Physical and Sexual Compatibility in Marriage.

Sexual compatibility

when considering who to marry,some people think spiritual compatibility is all that matters. This view is not true.Sexual compatibility is also very important because failure in the sexual life will cause trouble in many other areas in the marriage. For example the unhappy wife will complain about other things and an unhappy husband will find many things unsatisfying. He will certainly stress on small faults which he would have otherwise ignored.

Naturally,some people are hot; others are warm and some cold sexually. If a hot woman marries a cold man, the woman will not be satisfied and the man will feel inadequate because of his failure to satisfy her. The same thing happens if the man is hot and the woman is cold. It is clear that different people respond differently to different touches. Some want light touches, others want heavy touches .some want sexual intercourse several times in one night, others want it once a week. Some people reach orgasm very fast and others hardly reach climax.

For those who are lost in sin, experimentation with many people may lead to increased knowledge about the sexual capacities of possible partners.What of those who have decided to say no to premarrital sex?,how will they know if they are sexually compatible?

The answer lies in a closer walk with God. Tell Him you cannot do anything in this area. Ask Him to give you the woman or man who is compatible to you sexually. The next thing you should do is to go ahead and look carefully into the other areas you can do something about and God will take care of the future.

Physical Compatibility.

I strongly recommend that no man should accept any woman he does not consider beautiful to become his wife and no woman should accept a man she does not consider handsome to become her husband.In the Bible we are told that Sarah was so beautiful that even in her old age she was desirable .we are also told that Rebecca “was very fair to look uponGenesis 24:16.Between Leah and Rachel ,the bible says Leah’s eyes were weak ,but Rachel was beautiful and lovely and Jacob loved Rachel Genesis 29:17-18.

Physical looks play a great role in marriage than most people want to admit. Believers must face it. If you do not like her looks, do not marry her because of her good character for some day, you will come face to face with her ugliness. If you do not like short people, do not say yes to a short person. There is someone out there who may consider him totally handsome and you must leave him alone. If you do not like fat people, find out what the girl will look like after she has given birth to two children. By studying the physical size of her mother and elder sisters, you can have an idea of what the girl you intend to marry will look like in the future. If a man refuses this, over time he may find the wife less and less attractive and will spend less and less time with her.

It is also important to investigate whether or not your physical looks are pleasing to the person you are interested in. Ask her to describe the physical appearance of her dream partner. If you do not resemble the person in any real way, do not press her to accept you .she may  accept to become your wife but all her life, she will be looking for  her ideal man.

A man or woman who is careless with his or her physical looks is an indication of a deeper problem. Looks have deeper meaning. In marriage you will confront in the person’s character, that which careless looks warned you of.Generally,beauty  lies in the eyes of the beholder. What Mr John considers beautiful might not be what Peter considers to be beautiful. Be yourself and make your decision based on your convictions.

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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thank you for very good and informative hub on compatibilty and sexuality. Thank you for sharing it. creativeone59


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NZUNG SERAPHINE 6 years ago Author

Thanks for stopping by my site and for the comment.stay blessed creativeone59.


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

This is very practical advice. It is also well written. Thank you for publishing this fine piece.


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Aya Katz 6 years ago from The Ozarks

Nzung, you made a lot of very good points here. So many people seem to think that success in marriage is mostly about hard work. It doesn't have to be so hard, if you don't start out with someone you don't really and truly want.


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NZUNG SERAPHINE 6 years ago Author

Thanks for the comment James.it gives me the courage to move ahead.stay blessed.


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NZUNG SERAPHINE 6 years ago Author

Hi Aya,thanks for stopping at my site .marriage is a good think but we need to know more about it to make it work.Thanks for the comment.stay blessed.


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Philipo 6 years ago from Nigeria

Nice hub. These are really the facts of life. I agree with you totally. Above all, we need to pray consistently for God to give us our friend as our wife.


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NZUNG SERAPHINE 6 years ago Author

yOU ARE VERY RIGHT PHILIPO WE NEED TO PRAY CONSISTENTLY FOR GOD TO GIVE US THE RIGHT PARTNERS IN LIFE.THE WHOLE ISSUE OF MARRIAGE IS COMPLICATED BUT CLOSE TO GOD DECISIONS ARE WELL MADE.THANKS FOR THE COMMENT.


kim 6 years ago

If you do not like fat people, find out what the girl will look like after she has given birth to two children. This statement sounds sexist and ridiculous!!


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NZUNG SERAPHINE 6 years ago Author

Thanks for stopping at my site Kim.experience has shown that some girls grow very fat after giving birth to two or more children.it is important to closely study the girls mother or sisters if they are too fat and if the mother is fat,there are high chances that the girl might also become fat after some years.well this might not be true in every case.All the best in your decision.


Metelda 6 years ago

Your suggestions r really good. As i am now facing problem with my equal height husband not much taller than me but i choose him because of his good character.


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NZUNG SERAPHINE 6 years ago Author

Thanks for the comment Metelda.wishing you success in your marriage


riley ann 6 years ago

I really liked this article with emphasis on God doing the choosing. Pre marital sexual experimentation always has guilt as a by product not to mention dishonoring God and the man and woman. God is the great matchmaker, so ask Him to bring the circumstances together if that is one's desire in life. I imagine, and being single, it is harder to stay married than stay single, although each state has its challenges. The question is what is best for one's soul and to bring one or a couple closer to God. God has to be in it to work.


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NZUNG SERAPHINE 6 years ago Author

hi riley,nice reading from you.thanks for the wonderful comment .hoping to read more from you again.stay blessed.


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crystolite 5 years ago from Houston TX

Yeah,i feel you because you sound so real and i love listening to real people.This is one of the costly and expensive mistakes that most intending couples make which can lead to breaking of homes or infidelity after marriage.


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NZUNG SERAPHINE 5 years ago Author

THanks for the comment crystolite

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