and devotion, when and where they are most needed...with as few kinks, rough spots worn thin, and repairs needed, as possible.



A good start is just that: a good beginning.

Regardless of where a relationship starts, communication is essential to preserving it, just as a garden hose is essential to getting water from the faucet to the garden areas where it is needed.
Regardless of where a relationship starts, communication is essential to preserving it, just as a garden hose is essential to getting water from the faucet to the garden areas where it is needed. | Source

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poetvix 4 years ago from Gone from Texas but still in the south. Surrounded by God's country.

What a highly useful analogy! Too true.


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Kate Mc Bride 4 years ago from Donegal Ireland

This is a great hub-so many words of wisdom presented like a parable Perspycacious.Thanks for sharing :-)


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

poetvix: Thanks for the encouragement!

Kate Mc Bride: Oh, but wouldn't it be nice if marriages could be as easily repaired as an ailing garden hose. The hose has no choice, but a marriage requires a willingness to be repaired.


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Perspycacious 22 months ago from Today's America and The World Beyond Author

In marriage, just as in garden hoses, choosing the best and making it last avoids a lot of heart aches and provides a lot of enduring satisfaction.

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